My parents are very strict and they have said that I cannot have a boyfriend until I am finished with my highschool studies and have gone into Uni. However this guy that I've liked for ages has just asked me out, and I said yes. Is what I am doing wrong? My parents have warned me that if they find out that I have been seeing someone behind their backs they will disown me as their daughter...Help please! I really like this guy and don't wanna break it off, but I don't wanna get on the bad side of my parents either.
2007-06-26 22:01:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't listen to your parents. it's your life. just make sure that he's worth fighting for (he's not a jerk who will just giving you bad dreams) come on... they would understand at the end. Young days Comes But Once.
2007-06-26 22:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by royaliscross 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my parents were pretty much the same with my sisters... Your parents will always love u no matter what you do! If you think that you're not doing anything wrong well then go for what you want. You don't wanna miss out on life since we only have one and there's no guarantee that we'll still have it next day, so make everyday count as if it were your last. If you can show your parents that you can be trusted as a 'young' woman, do it. Invite the guy over so he can meet the family, introduce him as a 'friend'. DON'T take this guy in your room! that would definitely piss 'em off. Do this a few times, and once your parents get used to him and see how great a guy(friend) he is, that would definitely help you both taking the relationship to the next level.
2007-06-27 05:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Pröƒé§§ôr♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are the kind of people not to make idle threats and you know they are really serious about disowning you then quite honestly I'd listen to them. For a start, would you rather have a boyfriend or create a rift between you and your parents. Remember this, boyfriends may not last forever - your parents are yours for life.
2007-06-27 05:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you keep your mouth shut? It's YOUR life. If you don't tell them, how would they know...and besides that, you don't have to actually call him your 'boyfriend' or say that you're 'seeing' him. He can just be a 'friend' as far as your other friends go and you can do everything else that comes up between you privately. Parents are there to guide and prepare you, not threaten and frighten you. If you're old enough to have feelings like this, you're old enough to bear the consequences, and their idea of 'disowning' you will happen one way or the other, anyway.
2007-06-27 05:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between what is right and what is good. Three out of four times the hardest and the most difficult decisions are those that are right. Deep down you know the answer, a boyfriend is for a while, a mother & father is for a lifetime…
Your Call…
Focus on studies, honor your family’s request … And to answer your first question... Yes it is.
2007-06-27 05:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by KaysoCles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom and Dad seem to be looking out for your best interests even though they are being a little over the top.
However they are the ones with the life experience so I would take the opportunity for them to 'lay some wisdom on you' about this particular rule and why they are so adamant about it.
The last thing you should do is do something to damage their trust in you. Be honest with them about there being a boy in school you like and ask if you can invite him over for dinner. You may not be allowed to go out on dates, but maybe your parents would be comfortable if he hung out with you at your house with them present until they begin to trust both of you.
2007-06-27 05:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Rob B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parent that your mature and your not going to let a guy ruin your life, but at the same time you have to remember your priority your parents don't want you to date because of everything going on espically with hiv and underage pregnancy...your underage b/c your in high school so don't tell your underage or i'll call your parents and say we're dating anyways just keep your priority straight or offer a deal that if your grade slip a little your go back to the no dating routine....negoigate.....explain how you feel your missing your "social life era" and that a part of growing up and crap like that you must have good points before they go the route of considering you dating.....
2007-06-27 05:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by thesource2007<<<my psn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have many yrs for dateing i say do what your mom and dad wants you to do and if the buy likes you he will understand and wait for you it woudl be a good time to get to know hem you cant have a boyfriend but you can have a boy as a friend and that what you sould do be his friend at 1st get to know hem so what if it takes 1yr or 2 that just means the time you go on a date would be that much beter if you look at poeple to day most people they hook up fast and get marred real fast and most of them dont last but if you look at the old days they got to know each other for 1 to 2 yr be for dateing and they last a lot longer then the people in to days world
2007-06-27 05:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by texas9735 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down and talk to your parents...Explain to them that you feel that your mature enough to have a boyfriend and that you really like him. Tell them that they can trust you and you will not let your grades suffer, it sounds as though this is what your parents are worried about-him ruining your future, let them know that this is not the case.
2007-06-27 05:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well plane and simple u like him he likes u ur parrents shud love u and they wont disown u unless ur like cinderella or sumthin like that i meen no parrents can really xpect a teenage girl or boi stay single till uni. its just not done u r not doing nething wrong..... i meen come on do u really kno ne1 that stays single till uni? just have fun being in high skool u have bf sounds like u must have good grades just dont make it obviouse
2007-06-27 05:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by vallan1015 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋