my parents are separated..they live in two different cities that are 6 miles apart. my girlfriend lives in the same city as my father...my father lives with my godparents but my girlfriend thinks that he lives in his own home...I told her that because i was really embarrased about what was going on with my parents..the separation and all...we've been going out for 2 months (Im 17 and she's 18)...and my parents have been separated for like 4 months...
how should i tell my girlfriend the truth about my dads situation?? What should I say....how should I say it???
(In person or on the telephone)???
Thanks.....
2007-06-26 18:27:49 · 17 answers · asked by John A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should definitely tell her in person. I'm in the same boat with my dad, he lives with my grandparents so he can support my mom, my brother and I (my parents are divorced). In person she will be able to see all of your emotions and your confliction. She would also be there to provide emotional support for you, admitting such a huge embarassment is very hard to do, I've done it a few times. Best of luck...
2007-06-26 18:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by AnInquisitiveMind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your girlfriend the truth immediately. She'll most likey be understanding, though also unhappy about your dishonesty. But what your parents are going through, while tragic, and the living arrangements that follow, isn't something you should be embarassed about.
However, in the Woman Rule book (I'll be nice and let you on ;p) DO NOT under any circumstance, tell her over the phone. That's on the same level as breaking up with her over the phone, or a text-message break-up. Think about it, would you want something very important, that's life-changing, to be told to you over the phone? You'll come out looking a wuss for not being up front and telling her face-to-face what's going on, and she'll likely lose a little respect for you.
As I said, she'll most likely be understanding. After all, your parents are undergoing a separation, which is stressful for all parties involved - therefore, letting her in, trusting her with this piece of knowledge, will be good. You'll have someone to confide in when things get unbearable on the home front, and she'll be able to comfort you knowing exactly what's going on.
So go ahead and tell her, if that's what you truly want, because eventually she'll find out the truth. And when she does... let's just say it won't be a lovely day....
2007-06-27 01:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you have a confession to make. The say something like this. "Back when we first met, my parents were separated. I was embarrassed about the situation, so I told you that the house he was staying in was his. I feel that I know you better now, and can be confide in you, so I want you to know that is my Godparents home, and my father is just staying there right now. I hope you won't be angry with me for telling you that. It was so embarrassing, and confusing at the time."
I am sure that she will understand. Divorce is very hard on everyone, including the children.
Good Luck!!
2007-06-27 01:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u really don't have to tell her anything because it none of her business how or where ur dad lives. Why do u think she needs to know? I mean if u just want to tell her thats up to u ,but she might could care less about ur dad, she's dating u not him and if she really likes u it's not gonna make a difference.
If she ask tell her u rather not talk about the family thing because it's a private matter. She'll understand
2007-06-27 01:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it simple. Tell her this. I have had a difficult time with my parents separation. I would like to set the record straight about a few things. I have been embarrassed by all of this. Then tell her everything..Remember none of this is your fault. You will fell better when you do. then how about you and she go to a good movie.
2007-06-27 01:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in person. I also think you should start it out like this. I have something to admit. I told a little white lie cause it was very embarrassing for me to tell you before but I've gotten a lot closer to you and I just want to come clean. Then tell her. And also say my parents split up 4mo ago and then blah blah blah. Good Luck!
2007-06-27 01:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Nicki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever, do it on the phone. It makes it sound like you don't think she's important enough to do it in person. You should just tell her the truth, and admit that you were embarressed. It's been a rough time for you, it's only natural to be confused. She'll like you better for being honest.
2007-06-27 01:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by sweet~n~sassy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth sound like a great place to start. the truth is so much easier to deal with. when you lie you have to continue telling lies to cover up the last lie. Just be truthful she will appreciate your honesty. And in person would be the best way too.
2007-06-27 01:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth in person. Explain and hope she understands.
2007-06-27 01:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her in person. If she truly cares for you then she will see that you havenothing to do with the situation and still accept you for you.
And you must apologize for lying.
2007-06-27 01:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋