My fiance and I have been planning on getting married on 8-8-08 at 8pm... but we have also talked about moving it up to the end of this year... the other night we were talking about it and he suggested getting married this halloween... he wants to do a costume wedding and we would dress as Shrek and Fiona (our favorite movie... as well as our pet names for each other) and have our attendants dress as chracters from the Shrek movies as well???? At first I fell in love with the idea... but I'm afraid people will think were stupid... becuz it is our WEDDING... and of course its suppose to be a memorable day and it would be... it would be something nobody would ever forget.... so why do i feel like its a dumb idea when I want to do it???? If you could help me and give me some advice as well as your oppinion on the whole thing it would be greatly appreciated.... thnx
2007-06-26 14:06:55 · 27 answers · asked by Bride to Be 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Quite frankly the bridal industry has made a mockery of what a wedding is anyway. All it is IS just a big bloody party now filled with created stress.
As far as being a bad idea, no. Plenty of other people have had every theme under the sun from Star Trek to Cinderella. It doesn't matter how you do it, just as long as the day has meaning to you and your ready to accept a mature relationship. To others this might mean that you have a more solemn ceremony, which is all well and good if you wish to celebrate and has the same meaning, but I digress, it's whether your mentally ready for the changes and prepare for them.
A 'wedding' is just the extra cream. Enjoy yourselves and prepare well.
2007-06-29 07:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle_Wills 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My fiance and I almost decided upon a Halloween wedding, too. We LOVE Halloween and costumes and all the fun that goes along with it.
However...
If you have kids someday, you'll want Halloween to be special for them and suddenly the day is about the kids and may be harder to celebrate your anniversary with just your husband.
What we're doing is getting married on the other end of the month (October 1st) so October can start wonderfully and end the same way (with Halloween). And since you also seem to like numbers (8-8-08 at 8pm) October 1st is also a palindrome (10-01).
I think a costume wedding can be fun - and there's no reason you can't dress in costume on another day of the year other than Halloween - but do think about the future. Will you want your anniversary to be a day where you and your husband can celebrate on your own sometime - even if you have kids (Halloween is a big day for kids)? Will you look back and wonder why you dressed in costumes?
Remember, the people you invite to your wedding are going to be people who know you and love you, so no matter what you decide, they'll be there for you.
Do what makes you happy.
2007-06-26 15:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by clawofiron 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love the idea of a costume party wedding, but not the Shrek/Fiona aspect...I know you love the characters, but...I don't know, there's something that just doesn't sit right with dressing like that for your wedding...couldn't you dress like a famous couple...a couple known for their love...like Cinderella and Prince Charming or something like that? That way, you'd still look wedding appropriate, and so would he...it would come off as a classy halloween party, not a juvenile one...your pix will last a lifetime-do you want your man in a green outfit?
2007-06-26 14:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, do whatever seems romantic and special to you. If you decided not to dress up for the wedding, maybe you could be Shrek and Fiona for the reception? Or for your rehersal dinner?
The only thing I'd be concerned about for a Halloween wedding is considering how many of the guests will have children that would like to participate in the usual trick-or-treat customs. Kids look forward to that holiday for months!
Ultimately, it's YOUR wedding. People get caught up in having the fairy tale, classical dreamy wedding, but everyone's fairy tale wedding is different! If people make fun of your idea of show disapproval, politely tell them that you're grateful for their opinion, but you would like to have your wedding memorable and special from your outlook. Do whatever you want. And congratulations on your engagement!
Best of luck!
2007-06-26 14:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Laura S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Weddings are meant to reflect and celebrate mature commitments, and while at first your idea sounds playful and romantic, what you're describing does sound a little, um, childish. If the whole Fiona and Shrek story has some special meaning to you, maybe it would be best to make it part of your honeymoon, and keep it a special part of your private memories.
This goes for any cartoon or fairy tale theme, not just for Shrek.
2007-06-28 22:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by Ezekiel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're having a wedding that's just you and your intended and a witness, go nuts and do what you want. If, however, you plan to invite others and have pictures taken, take a little more conservative approach to the wedding...make it something that you can look back at in 20 years and be proud! Then have the reception of your dreams! Dress yourselves in the costumes you want, and invite your attendants and guests to do the same. Make the wedding a little more traditional, and show your true colors at the reception.
2007-06-26 14:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by rb29440 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would this mean the Best Man would have to dress up like Donkey? It sounds like it would be a real blast. If you aren't real big on the stiff and formal wedding bit then go for it. I mean it is YOUR wedding. Things to think about might be : how will you feel explaining this to future children; what will you feel 20 years from now?; will you regret not having that fluffy formal affair?; are you giving in because your fiance wants to do this or are you really all in? Whatever you decide I wish you a wonderful wedding and many many happy years together.
2007-06-26 14:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by ladylupus1965 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
my friends did something similar, but the costume part came in at the reception. family came for the wedding, where the two were still bride and groom. then family and friends were at the costume party reception and the couple arrived as bride and groom. i don't know that I would necessarily be fiona and shrek, but that will be your decision. the reception was a blast and everyone had a good time dressing up!
2007-06-26 14:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that u should go ahead with it i know people that got married on Halloween and dressed up and i know people that are having a Gothic wedding so i say go and have a fun wedding and good luck i am getting married august first and our originally date was for Oct 31, 2007 but we changed it
2007-06-27 06:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey, if unique and memorable is what's most important to you, how about making all the groomsmen and bridesmaids wear slices of raw liver on their heads and serving nothing but half-eaten leftovers at the reception? Nobody would ever forget that...
Every marriage encounters its share of highs and lows, and no matter how good your union is, there will be times you'll wonder whether it was the right thing to do. Wouldn't you like to be able to look back on your wedding pictures and be reminded of feelings of hope and the promise of happiness when times get tough? With the approach you're taking, you might find yourself thinking it was all a joke to begin with.
Let your wedding treat the event with some reverence and honor, IMO.
2007-06-26 14:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by mike 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋