how do I go about handling this? I haven't even told my maid of honor that this other girl is in the wedding... I just want everyone to get along and enjoy the planning and the ceremony.
2007-06-26 17:22:03 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is YOUR day. They can suck it up for just one day. This is all about YOU; remember that. And if they can't sacrifice a day for you, they should be your bridesmaids. Your bridesmaids should be your bestest of best friends and people you and your husband can't live without.
2007-06-26 17:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by My Name Doesn't Fit Here 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases I would say it would be wrong, but in your case I think it is more than appropriate. It doesn't sound like you are that close anymore now. I would do it soon though, and maybe through an email if possible to avoid a personal lash-out. I think you should tell her that you just don't feel close anymore and that things have changed. Be honest with her, but kind at the same time. I think it is such an important time and you rely heavily on your maid of honor to be an extra "you" to take care of things on your behalf, so yes promote the friend who is being there for you, and ditch this other girl. I also would re-consider having her at the wedding at all because she will for sure have an attitude and you dont' need that on your special day. Also maybe reconsider a bridal shower, because her attitude may have been influencing your choices. Have fun, let her know asap, and move on. Good luck with everything.
2016-05-21 05:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My maid of honor and one of my bridesmaids hated each other. I had to sit them both down and tell them that this is how it is gonna be, I don't care if you ever get along again but this one most important day of life you are gonna bite your tongue and not say a negative word to the other! For me, it didn't work! My maid of honor got rude with my bridesmaid 2 minutes before we walked down the isle. Good thing, today they can handle being in the room together. Good luck, hope it turns out better for you. If they want you to be happy and have the best day ever, they will do whatever it takes to make that happen!!
2007-06-26 17:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by jewells28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her right now about this person. Or you will not have a good time. Then take them to lunch or dinner and talk things out. They need to get along if only for this one day, but there is the shower/bachlorette party as well.... IF that doesn't work, then maybe the one (either) can back out and have another part in your wedding, IE: reading something in the ceremony, helping you plan the meal, go with you to appointments, etc... this way it would keep the peace. Good luck!
2007-06-26 17:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kitties_4me2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask both the Maid of honor and the bridesmaid if they can put aside their dislike for one another for just that one day and enjoy the wedding. If that doesnt work then maybe you should replace one of them..
2007-06-26 17:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by miss_playa6935 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can be civil for a bit. Just don't expect them to become best buds or attached at the hip just because both are your attendants. How many times will they really have to be together? At a bridal shower? At a bachelorette party? At the wedding itself? And at all those functions, they can turn and socialize with others. They don't have to be right on top of each other.
Maybe just try to avoid a couple of situations . . . like having them look for dresses together? Or getting their hair done together before the ceremony?
Keep their contacts to larger functions, where they can turn away and socialize with others.
Any planning dissension can be avoided . . . Put MOH in charge of bridal shower planning. Put bridesmaid in charge of bachelorette party planning.
If you don't throw them together constantly, things should be fine.
2007-06-26 23:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully your maid of honor and the bridesmaid, are mature enough to remember the day is all about you and your groom. Hopefully they can put their differences aside for your sake. They should just restrain themselves if they feel the need to exchange any harsh or negatives words to each other.
Good luck and best wishes for a happy day and wonderful married life!
2007-06-26 17:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by NAB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to sit down with both of them (one at a time) and explain that they are both your friends and you want them both in your wedding. If they are truly your friends then they will respect you and the fact that this is one of the most important events in your life and get along. If they don't, then they aren't very good friends. They need to put their differences aside for the day.
2007-06-26 17:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember, that it's YOUR wedding! If she doesn't like her, then fine, she doesn't have to. But this is your day to shine, and whatever mishaps she has with this girl, need to be put on the back burner for that day. If your maid of honor doesn't have enough respect for you to be civil with this girl, then perhaps you should find yourself another maid of honor!
2007-06-26 17:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by Miss V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be sneaky by not telling one about the other. I agree with one the above answers. Talk to them, one at a time, then together, and let them know what you expect of them. If either of them has a problem with the other and can't call a truce for one day, then now is the time for them to gracefully bow out so you can go ahead and not have to worry about a possible catfight.
The should behave like the adults they are for your sake, even though they don't like each other. It isn't about them, It's about you. Good luck and congratulations.
2007-06-30 06:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both that this is your wedding and you will call the shots! If she really can't stand the girl and won't participate in your wedding then so be it. You can't make people get along - you can expect them to behave well though and not ruin your day! Good luck!
2007-06-26 17:26:20 · answer #11 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋