My Girlfriend hits me should i end the relationship?

Question

hello, i have been going out with my current girlfriend for 2 yrs and just after a year she hit me on new years day, at first i was shocked and couldnt understand what i had done so i decided to leave , after a week i went back and it happened again the process repeated itself , should i take this should i go to the police and why is it ok for girls to hit men but for a man to hit a girl it is severley frowned upon please help me i have knowhere else to turn , kind regards , Frank

ps ; please let it be known i have never retaliated i couldnt bring myself to do it even if i wanted to im not that sort of fellow.

Answer 1

It is a little discussed fact that there are females who are abusers. Your girlfriend sounds like she fits the criteria. The sad thing is that because men are usually embarrassed by having a female abuse them, the incidents go unreported.

It is NOT ok for anyone to hit another person, gender has no bearing on violence.

Please get out of this relationship, no one should be abused.

If you feel it appropriate, by all means press criminal charges. The laws are there to protect everyone, not just females.

There are several groups right here on yahoo that are for the survivors of domestic abuse, please check them out. You will find that you are not alone.

Answer 2

well, the fact that you stuck by her for 2 years even though she hit or abused you after the first year should tell you something. or, you should be asking yourself this, "why did i stay by her for another year after knowing how abusive she can be?"

unless, of course, you explained wrongly.

you can go to the police, but really, to what extent was your injury? was it to the point where you had deep cuts that needed stitches?

reason she hit you in the first place could be because of your mistakes she'd been keeping to herself for too long that when you did that mistake again, she flipped out. a major one. she had a breakdown. talk to her. ask the reason why she did so. communication is the key.

a woman's punches doesn't amount to the same as a man's. a man can punch a woman just once and she can attain a bruised face easily. and no matter how strong a normal woman's punch is, the most you can incur on a single punch is just some stinging pain, no more. she needs to repeatedly hit the same spot for a bump on your head to appear.

that's the difference and one of the reasons why a man would be scrutinized for hitting a woman. because physically, the man overpowers the woman.

tink about it; one backslap of a man's hand on a woman and she'd fall to her butt. a woman's slap on a man's face would probably leave a temporary red mark that would leave soon after.

nevertheless, i hope you can talk to your girlfriend, ask her why she did so, consider her reasons, and decide for yourself if you should or want to end the relationship.

best of luck!

Answer 3

This kind of situation happens so much more than anyone thinks. When is the last time it has happened? If you can prove it happened then by all means tell the police. But the same situation is present when guys hit their girlfriends, it's a very hard thing to prove in most cases unless there is strong physical evidence. That's why domestic violence is a hard thing to prove until it's too late. But please leave your girlfriend, of course end the relationship. You don't deserve to be hurt by anyone you love. If you do love her and can see a future with her, then see a counselor together. Talk to her about it.

Answer 4

Physical violence in a relationship is still just that whether it be against a man or a woman. Your partner is deliberately hurting you physically & has done so on more than one occasion, this sends you a strong message. She sounds like she probably has some serious issues which she needs to resolve, possibly via counselling. Whether you stick around to help her or not is your choice but you certainly shouldn't accept this kind of treatment from a partner. Sit down with her & calmy explain that this treatment is not what you are in a relationship for & if it doesn't stop & she seeks help then you will leave for good, & if it carries on then go. You deserve better. I wish you luck.

Answer 5

There is no excuse for violence in any relationship. It's true, some people think it's not as serious for a female to be aggressive towards a male but this is totally wrong and most normal people know this. It is also illegal but I wouldn't be hanging around to wait for the next beating to go to the police. They will take this matter seriously and maybe this woman will learn that what she's doing is wrong if the law is involved.

Answer 6

Yes you should end the relationship. It is never ok for anyone to hit anyone for any reason, man or woman. I wouldn't take it to the police unless it becomes a major problem but you should try and stay away from her as much as you can. She obviously has some anger issues to deal with and you don't need to subject yourself to that, find someone to treat you like you deserve to be treated.

Answer 7

You need to cut this chick loose. She is obviously an aggressive person who does not have her emotions and temper under control. As with men, this will only get worse. It is not okay for anyone to hit you, man or woman. Most men don't report physical abuse because of embarassment, but it is out there. You are not married to her so get away while you can.

Answer 8

sorry but yes. i was in what started to be an abusive relationship at the end of last year, it was the time that he had his hands around me throat that made me get up and walk out. its not an easy thing to do regardless to if you are a man or a woman but a person like that can't change. just remember you are not the problem and walk out of that door with your head held high. Its not an easy thing but you will recover with time. (honest)

Good luck x

Answer 9

Hey thats awful, dont retaliate, end the relationship, and yes go to the police, its not ok for girls to hit men! if she didnt learn the first time she did it, then she will carry on doing it, dont stand for it.

Answer 10

If she's hurting you like that, she's not worth the time of day. I know it took a lot of courage admitting that, a lot of people never tell when their significant other is hurting them. She's abusive man, and probably has some unresolved issues. I'd tell her she needs to stop, and if she doesn't, delete all her contact information and get away from her. She's got no right to treat you that way.