my parents are separated..they live in two different cities that are 6 miles apart. my girlfriend lives in the same city as my father...my father lives with my godparents but my girlfriend thinks that he lives in his own home...I told her that because i was really embarrased about what was going on with my parents..the separation and all...we've been going out for 2 months (Im 17 and she's 18)...and my parents have been separated for like 4 months...
how should i tell my girlfriend the truth about my dads situation?? What should I say....how should I say it???
2007-06-26 19:48:07 · 11 answers · asked by John A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
may as well shrug your shoulders and tell her the truth. good relationships are based on truth and we cannot help what our parents do. besides...she doesnt love you because of them. she loves you because you're a good guy. (who tells the truth, right?)
2007-06-26 19:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by vanessa c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should sit her down in a nice place just the two of you and have a serious conversation. Don't be embarressed about your dad, I have lived that situation a couple of times. But i did sit down and tell my g/f at the time that i was embarresed about it and did not want her to know due to the fact of how that might change the relationship. If your g/f loves you or just cares about you she will understand and not judge you. she will take you for you are not who your father is.
2007-06-26 20:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by josh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. Start by admitting you were not honest about something and why. Then tell her that you really want to be honest and this is why you are telling her now. Apologize for not telling the truth before. She might be mad but it will be worse if she finds out on her own.
2007-06-26 19:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by Thrice Blessed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww don't worry. Next time she asks about your parents, or maybe when you want to bring it up, tell her about the separation and that they actually broke up earlier. Tell the truth and she'll understand. It's no biggie. Besides its none of her business anyway.
2007-06-26 19:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by renenunez87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...first of all i think you should tell her the truth because in the end it will hurt the relationship that you lied....second of all considering the circumstances your father has a good reason to be living with your godparents i see nothing wrong with that...hope this helps....LOVE GURU
2007-06-26 19:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your parents. What they are going through right now is nothing to be ashamed of. And she has no right to judge you or your family for this. Nobody has a perfect setup. Tell her and try to see how she reacts. If she sticks it out with you then she's worth it...Good Luck
2007-06-26 19:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest about it. I think that separation and divorce is so common now that everyone has had some sort of experience with it, so odds are she will understand.
2007-06-26 19:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her straight..If she likes you, she wouldnt feel any shame of your situation.. Maybe you can first apologise about lying to her but you're not prepared to tell her the truth before..But you dont feel easy about lying to a girl that you love, u decided to tell her the truth.. Tell her that..She would understand..
2007-06-26 19:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by jacquesLee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say remember when i told you. and go from there. if its that important for her to know then be honest and dont hide things. it will bite you in the *** if you lie. I catch my gf lieing all the time. it dont help for a strong and healthy relationship.
Trust is a great factor in a possitive healthy relationship
2007-06-26 19:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by curious6710 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty..just tell her you were embarrassed but that you feel you can be honest w/ her about it..she won't think it is a big deal if you don't, so down play it.
2007-06-26 19:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋