I'm 26 years old and am completely independent. I have a boyfriend that i have been with for 7 years. I have a career and work a second job. He has a career where he makes the same amount as my career. I bought a house for us, i pay every bill, and i keep up the house(i haven't been on a vaca in 2 years, since i bought the house). I give him massages when he gets off of work and i always ask him if he needs anything in which i will provide. I never get a cent from him, i also don't ask. All i want from him is commitment, he still pays his sister to live at their apt. (sometime he sleeps there) It's been 7 years and there is nothing else i can give him. Why won't he move in (officially)? why won't he propose to me? Why won't he help me financially? What would you do after 7 years and your partner will not make a decision?
2007-06-26 18:30:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To but it bluntly- Why should he buy the cow when he is getting the milk free. If you are unsure what this means, it means that he has no real reason to marry you - you are keeping him very content and happy - plus he has no legal or financial responsibility to you like he would if you'll were marrried.
why should he marry you? He has everything that he needs and none of the committments.
You are paying for the house - in which he is living in rent free. You pay all the bills- he pays none.
DO YOUR SELF A BIG, BIG FAVOR AND DUMP THIS LOSER!!! YOU SOUND LIKE YOU DESERVE SO, SO MUCH BETTER!!!
If you feel like you want a room mate that is not such a MOOCH - get a dog or a cat from the animal shelter. The dog or cat will love you no matter what and appreciate you each time they see you.
It sounds like you are doing ALL OF THE GIVING AND HE IS MORE THAN HAPPY TO DO ALL THE TAKING!!!!
2007-06-26 18:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by Su-Nami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe he thinks that u are comfortable with the arrangement, and is he the same age as u? if so he may think that there's another few years to go before you need to settle down and commit. but one thing, are u 100% sure that it's his sister?
if he is more than about 30-32, then i'd say that maybe he's not sure that you're the one he wants to be with all his life, but you're good until he finds someone even more suitable. that may not be the case though, it's just the worst scenario.
also, does he give you any massages back? if not then i would question his respect for you and your feelings.
maybe u should stop paying for everything, and see how he reacts? all the best.
2007-06-26 23:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by Knowledge is Power. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is taking advantage of you, big time! He is getting a free ride and milking it. I would get out now-without any kids-or marriage. Find someone that wants to be your equal-not a sucking sponge. You sound successful and motivated.....go out there and grab a great guy!
2007-06-26 18:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by DaisyO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if my partner would not commit after seven years then to be honest i would leave them. you cant force some one into commitment and it seems to me like your putting 90% into the relationship while he is only putting 10%. just try talking to him for one last time and if he does not feel ready for commitment he might never will. especially if its been seven years and hes still undecided.
2007-06-26 18:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Krazy_Rican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋