im 19 and never had a gf?

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im 19 and never had a g/f?
hey im 19 and iv never had a girlfriend its starting to really affect me that im not with somebody every girl i try to pick up either already has a bf or isnt interested and im starting to feel really lonely all the time and that i dont exist. for years whenever me and all my friends go out im always the one thats there alone there always with there bfs/gfs and it upsets me c ause i want that also the main reason why i want a gf so badly is so i can care for somebody and be there whenever she needs me and spoil her.

i dunno maybe its just bad luck or i havent met the right girl yet or girls just dont find me attractive

Answer 1

look if your friends are having gf's or bf's then its obvious you are in an attractive enough crowd. maybe your just not stepping it up enough around the ladies. maybe you dont know to many girls. i dont know for sure. you have to figure it out. there's a girl for every guy and even unattractive guys can get gals. observe your surroundings and your actions. how do you come off to people? remember personality is key. are you nervous or do you carry a chip on your shoulder. im sure if you think carefully and realize what you're doing, you'll find it and change it. start worrying when your in your 30's.

Answer 2

Hey i'm in the same situation right now I'm 18 and I haven't had one either, and I can relate cuz yeah all my friends go out except for me but I still keep my hopes up I know one of these days I'll find the perfect girl you should too as well, Don't worry you are still young, and after all real and serious love starts when you become 20 and up so keep your hopes up and Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well first of all, take a good look in the mirror. What do you see? Are you attractive, are you just okay, or does the sight scare you? Can there be any adjustments? Next thing, how do you approach the girls? Maybe you come on to strong because you really want a g/f ? Sounding desperate? Can you give more info?

Answer 4

You seem like a sweet guy. It's not you sweety so don't feel like you need to blame yourself. You just need to have a positive attitude and a good personality around girls and be yourself and have confidence. I know how you feel sorta.. for a while I didn't have anyone and I had to watch everyone else..but I had to keep my head high and know that maybe even the next day I'd meet some one that would change my life forever. So don't give up hope!!!

Answer 5

Damn man I'm in the same situation as you.. 18 and a half and I've never had a gf.

I wish I could tell you why it is, since you seem like a pretty nice guy, and I KNOW I'm an insanely nice guy.. I'm smart, and I think I'm interesting to talk to.. I'm just not overly good looking nor am I outgoing, so no girl ever comes up to me and flirts or whatnot.

Good luck, I'll be in your same situation come January.

Answer 6

Well here's a suggestion...instead of looking for someone to be with...look for the somebody you can't be without...

Women can sense when they are just someone to be with.... no girl wants to be just that....

We want to be loved....we want to be the world to someone....

So consider what type of person you really want to be with....keep it in your mind deep in your subconscious....and keep looking for a girl like that!!

but NOT ACTIVELY looking...as in going places to pick up chicks....going on blind dates..etc......spend some time on developing your own personal interests hobbies...and your self-esteem sweetie!! Say you like hiking...you never know fate could have someone waiting on you at the trails....meeting people who share similar interests contributes to compatibility...

I promise when you stop looking and start living... it falls right in your lap..and then it's so much more meaningful because then it's real and not forced :)

Answer 7

maybe you're just trying a little too hard. just let her come to you, there is somebody out there for everyone. don't ever give up on love, you're young and have a lot of life ahead of you. why worry about this stuff? there's lots of guys out there that haven't had girlfriends yet. my brother is 21 and really good looking but he doesn't have a girlfriend yet cauz he's waiting for the right one. just wait, don't worry, if you think about it, there's more than a billion single girls out there just waiting to be loved, remember that....you'll see, she'll turn up.

Answer 8

dont worry brother! i did not have a boyfriend either until i was 20. here are my suggestions: start out with a decent look (hair combed, clothes & shoes clean, well-shaved, cologne...ect). then go out. go to places where people have time on their hands (the mall, library, bookstore, grocery store,). carry yourself well too (walk upright w/ confidence). and most of all, ******smile and make eye contact****** this will surely help you find a significant other. remember too...if you see an interesting girl, dont be afraid to say 'hi' and maybe her #. good luck!!! i hope i helped. :) aloha!

Answer 9

Well first off I have to say that you're a very sweet guy and that you probably deserve one of the best girls out there. There isn't much advice that i can give you. You just have to keep working at finding that girl.

Answer 10

Consider yourself to be lucky...... no teenage drama, now your nearing adulthood, just relax, it will happen, my son is 17, he's had 3 girlfriends, but the last one was very serious, he's now single and happy to be single and able to hang out with his guy friends, don't rush into anything, you don't want to just "settle for the first one that comes along"