would you go have a relationship with an asexual girl (i.e. no sexual activity ever) but a girl that allowed you to have sex with anyone else that you wanted to instead? could a relationship like that last?
2007-06-26 19:39:19 · 18 answers · asked by Andrea C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
relationships are built with love & affection.sexual relationships does not matter too much.
2007-06-26 23:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by guddu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before I answer, let me just point out that you're using the term "asexual" incorrectly. Something that is asexual is a creature or plant that reproduces on its own, meaning, it doesn't have sex, but spawns by excreting spores or something of the sort. It's mainly plants, and some fish I believe. I do not know, I'm no biology major. But that is the correct meaning of the word. I think the term you're looking for is "celibate".
And as for your question, no, it could not work. Not for me anyway. After sleeping around with other women, I'd probably start developing feelings for them. And I'd feel really guilty about doing it, in spite of what she says. Sex is supposed to be a special interaction between lovers, not some key for fun (even though that's basically what it's become nowadays...). If you cannot share in sexual experiences with your love, then most likely, the relationship could not work. Sex is the ultimate connection, it bonds the two souls together, regardless of whether the relationship works on later down the road or not. It's the expression of love. At least, it was. I'm a firm believer in the old-fashioned ways, so it definitely would not work for me. But it's a new generation, and sex is nothing more but a plaything for them. So it may work for some, it may not for others. I guess the only true way to find out, if you're truly curious about it, is to just try it and see for yourself.
2007-06-27 02:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Niko? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. And I don't think there are many other men who would, either. At least not any that would make a good partner.
On the surface, this is a lot of men's dream situation. But most of the men you might find that would do something like this are not going to be good for you. They'll be narcissistic bastards who try to use sexual conquest to make up for their own lack of self-worth.
Sex is what distinguishes an intimate relationship from your run-of-the-mill friendship. If I'm not sleeping with a woman, I don't owe her any special loyalty. You could criticize that attitude as superficial, but I think it's biological. Sex changes the way people feel about one another. End of story.
And beyond that, think about it from your end. Do you really think you can have a serious relationship with a man who's constantly looking elsewhere for someone to satisfy his sexual needs? If your man finds a person who will sleep with him and that he gets along with on a personal level, chances are high that he'll dump you before too long because she can give him what you can't. For the overwhelming majority of people, sex and intimacy are connected. Anyone who tells you otherwise is dreaming.
Try to find an asexual man. That's just about the only way I can see you getting the kind of deep connection you desire.
2007-06-27 02:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by ahiddentableau 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of this happening, but I really don't understand what the point would be. It sounds like you would be dating a girl who you would simply take to dinner & movies, & then go elsewhere to get laid. I guess it would depend on the individuals involved if this would last or not. For me, I don't think it would if I were romantically dating the girl who had no plans to have sex, because if we made out or anything, I would be frustrated that I couldn't take it to the next level. What I wonder is why a girl would choose a life of celibacy if she isn't a nun? If she were just remaining celibate until marriage, I might be able to deal with such an arrangement, but I don't think I could marry a girl, & then go spend the honeymoon with another girl because my wife didn't want me. Nope, it wouldn't work for me. As much as women connect to men emotionally, I connect to women sexually, so I don't think it'd work.
2007-06-27 02:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could not last. Sex is a big part of a relationship. Eventually a guy would probably settle down and have a family. He will most likely do that with the person who has his kids. A girl that you dont have sex with is just a friend.
2007-06-27 02:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck yeah! AWESOME! I would love it!
But you are going to screw yourself in the end (in an asexual way). The guy isn't really going to respect you if you let him galavant around with anyone he wants. If the guy was a sex crazed guy, you would never see him. He would never be there, because he would be seeking the poon-tang.
I give it a one in 25 million chance of working, cuz you could find the right guy who is also asexual. But most guys really do like to be intimate.
2007-06-27 02:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by killer Tree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a girl like that as a friend. A friendship is a relationship that quite often lasts longer than romantic relationships.
2007-06-27 02:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Robert B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally dont think you could have a possitive relationship with someone like that. If the guy wants to go out and have sex with whomever why would he have a steady relationship.
Dont think it would work
2007-06-27 02:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by curious6710 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. After having sex with everyone else, I would then develop relations with other people. It's quite unnatural.
2007-06-27 02:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Titan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that will be interesting but why would a girl allow that thing to happen. love is not just sex its also commitment and trust and honesty, communications, hugging, cuddling, etc. etc.
2007-06-27 02:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋