Why did your last relationship break-up?

Question

1. Your last relationship with a mate. ____________________

2. Your last relationship with a friend. __________________

3. Your last relationship with a Church or a Religion. ________

4. Your relationship with a credit card ______________

Good responses. I am so sorry to laugh about a few of them on such a serious subject. -- Chagrin

Answer 1

your q's are always so good and this is the lamest answer i have ever given..sorry big guy

1 he moved
2 she moved
3 I moved on...
LOL

Answer 2

1. It was an unhealthy relationship. It lasted three and a half years, and it should have lasted a summer.

2. My friend, or actually my boyfriend's best friend who I had began to think of as my friend, ended his friendships with us over disappointment and hurt. Basically, we did things he considered hurtful, and he feels that no friends should ever hurt each other, even by accident. I say he's unrealistic, knew what he was getting into, didn't live up to his end of the bargain, and ended two friendships without even so much as a discussion about it. So, not much of a friend to begin with.

3. Um . . . never really had one. I can safely say that I don't remember a time when I ever subscribed to any religion.

4. Credit card . . . let's not go there.

Answer 3

1. Hasn't happened. I've been married to the same guy for 31 years, and I'll be dipped if I go through the hassle of housebreaking another husband, not at my age!

2. The friendship died a long, slow death. It was obvious that we'd outgrown the things that brought us together as friends in the first place, but no one wanted to be the first to let go. I finally made the decision to end the friendship.

3. Against my better judgement, I started going to church with friends. I was never comfortable at that particular church because it was nothing but politics and infighting. My friends' marriage split up, they ended up going to different churches, and I got the heck out of Dodge while the getting was good.

4. See #1 -- hasn't happened yet. They're just so fond of me that they won't let me go.

Answer 4

I met my husband while dating someone else and fell head over heels. I was 15 at the time.

We went camping with another couple and they had a few too many drinks. (We weren't bothered, we were all cutting up and having a good time playing cards, music; but my husband and I had only a couple of drinks so we were still thinking.;) They walked to the back of the camper unexpectedly in the MIDDLE of a card game and proceeded to have obvious sex. We were uncomfortable, especially since it was still cold and they had the blankets; but we went to sleep anyway. The next morning she was very uncomfortable (her husband thought it was funny). We saw them twice more and they just stopped returning our calls or coming by. We were used to seeing each other just about every weekend and it broke my heart that something so stupid came between us.

I am a faithful Christian, but I left my last church because the Pastor shared a personal experience about my husband with my husband's boss. It was a private matter from his youth and it ultimately cost him his job. I was very angry and the Pastor never apologized. His stance was that he felt I should divorce my husband. He obviously was confused about some things and I did not have any confidence in his abilities to lead a church.

Answer 5

1. I became pregnant.

2. I'm a loner, Uncle Wayne, I don't really have any friends except for one good one. We'll always be close, and I met him in this forum. Odd, isn't it?

3. I became an atheist when I started to see contradictions in the way I had always worshiped, and the way in which my step-family worshiped. These questions were never answered to my satisfaction, so I began to question even more. One thing led to another, I guess.

4. Oh I've never had a credit card! If I can't buy it outright then I don't need it.

Answer 6

1. I fell in love with someone else. That someone else is now my husband. Long story short.
2. It was a couple. They were childish and got mad over stupid stuff, and didn't have the maturity to just TALK to us about it.
3. Hmm...technically, I was last agnostic...and I just found enough evidence to convince me fully.
4. Well, the only credit cards I have are military Star cards, and I have no issues with them whatsoever. I don't like credit cards. They scare me.

Answer 7

My 23 yr. marriage ending . . . The " game " was called on the account of neglect and condescending manner.

The last person I dated...that ended as it was discovered that the man showed to only know how to be charming and have fun. I enjoy fun...Yet he was " thin " in the awareness of how to have a relationship. He knew how to hug the body...yet not the soul.

In reply to your posted questions . . .
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1) . . .Ended with mate...4 yrs. ago. Ended with someone dating...two months ago...Reasons stated above.
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2). . .Ended with a friend . . .1 year ago because our lifestyles did not mesh anymore. Something changed in how we related in interest of common ground as I had divorced and moved out of neighborhood and she is still in that neighborhood with her husband and busy with her 3 young kids. She is very nice...yet how she related with me after my divorce shifted a bit.
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3) . . .Ended with Religion . . .I'm now 50 and 30 years ago I found religion to be preaching sin, guilt, paying dues to get the " brass ring ", etc. I'd see people go to church or temple and behave ' divine '...yet the days after attending church they'd behave as having a shallow mind and soul. So, I came to understanding of having a personal relationship with " God " the One and simply Be. No religious labels, yet my way of thinking is labeled as being Spiritual and that suits me fine. I did'nt care to be associated with religions that did right by God because of desiring to please and impress the One rather than being of good heart just because...no matter the day or week or time of day.

4) . . . With a credit card . . . Ended four years ago. Reason...A woman healing through a divorce and living independent again . . . You combine emotions of a woman with a credit card...not a good mix. So I made a conscience choice not to use credit cards...use debit card instead. I keep a responsible savings and pay cash. If I feel I might be running low in my spending fund...I slow my spending rather than charge. It's very freeing for me. No debt.
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Answer 8

I lost my last relationship with a girlfriend because of my cheating. I've been with my current girlfriend close to 9 years, and the relationship is still holding on, even though I've had my indiscretions during its run, also. My last relationship with a friend broke up because I flirted too strongly with his girlfriend. My last relationship with religion ended when I went to university and saw that faith was no substitute for education.

Answer 9

1. Hmm that was a while ago. He had violent tendencies, and I decided that was not what I was going to saddle myself with for the rest of my life. Have been happily married (to someone else) for 16 yrs.

2. LOL.. this one is good, and relevant. Her son (9) asked my son (7) if he believed in god. My son said he didn't know. Her son kicked mine out of his room, told him he did not want someone in his room who was going to hell. I calmly went upstairs and suggested perhaps they move on to another topic and just play. (I should probably add here that they were just kids, and this was not an issue for me)

Her husband ordered me out of his house for "disagreeing with the way he was raising his son." While he was ranting at me, my "friend" sat there like a terrified mouse. We tried to remain friends, but it left a nasty taste in my mouth. I ended the friendship. This was one year ago next month.

3.A brief episode of Catholicism, from the age of 7-9... my mother never forced it and I never believed.

4. I hate credit cards :p Paid them all off last year, and they remain unused.

Answer 10

1. Immaturity. I was growing faster than he was and he "never left home." I am still married to him, but the "old man" is now dead and the "new man" came forth from rebirth under the blood of Jesus.

2. Beliefs. I was moving away from worldly activities and towards Christ. We're still great friends but on separate pages now.

3. Hunger for God. Our faith was dead until we encountered the Holy Ghost. What a blessing!

{{{HUGS}}}

EDIT: Ramjet - I empathize with you, friend! You'll always get a thumbs up from me ;^D.

Answer 11

1. He said he was looking after my Cadillac, but had it towed to a scrapyard. I rescued the car and dumped him. You don't do that to a '77 Coupe de Ville.

2. Wow, I can't remember. My relationships with friends tend to keep going. Moving away, that's the only thing that does it.

3. I realized that I didn't believe, and learned that it was ok not to believe.