we have dated since we were 14 and i'm 20 now.. i love him so much but i get mad a lot- i dont know if its me and i'm wrong or if i have a right to be mad he says i need to calm down and stop getting mad all the time over nothing... “examples“ he promised to spend time with me today after being with his friends he was with them for 8 hours n graced me with 10 min to say goodnight.. we went to the movies and it was my turn to pick he decided he didnt wanna watch the movie i wanted to see and got two tickets for some dump movie that sucked.. on the way back home it was raining n we were stuck driving behind an idiot he decides to pass him going over a hill i told him not to cause its raining n u really cant see n he just did it anyway- i was mad cause what if something happened n he was mad cause he said "nothing happened" dont get me wrong he is a wonderful guy n would give me the world he just has been having his jerk moments- so am i over reacting? Am i right or being a b@#?
2007-06-26 19:09:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is some kind of a "life rule" if you may say so. When two people are young and start dating, so they don't know much about real "love" feelings, that is called sympathy for some period of time. I'm not trying to say that he or you don't like each other, no way! But at that timw, when you both were young - you had that period of sympathy.
You are definitely best friends!
Females are more in favour to get married and connect a particular man to herself, men are like something else - they love a woman, but many of them, think she wont go anywhere.
In your case your boyfriend use that long term connecting with you in his interests. Going out with his friends, whom he consider to be something new for him. As for you he feels, that you wont go anywhere from him. He is little bit selfish out of your examples, and dont actually look at your side to ask for your point of you and desire.
I disagree with those, who saying that those who started dated young wont be able to save their relationship! It's not true, i know many examples of that. So stay calm about that! But yes, do something to explain him your madness! There is nothing wrong in it! You are getting mad, because there is always a reason behind it - so go ahead and tell him the reason, and tell him how you would like to do, tell your opinion. Make him understand that you are still in his life and that it is so good for him that you are there!
Best of luck to you!
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2007-06-26 19:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by (✿◡‿◡✿) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is still very immature unfortunatly some men stay that way all of their lives if he likes time out with his friends he wont change that either and as for the passing on a hill that is just plain dangerous. you need to do some serious thinking about your future as you will always be playing by his rules the way you are going on
sugget you both need a break from each other
see if it shakes him up dont keep giving in to him if he does not want to lose you it will give him time to think
and you need to date other guys , better to be sure before
you settle down for good than later find you have made a mistake and want out of it
2007-06-26 19:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow 6 yeras. In that case, I'm sure your boyfriend knows you better than anyone else. Take his word for it this time and decide that you were over reacting. He could have had some trouble, guys forget how time pass when playing with friends. And also, maybe he REALLLLLY wanted to watch the movie and hoped that you would understand. Lastly, I wouldn't mind going through rough hills...(just a guy think i guess)... so understand how he behaves and hope u guys marry :D
2007-06-26 19:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a vacation away from your routine life. Make it a nice romantic one, for you and him alone.Everyone needs to renew that feeling that brought you together, and kept you together for so long.
All couples have their arguements, but try to pick and choose your battles, or you will run him off eventually. Only argue over the most important things, or he will be telling some other woman that "All you do is nag." You know what that leads to!!!
Good Luck on improving the situation. Don't forget, you will need to do that every so often to keep the life in the relationship!!
2007-06-26 19:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you all have a problem. Cant you set down and talk everything over, and see if you can work ever thing out.
So he can spend some time with you. Have you got some friends that you can go some where while he is out with his friends?so you wont feel so left out.
Queen Bee
2007-06-26 19:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No im the same way. I have been with my guy for three years. And I always get mad over small things...and big things..I realized its not that I get mad over what happened..Its that I haven't forgiven him for previous faults of his in the past so everything just builds up and so every little mistake ticks me off...maybe its the same for you. If its b/c you haven't forgiven him for previous mistakes acknowledge that and tell him you need a little break..maybe slow things down....and you should start doing your own thing getting to know yourself better see if its worth being with this guy. good luck..hope my advice helps
2007-06-26 19:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by mrncy227 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to gain some one on one help with someone that can tell you about the way guys think, and how we view relationships (this forum hasn't the space).
First thing- back up, step back. Ask him to have a sit down with you, talk to him about his place in your world and your hopes for your place in his. Ask him if he wants something similar.
By what you have put here, I would say he's starting to see the chains, and might be looking for other areas to investigate, but I don't know him or you.
My suggestion, speak to him.
2007-06-26 19:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by Harmon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quiet down once you start to get that feeling of blood rushing on your head. walk away for a splash, hear to three track with headphones. something to take your strategies off of what's bothering you. do no longer you often times want to cling out with your girlfriends? How stupid could you stumble on it in case you invited a pal over and he have been given mad at you? i be attentive to the way you sense, i'm a woman too. you're able to remember, men won't have the ability to study our minds, no count number how recommend of a face we placed. stable good fortune!
2016-10-19 01:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by thao 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so i think your over reacting. my sis always got mad at her ex bf's all the time and they would break up. take a breather and calm down. think before you says things. or ask him if your relationship is going good and make time for each other. make a date a week before or plans then he wont spend too much time with his friends
2007-06-26 19:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how mad you get, if you carry on for way too long, all that stuff. I would be mad at him about that stuff, but I'd get over it right away. Just try calmly talk to him about it instead of getting mad and ask him kindly not to do that stupid crap that he does. Lol but in different words.
2007-06-26 19:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋