can or do people change?

Question

my current girl riend lied about everything ing the beginning and its been 2 yeays now she has told the truth about it all i still don't trust her at all am i wrong

Answer 1

Yes, people can change, but it is rare.

No, you don't have a reason to trust her.

If you must try again, tell her that it must be on your terms and have her acknowledge that your relationship and level of intimatacy has changed because of her betrayal. If she gets offended when you ask for information, then forget her and move on. You can start a new relationship with her, but it will always be different than it was before she betrayed you and take many years to regain trust.

She will most likely betray you again. The numbers are against you.

Answer 2

The real question is how your perception of people (or a person) changes. If you perceive a person as being untruthful, then that is what they are for you. You can change your perception, even though the person your are perceiving may not really change. It comes down to your personal perspective. If you feel some doubts about your girlfriend, check out your perceptions. Talk with her about how you perceive her and ask how she perceives you. This sounds like a serious issue and should be completely discussed between you.

Answer 3

The good news is that people can change. However, the bad news is that nobody can change them, they MUST do it themselves. Sometimes during dating people like to put forth a vaneer or false facade to appear more attractive or alluring. This isn't fair or right but it is done quite a lot. If she has come clean, that's great but I don't blame you for being cautious and not quite trusting. Trust is earned, not expected or rewarded for good behavior.

Answer 4

I think people can change, It really is a matter of choice. She sounds like she wants to clean the slate and make things better. But really trust has to be earned and its not surprising that you dont just yet. It will take quite a bit to get your trust back and she should understand that it is her job to work for it.

Answer 5

sounds to me like she messed up at the beginning and has realised she was wrong. she hasnt lied in 2 years, give her a break. you have to have trust in a relationship or it wont work so if you dont trust her why are you with her?

Answer 6

Most people never really change. Sad, but true. Some people never even try.

But those of us who do try often experience great frustration and disappointment as we encounter the same limitations over and over again.

Life can start to seem downright repetitive.

Answer 7

yes you may be, she did not want to tell you the truth as she wanted you to know what she is like not judge her by her past
have you been happy with her for two years??? that is the most important thing if you say yes well you must put it behind you and get on with your life.its where you are now that counts not what you did before

Answer 8

nope, trust is a hard thing to get back. She lied she pay the for it. People can change but it had to be a life altering situation. i don't think two years is enough recover from the lies she has told you!

Answer 9

Dude, I hate to tell you this, but ... once a lying 'ho, ALWAYS a lying 'ho.

You'll feel secure and trusting of her, and WHAM!!!! That's when you leave your neck exposed and she goes for the jugular. Good luck with that. She won't change. She'll just fall back into her old ways, but try to be more "sneaky" about it.

Answer 10

Well obviously she feels guilty and she's wanting you to trust her more and yes people deff do change. You have reason to question her trust but she could have deff changed