My boyfriend and I are ready to stay over night with each other and I have two children at home. When is it ok for this to happen?
2007-06-26 16:52:18 · 17 answers · asked by TB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask yourself "what values do I want to instill in my kids?" if ya want them to think casual sex is ok, then bang that head board....If you want them to have some morals....send them on a sleepover at grammas or a friends house.
2007-06-26 17:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that when he has developed a relationship with the kids that you and the kids find acceptable and that involves an honest relationship. I would expect it to occur after he has gone home late a number of times after spending many hours with you and the kids and after he has started long days of "adventures" by arriving for breakfast and staying with you.
Depending on the age of the kids, I would talk it over with them and see how the 4 of you fit together.
2007-06-26 16:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you want. You really don't care what the kids will think of you anyhow. When this boyfriend is gone and another comes along they will accept this as normal. When your kids start doing it, will you accept it as normal?
For crying out loud, Have someone watch the kids and take a nighter at the local Holiday Inn.
You're raising them. If they don't turn out just spanky, don't blame anyone else or ask for government assistance.
2007-06-26 17:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ret. Sgt. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I feel that u need to let the children feel comfortable around him. Don't just think about yourself. No matter what age your kids r they still have feelings. Talk to them about your boyfriend staying over see how they react. Well Good Luck!!
2007-06-26 16:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by hippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its about sex get a room and a babysitter if its just to wake up in each others arms for the first time make it a slumber party involving the kids get them use to the idea of him staying over and go from there good luck
2007-06-26 16:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by pebblesstorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, i can totally feel you on this... i had a guy friend stay over the other night (i also have 2 small children) and i had only known him for like a week, but i felt completely comfortable with him being around my kids... if you dont feel completely comfortable than dont do it... as long as he knows, THE KIDS COME FIRST, and he is okay with that, and you feel as though he is trustworthy enough to be around your kids, then go for it.... JUST BE CAREFUL
2007-06-26 16:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to Dr. Laura, when you're children are 18. Children should be your number 1 priority, not the b/f.
2007-06-26 16:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by ldmhuston 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you both feel ready. Send the kids to stay overnight with a sitter.
2007-06-26 16:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so tough. You need to raise your kids but yet you want another relationship. You shouldn't ever let him stay over. If you must indulge, go to his place or to a motel while someone is watching your kids. You asked and that is my advice...as old fashioned as you might think. Good luck.
2007-06-26 16:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Rick F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that u should talk to ur kids about it first cuz i know that i wouldn't like my mom just bringing some guy over to sleep in our home. i hope that helps a little.
2007-06-26 16:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by justbj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋