has anyone experienced this?

Question

is there anyone out there who has been inter religion married. i am a christian and i love a guy who is a bramhin, we have decided not to change our religion, he will remain a bramhin and i will remain as christian, but i am worried as how will my kids grow up, even though we dont bother about religion the society does and i ahve to join them in scholl where all these issues arises, but in my inner heaat i want my kids to be a christian, but i spoke it to him he says we will decide later, but in his inner heart too there is a feeling that kid must be a hindu, i dont want problem arising between us for this reason, can you give me some suggessions as to want is adviceable for me to do..

i dont want comments saying to break the relationship, pls give me a solution.

sorry for the spelling mistakes here and there

they can decide when they are old enought but when they are in the age of 3, we have to join them in school at that time the kid cant decide right, so wat must be done at that stage.

Answer 1

its just a matter of record only na. First plan how many children you want. From your letter it is obvious that there will be more than one. Okey for the first one you have to put one name in the religion column, and for the second you have to put other. But just discuss it with him and open your concern about future probability of negetive consesus ad idem

Answer 2

Look if we go into the technical details then the children will bear the name of the father, but now lets think as a human being, I think u must teach ur would be kids the principles of both the religion and then when the grow older they will themselves have wisdom to decide which way to go.

Now pertaining to the names of kid, its quite simple, now a day there are several names that can go with both "Hindu" as well as "Christian" religion.

So u see its like this, Ur kids well be Hindu (Bramhin) to the outer world, as they will bear the name of the family, and rest is up to u as how to bring them up.

Answer 3

I would say u worry unneccessary about the issue. The school application is just a paper work. Give either yrs or ur spouse's. The best way is to talk it now to avoid crisis in future. If u still cant decide, take ur child to the church and the temple see which ur child likes better and then encourage it. I should say dont break up, Its love that matters and not religion. Religion makes us a better disciplined person but love makes ur life. Good luck

Answer 4

U do not wish that anything including religious belief is imposed on u and u ve shown broad-mindedness in marrying for the sake of love only and crossed all barriers then why do u wish to impose any religion on ur children. U do not know what will happen after 3/4 years. Thinking of society as well as values r changing from time to time. In India the name of father and his religion prevails. Hindu religion does not prohibit anyone in any way. Everyone can go to the temple whether u believe in Hindu religion or not. So far as school is concerned Father's relilgion will prevail as children r not adults. Now u ve to inculcate good qualities of both religions in ur children so that they can make a choice for themselves when they grow as adults. Freedom is their birthright. Actually one should be a good human being and that is how society should be. If u want freedom in ur personal life then allow others freedom too. If christians do not allow non-christians to enter church then it is their problem and they must allow everyone then only they will evolve otherwise they will remain ancient and in minority and ve narrow outlook. It is man's world still ur hindu husband is allowing u to choose ur religion and not forcing u. Celebrate both rituals in ur family as u r marrying for love so both must love and respect each others religion. People with ur bent of mind can remove cast system from society and consequential communal riots. Go ahead, marry ur love and be happy. Love has the strength to surmount all obstacles.

Answer 5

My mother was Roman Catholic and My father was raised evengelical christian. My father is from india so hindu is definatly in my family and so is jeudism. It shows up even today in my family - culturally we show our jewish and hindu and catholic and christians roots in all diffrent ways.

If you love him DONT BREAK UP.

My parents taught me that to be an educated person in anything you must be well informed. If I was in your place I would assimilate hindu and christian practices in your home and when your kids get older let them decide if they would like to be Christian or Hindu - what they feel fulfills their spiritual need.

Dont fret and kudoes for having a cross race/ religion relationship. Your kids will be able to claim a rich history on both sides and be more tolerant of diversity and open minded.

You can give you children an introduction to faith, but lets face it their relationship with god is their own and not really for you to decide. I think you should make sure that they know who they are in both ways and make you home a loving and culturally intresting one.

Answer 6

Dont break the religion,Both u n ur husband must sit and decide,what religion`s values you need to teach your children.Dont worry abt religion.To tell u the truth.....all religions are one and it does nt really matter wether ur a Hindu,Christian,Muslim etc......All it matters is that ur children have to grow up as dutiful children to their parents.....
there are a lot of values in the Bible and the Gita which will make them wonderful children and citizens of India

Answer 7

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it is not possible to decide at present and not even in future
so you have to take a chance and let it be like that only

believe you me,
if you both are mutually agree with individual religions and
if you can stick to that in future also, then
let the time come and decide, what religion should the children follow,
the only condition is both you will not use any force or attraction,
(sounds tough but is possible)

you need not to break the relations but you both should
mutually agree for a free choice of religion for childrens
and stick to that decision

Answer 8

u r problem is too big and too difficult the only way is first search a good very very good religion then read it if it touchs u r heart then accept it aand then teach it to u r children and husband too


i give u a big example two years ago i was chritian too

and i couldnt trust in this religion thats y i wanted to find a good one later when lots of ppl talking bad thgs about islam i wanted read about it and then i red QURAN KARIM

and it really touchs my heart and has solve my lots of answer like every non muslims saying that islam is terrorists and suicied attacks is not a sin in islam bad after i red that that was totally wrong its abig sin in islam and ppl dnt know the reality so i want u search a religion which not u r present religion and u r husband

this would realy solve u r problem

Answer 9

Bring them up equally.Share both your beliefs with your children and as they get older they will come to their own understanding of where they want to be b\c really you cant control their direction in life you and your partner can only guide your kids but in the end it is up to them to choose in which direction they would go. You never knw they might end up a Mormon or a 7th day adventist so just go with the flow.I was just using that as an example.

Good Luck

P.S = Sorry if this wasnt much help but I tried.

Answer 10

About following the religion and custom then they can follow the customs of both religions equally as it would be injustice to them if they only be christian or brahmin.
As their parents are from from 2 different religions so they need to understand both properly.
At times of conflicts in 2 religions. it may be left to their discretion to go for whatever they feel more comfortable with.

Hmmm perhaps as their last name they can use any of yours last name (better if they inherit fathers last name as thats what happens in society).

Little bit of mutual understanding will let u both sail happily though ur life.