Hi, I'm 29 I have two children 5 & 9 (both girls), from a previous marrage, I have been with my new partner for two years now, we love each other very much, get on well, money situations ar'nt great right now (never have been for me), BUT, for such a long time I have wanted another baby, wenever I see a pregnant woman or see a baby or toddler or I even drag my partner down the baby stuff isle in tescos so I can coo and oooh (if you get my drift).
Sometimes though I'm unsure of what I really want as I was going to go to college and further myself, but the clock is ticking and I dont want to leave it too late.
Also my marrage was very bad and we were misstreated by my ex and I'm always scared something bad will happen in this relationship, its as if I'm waiting for it to go wrong. But my partner says he is mine forever and loves me and my kids to pieces, they call him dad and he and his family treat us so kindly.
So basically....Should I go for it??
2007-06-27 01:34:16 · 19 answers · asked by Kerrie-anne 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Sorry I should have mentioned he is desperate for a baby too. Were not married and both arnt bothered bout that bit.
2007-06-27 02:00:59 · update #1
if you and your partner both want a baby go for it,you cant live life waiting for bad things to happen to you. I was in the same position as you bad relationship 2 kids and not trusting anyone not to do the same thing to you, but lifes to short trust your partner and dont punish him for the things your ex did to you. as for college etc a baby isnt the end of life as you know it ,you can do both i did.
good luck, hope it all works out whatever you decide.
2007-06-27 01:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by jacqui 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you married? Personally, I find it to be too dangerous a risk making babies with men who are not committed at least to the institution of marriage. If theyre not willing to make it publicly known that theyre living for you, whats to make them willing to live for what comes from your body. Children are endlessly more needy than women.
How does he feel about the thought of making a child together?
Only you two can decide if you truly want another child. Honestly, I think it sounds like you're in a prime situation to consider more children. Your girls are at an excellent age to enjoy a new sibling, and to be a big help to you and him.
Sit down with your man and talk things over.
2007-06-27 08:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should make a permanant committment with your partner first. Achild really needs both parents and a role model. My sister is 38 and pregnant for the second time. She is doing fine and is expected to deliver a healthy baby. DON'T BE HASTY
2007-06-27 09:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mamaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know many people who would say there is ever a perfect time to have kids. i have 3 and one on the way and the timing has never been ideal. i had just started at college when i fell preg this time but luckily im allowedb to contnue my course online. only you and your partner can decide if the time is right. my previous relationship was a violent one and i was always scared it would happen again its natural mental scarring trying to heal itself good luck for the future though hun xxxx
2007-06-27 08:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by mummy of 5 girls <3 <3 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, that sounds like the most perfect relationship to bring a child into. The money may not be flowing like milk and honey but as long as the love and is. Good luck x
2007-06-27 08:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First I would resolve my insecure feelings about the first marrage falling into the second.
You understand that having children changes things, but your partner loves your kids, and hey, you already know how he feels about raising kids...Does your partner want another child? is the question.
29 is still pretty young, but having kids while your young is the best. When we get older, that's when we want our lives back. Money is important, but never stopped anyone from having kids....so I would say...if you want to put your life on hold one more time, do it now.
2007-06-27 08:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you've discussed this with your partner and you're both happy then why not? Do run it past your other chiilren too and see what they think.
As you know, babies are expensive so please don't leave yourselves short.
I dont think marriage comes into it these days. My brother and his GF have been togther for about 17yrs now, they have a 7yr old son and its like they only met yesterday!
2007-06-27 12:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine Wheel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are still young and have plenty of time for more kids so if you really want to further your education then you should and have another baby later, but if having another baby is more important to you than furthering your education then have a baby. You could do a short college course between now and having baby, or find a course to do at home thru pregnancy and early motherhood.
2007-06-27 08:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by willow 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you both want a baby go for it. i everyone waited until they were 'ready' the only people that would have children would probably be the celebreties that make millions of dollars for every movie they make.
you should know as a result from you first marriage (you left the abuser for the sake of your kids) that true parents do whatever they have to do to make sure their kids are taken care of.
2007-06-27 09:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by pocahontas80_1999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your 2 children are the perfect ages for you to have another and you marriage seems great, we all have money issues, noone is ever "ready" if you know what I mean, so just go for it and have a baby and be happy!! sounds to me like you deserve some true happiness in your life!
2007-06-27 08:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by sweeTie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋