Should I get my 7 year old daughter high heels?

Question

Lately, she has been asking to wear high heels. I think she has been getting ideas from a teenage girl and her friends who gather up in the apartment upstairs.

I keep telling her that people will make fun of her in school, because she will be the only one wearing them. I am also worried about "unwanted attention". I also said they are VERY uncomfortable, she said she wants,"the very high ones", the high ones are like 5" or 6", etc.

Answer 1

Change your question to 'Should I get my 7 year old daughter raped?'
You will get the same answers.

Answer 2

Are you joking? Why could you think of that's suitable for a three 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous to placed on stilettos? in case you insist on heels you're able to get the chunky type so she's no longer as possibly to fall and get harm.

Answer 3

I don't think high heels are appropriate for a seven year old other than for dressing up at home. Maybe there is something else she would like to have. Let her get something else that is "grown up", but not over the top. Maybe some lip gloss or eyeshadow, new cd, a day out to the movies, something that she will enjoy.

Answer 4

No she should not be wearing 5 or 6 inch heal. Putting aside the whole "appearance" thing.....ewww......high heals are not good for your feet or your legs (grown up or child)

Wearing high heals regularly could shorten the tendons in the back of you calves which will cause problems for her later.

Ask any woman who works in a job where heals are a requirement and they'll tell some of the more long term discomforts that you can get if you don't stretch regularly to counteract the shortening.

Let her wear dressy flats or a small (1 inch ) heal.

Answer 5

I had no idea that heels lead to prostitution and pole dancing. Back to reality, she will NOT be the only one wearing them. Heels, especially on sandals, are common in my children's elementary school. Use common sense and limit it to shoes that the child can still play in. My kids have dress shoes with 2" heels, and my older daughter has 3" sandals because she likes them. Neither child is allowed to run or ride bikes in them, so we keep sneakers in the garage for the kids to change into before playing tag or baseball. It works fine, and my kids are not hookers!

Answer 6

I teach 3rd grade, and it always cracked me up when my students would come in wearing heels. By the end of the day the shoes are in their cubbies. It's so silly! As a woman, I LOVE the look of heels but simply can't handle them anymore. They're bad for your feet, for your back, for everything. They're not at all sensible, and I applaud you for not wanting your daughter to wear them at this early age. Since it's not a major battle, I would compromise with her. Buy her a pair of cute princess heels (I'm sure Toys R Us sells something she'd like) and let her wear them on special occasions. She CAN'T, however, wear them to school. Besides, heels aren't practical in elementary school. There's PE to think about. Her grade WILL suffer if she wears heels on PE days. At my school, we have the kids run around the track on days when they DON'T have PE, so there's really never a day when wearing heels makes sense. :)

Answer 7

If she asked to wear a bustier and garters would you let her? Do not give in! Aside from the safety issue it would be sending her the wrong message about what is age appropriate and encourage her to focus on looks and sexuality way too young. There is a big difference between wearing heels as part of dress-up play and wearing them in real life. I suggest she spend far less time with teenagers and more with kids her own age.

Answer 8

Um, no. Heels are designed to be make a woman more attractive. Your seven year old is neither a woman, nor does she need to be more attractive to men.

It's innappropriate for children, and you're right not to want to buy them. If the mom upstairs doesn't mind sexualizing her children and letting them dress like grown women, that just makes your job as a good parent harder. But I don't think it's a good idea.

That's my two cents anyway.

Answer 9

No, No, No, No. But that is just my opinion.

They will hurt.
They will damage her feet.
She may get laughed at.
She is guaranteed to fall and hurt herself.

You are the parent. It is up to you to protect her from herself. Wearing them at her age will cause her feet to become malformed permanent. If she wanted to have her feet bound like they do in China to keep the girls feet tiny, would you let her. Her feet should be allowed to grow freely. If she damages her feet now there will be no excelling in sports and constant problems for the rest of her life. Is that a gift you want to give her. As a parent, you do what is in her best interest. Would you let her eat all the sugar and candy she wanted and risk her becoming a diabetic before she is a teenager.

Heck, all that assumes she does not trip and brake an ankle or worse.

She is 7. Just say NO. Do what is right not what is popular.

Answer 10

Uhh...no! She could seriously hurt her ankle or foot. If she wants high heals tell her to save her money to buy her own and then when she does buy them make her do lots of chores (like scrubbing the floor on her hands and knees) and other things wearing them. That will change her mind real fast when she realizes they are uncomfortable and she can't even bend down to pick anything up. Good thing she wasted her own money huh!?

Answer 11

Of course not! I completely understand that the next generation is inclined to skip their stages of "childhood" and straight away start acting like like pre-teens. It's the phase when they think acting grown up is "in". A lot of kids go through this but their parents set strict guidelines. I know for instance, that my young cousin who's around 7 is forbidden to gel his hair. Instead, give them some assurance that they will have their freedom later on, but not to miss this chance of a childhood that comes once in a lifetime.

Edit: I did what the previous user indicated and looked up some of your previous questions. You sound pretty unsure about very obvious things. I think a good book on parenting'll help you better.