I've only been dating this guy for about 2 or 3 weeks and he smokes pot.
Honestly I don't really care whether he smokes or not, but whenever we're hanging out with friends he always shoves the stuff into my face and tries to get me to smoke with him. He even tells his friends to encourage me.
I can't understand why he should care that I don't smoke when I don't care that he does.
I've already spoken to him about how I don't like it when he tries to get me to smoke with him, but he just replies, "Then join me already."
Should I just drop this relationship while I'm still unattached??
2007-06-27 00:35:22 · 27 answers · asked by Lorraine D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PLEASE drop the loser. Have you ever heard the expression "with friends like that who needs enemies"?
2007-06-27 00:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by Amy K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Judging by what you are saying, the thought of leaving him is already in your mind, and you just want another person - whomever it would be - to agree and tell you to leave.
If you are unhappy and feel that the relationship is not going to progress, then perhaps it would be time for you to move on. While smoking is a good pass-time on occasion, there are far more productive things you can do with your time. I don't think being pressured into killing off a few million of your brain cells would qualify as productive.
2007-06-27 07:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, run, do not walk from this guy. What a jerk. I smoke from time to time but I would NEVER do something like that. I would offer once, and if turned down, would leave it at that. I would not change my lifestyle and would not ask her to change hers. Of course, whether SHE is willing to see someone who smokes is her choice. I would understand if she didn't. I actually stopped for many years but when my wife smoked during chemotherapy, I did too. I enjoy it and am not into the drinking scene.
2007-06-27 07:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by alparkranger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels guilty about his smoking, so he wants everyone around him to do it too...so he's the cool guy. You should not fall to peer pressure. You should never do anything "just because your boyfriend wants you to." If he can't take no for an answer on this topic, what makes you think he will take no for an answer on anything else? I would say that you need to find a guy who is more secure in himself.
2007-06-27 07:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by princess_dnb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Get out. He doesn't care about your well being if he's offering you that stuff, and if he's taking it himself, that means he has some deep emotional issues. If you're not attached, you've got nothing to lose, and trust me, if you turn him in before he's beyond help, you'd be doing him a favor too. People who smoke pot don't get anywhere in life. Legally, most employers won't take them because it's proven to impair the mind. I think you said it best yourself: "drop this relationship while I'm still unattached."
2007-06-27 07:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Dan in Real Life 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would, and I would stay unattached untill I felt I was genuinly ready to go into an exclusive relationship with someone. Untill then dowhatulike....BTW, pot can be fun under the right circumstances.
2007-06-27 07:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by dewhatulike 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lorraine: That the typical result of a group attitude, that not really him, that the group he hangs with. Your attitude towards him is different if you 2 alone or if you 2 with 3 other close friends of yours.
2007-06-27 07:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jesús Ernesto Miguel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a health issue and may go to money issues, so it's important that you know what you're getting into to. Remember that cancer and other harm CAN come from second-hand. If you're okay with all this, and just don't want to be converted to a pot-head, I think that it's time for the ultimatum. Most people don't like this, but it's important. Make sure that he knows you think it's okay for him to smoke, but that you want no part of it. If he agrees, make sure that he sticks to it. If not, then break up. good luck~
2007-06-27 07:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by xdannifenx 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes
2007-06-27 07:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Hansinchina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you, I take the position that a person's lifestyle is their choice. However, not only is he encouraging you to join him in his lifestyle, but far worse, he is completely ignoring your requests for him to leave you "out of it" :) This attitude does not bode well for the future of your relationship. Dump him and find someone who takes you seriously.
2007-06-27 07:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a hot "roach"!
He obviously has no respect for you, and it sure won't get BETTER as time goes on!
Find a guy who will respect your wishes rather than try to push you into doing something illegal that you don't want to do.
2007-06-27 07:39:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋