My husband and I are talking about having a family. The problem is that I will have to work, I have the health benefits, 401k etc. We also have different schedules so I will need a nanny in the daytime but am worried about being exhausted at night. How do you go to work if you are up all night with a baby? How do you juggle things? I worry about being a good mom and also keeping my job. For those of you who say quit, it is not reasonable.
2007-06-26 17:25:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my husband works days, I work nights. Our 2 year old has been going to daycare twice a week since he was 10 months old. don't worry about the exhaustion - that you take as it comes and if you don't mind the house getting a little messy, there's always times you can steal a quick "catch up" nap. You can be a good mom with a job so long as you do put your family as a high priority and don't ignore them just to please "the boss".
2007-06-26 17:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by christie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible to do both, millions of women do! And, you can do both well. The first several months are challenging if your baby doesn't sleep, but mothers have an amazing capacity to continue to function.
While you can't give up working, you may want to consider looking for some more flexibility in your work arrangement. Could you cut back your hours? Or work a compressed workweek? Work some from home? Carefully consider all of your options.
Start now looking for good, reliable childcare as well. This will give you the piece of mind you need while you work.
You may also want to give up some other things so that you have more time to concentrate on your child. This might include outside activities, but also you might look at ways to make your housework easier. Hiring help such as someone to clean, or just lowering your standards can help there too.
Good luck!
2007-06-27 09:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible but you have to be willing to put in the work. I had my son when i was 20 yrs old i'm 22 now i worked 40 hrs a week jobs the whole time . when you have a dual-income household the most important thing to do is develop a system ,you may not be able to devise one that is truly effective until the baby comes ,but thats what helped me during the day my mom would watch him until i got off of work and iwould care for him once i got home the nights he was sick ther is no way you can get a around it your going to be tired in the morning, but you can do one of 2 things call out or go to work It would be up to you to decide, but when I tell you my son has made me a better person all around, and he is all that I live for thats's what makes it all worth it
2007-06-27 00:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by fatimah b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies don't stay awake all night forever, so you can relax about that. Usually anytime after six weeks they can sleep through with only one feeding during the night. It sounds hard, but you know, when you have to do it, is all works out somehow. It may take a week or so to get used to a hectic schedule, but you'll find something that works for you and your schedule...and good luck!
2007-06-27 00:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not a woman, but I read up on cnn before that the cost of hiring a nanny and not being able to give your child the fullest attention and daycare, etc is easily comparable to the wage you earn. consider this well. But cheer up!!! Usually in life, you will never know your limit until you are at crunch time. Often you will realize you are bigger and stronger than you think you are.You can handle kids, they are plenty of joy. kids will bring smiles on your face and strengthen you when you are weary. There is this saying that before you have kids, you think you will never have any life if you do have them. But after you have them, you cannot imagine life without them....
2007-06-27 00:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by kickit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to wait until you are able to stay at home. I really suggest it. It is great knowing that your child is being taken care of the way you want them to.
And remember, money IS NOT everything. It is worth a little sacrifice to be at home with your child.
2007-06-27 00:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by darcanjle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some how it will work out..... If you two really want it you can make it work just dont think so much and then you will see! Good luck!
2007-06-27 00:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by lilpinkrose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋