Is this mental illness?

Question

My mom flipped out bcuz my dog slipped out of his collar which was attached to a leash, & decided to sleep on the family room sofa (instead of in his area).My mom hates the dog to be in the house.He doesn't make any messes, and i clean up after him.She started screaming, hitting herself, hitting me, swearing, throwing things, crying hysterically, then accuses me of abusing the dog (by letting him in when it's 98 degrees outside & humidity is very high). Then she accuses me of blackmailing her bcuz the dog's inside.She says the house is filthy, even though i try to keep it meticulously clean everyday, so she doesn't flip out.She blames lots of random things that happen on the dog. She says i abuse the tv, the radio, the dog, the piano...But i did my best to avoid these things so she doesn't get into a fit. I dont know what to do.She's very beligerent at times.She has horrible mood swings.I do my best to not upset her, but it seems if it's not the dog, it's something else.PleaseHelp!

i'm 22. she's been like this my entire life, i've got used to it mostly. She is 57. She acts so odd, she's always been overprotective, my dad is slightly similar to her, but he's usually quiet and distant. The sad part is, my mother IS a doctor. So is my father. It used to be sooo much worse. A real nightmare. But they've gotten a lot better. I was away in school for awhile, and she became very depressed bcuz her mother died. So i came back home, to help her out, be with her, take care of the house. Sometimes i can reason with her. But a lot of the time, she is mean, rude, hypercritical of everything, and just has a fit. She is very resentful of my dad, and might hate him. Although she claims she loves him. But she won't divorce him. I have a sibling, but he's very similar to my mother, and he's out of state. She has been under a lot of stress for awhile from her job;she doesn't have good relationship w/ my brother.I do whatever i can to please her,but it's never enuf

Answer 1

Something very wrong with her.Move out soon.........Get your own life and your own place.....Take the dog with you.....

Answer 2

You don't say how old you are here, so it is difficult to say what you should do. You also don't say if you have a father or anything. That said, it COULD be a mental illness, but only a doctor is qualified to say that. Anyone here is likely guessing. I recommend two things, depending on how old you are. If you are an adult or nearly an adult, you should do everything within your power to get her into the doctor to discuss this. You can't MAKE her go, but if you can get her to, it could make a big difference. If you are too young to handle that, though, then I recommend discussing this with a trusted adult. Do you have a relative who can help? If not, you might try a teacher or a guidance counselor at school. At the very least they can get you some support to help you deal with this. Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi Gene,

Yes it sounds quite serious - is your mother menopausal (50 plus maybe).

I have a dog and cat (I adore them) dog hairs and cat hairs are a part of my life - I use the hoover often and at times I think oh to have a perfect home - and then I wake up and realize that without them my home is not a home (sod the hairs) I would much rather have their love and licks....

It seems as if she is looking for an excuse to moan (a women of 50 plus does that). Why don't you try to reason with her like maybe saying ok mum what can I do to ease your day as I do try to look after my dog responsibility etc. You sound like the perfect daughter and deserve better so try reasoning with her - talk to her ask her what she would like you to do to make her life better - Tell her that you love her and that you would rather she spoke to you rather then hitting you (which is not acceptable) How old are you? No one I mean no one should have the right to hit you - you must stand your ground - even if it means leaving home.

Sometimes you need to talk gently to the person in question (in your case your mum) and let them know how you feel because if you dont then how will they know how much they are upsetting you.

If you feel that you are unable to talk to her do you know of a friend that she is close to that maybe you could talk to and ask them to help.

Answer 4

You need to get help that is obvious. do you have a DAD or older sibling( brother or sister) you could talk to? or your church minister. How old are you that YOU have to keep the house clean, isn't that your mothers job if she doesn't work outside of the home? If you are too young to leave home then you should talk to a school councilor. let them know whats going on. and lastly if there is no person you can turn to then talk to a policemen.

Answer 5

She is definately in need of help whether her husband has been cheating on her or she has a personality disorder or whatever. You could try phoning a hospital and ask to speak to a social worker. They do home visits.
That's what we would do in Australia anyway.
If she hits you call the police. They can have her scheduled.

Answer 6

well how old is she maybe its menopause or pms or mental, but in anycase sit down and talk to her, tell her what you told us, tell her how all this makes you feel, ask her why her behavior is unpredictable, and strange, border line abusive. the dog thing in her mind is this.....here is this hairy slobbering mut in my imaculate house"oh my god!" i know my mom was similar. but how is it abusive to let the dog out in hot weather. dogs are an old breed of animal, what did they do before air conditioning? they roamed the earth and made due thats why they survived. cut the dogs hair so its not long and warm in summer, and let it grow for winter. but keep doing like you are dont give your mom a reason to complain, clean up the hair or poop before she sees it, etc. well, good luck....talk to her!!!

Answer 7

No matter what...she's over reacting. There is a right way to handle things that def do not involve screaming, hitting herself, hitting , swearing, throwing things & crying hysterically.
Pray for her, yourself & the dog.

Answer 8

I think she has another problem. She is probably not sick but she is not happy with something. Maybe love life or something else. She never liked the dog but it is just a reason to get rid of her negative energy caused bu something else she cannot talk to you about.

Answer 9

wow. I didnt know that there was anyone else out there with a mom like this. my mom is EXACTLY the same way. it sounded like you were describing my mom and not yours. my mom does have depression and anxiety, but I'm not sure if it really contributes to this behavior. your mother possibly could have gone thruogh something traumatic in her life to cause her to act this way. I wish I knew more about this, but I only know what I have learned from experience. my mother finally got a reality check when we started DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) because I was self- harming. for osme reson she began to see what she was doing, and she got help for herself. she is definetly not perfect, but I know shes trying. I wish I could go and makethings better for you, but I know I cant. if you would like to talk about ANYTHING at ANYTIME, please feel free to email me. I am always here to talk or give advice. I really hope things turn out for the better. good luck!

Answer 10

I am sorry, but without a complete physical examination to rule out anything physical being wrong, there wouldn't be anyway to tell..

If everything comes back normal from your doctor , then it is time to see a psychiatrist.