my boyfriend is always yelling at me, and he wont listen to me! i do just little things, that he thinks is stupid and yells at me! he used to be so sweet and perfect, and now he just, is all weird! he told me i cant hang out with my friends anymore, but i always have to be with him. he always accuses me of cheating on him too! is this normal? what should i do?
2007-06-26 13:56:09 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Run now! He is trying to isolate you from positive people who care about your well being. He is trying to have control over your life to make you his to order around. Staying (even if he seems to lighten up and begs you to stay) will lead to more harsh treatment.
Here is a poem I read that may predict your future:
I Got Flowers Today!
We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare, I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry cause he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today, and it wasn't mother's day or any other special day.
Last night, he beat me up again, it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral! Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today...
If you are against domestic abuse, please pass this along to everyone, NOT just women.
2007-06-26 14:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by PrivacyNowPlease! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL thats not boyfriend troubles dearest thats just plain old control issues, why the hell are you even asking this?? The guys always yelling at you, he won't listen to you, he thinks even the littlest thing you do is stupid and yells at you for it, your with him all the time you say yet he accuses you of cheating?! Why would you even put up with that ??? But hey if thats what you want then keep on living it but if you seriously want out but don't know how, think about this- imagine you have a kid (hopefully years and even decades from now, when your brain is half finished developing) a daughter and shes in the same position that you are in right now, her boyfriend is treating her the same way, try to think (remember a brain isnt just a space filler in the skull, it works too !) of what advice you'd give her, dont want to be a hypocrite do you? then follow your own advice, yeah it might be hard for you to do , what do I know what I'm talking about? well I do know this for as long as you keep doing what your doing, you're always going to keep getting what you're getting. If you feel you deserve a better guy than go out and find him but if this is what you settle for than thats your problem, not his, your allowing it to continue on like this....but that's just me...
2007-06-26 14:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by Gigi V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. These controlling, jealous men start with yelling, name calling and accusing, and end up slapping, punching, kicking and sometimes killing. What you described sounds a lot like the beginnings of the cycle of abuse that you see in cases of domestic violence. Do not marry or have children with this man, you'd be placing yourself in great danger. The stress of dealing with a situation you can't control (like stopping a baby from crying for instance) for a control freak with an anger management problem could result in great bodily harm to you and or the baby. Get away from this dude while you can. Good luck!
2007-06-26 14:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kalamazoo Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Non of this is normal. I feel that there is something going on with him. You have the right to hang out with your friends. If he's accusing you of cheating and you havent then maybe hes the one up to something. I went threw this before. My ex always accused me of cheating and i found out he was the one sneaking around on me. You dont deserve to be controled. Stand up for yourself and tell him how you feel about his. If he starts yelling walk away or ask him to leave untill he can be mature and have a respectful conversation.
2007-06-26 14:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My babies father is sort of like that. He was soo nice when I first met him ( I bragged about him all the time to friends). Then he turned all psycho on me and if I want to go to the grocery store he'll ask to see my receipt to look at the time on it to make sure I was really there and not with some guy. He also broke my cell phone because one of my guy friends called (completely innocent, not even an attractive guy). He'll leave a hundred messages on my answering machine and he calls me a liar when I tell him the truth! He's way over protective and jealous. So I feel where your coming from, it's not a fun situation to be in.
2007-06-26 14:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Marie Jane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should yell at you or talk down to you. If he is your boyfriend then he should respect you more than that. He seems to be trying to take total control of you by not wanting you around your friends. Be careful! If you haven't given him any reason to think that you are cheating - then he may be...and it's a way for him to get rid of his own guilt.
Be really careful of this guy...control and jealousy aren't good qualities in a relationship.
2007-06-26 14:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by baseball mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds exactly like an ex boyfriend i had, who was emotionally abusive
you need to get out of that relationship right away. he was sweet the first two months then his true colors showed. the fact that he is always accusing you of cheating probably means that he is cheating on you. no one should tell you who you can and cannot hang out with. dump his *** right away and try to stay away from him at all costs.
2007-06-26 14:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by BeachGurl897 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, get out or away from him! No partner, girl or guy should ever tell you who you can hang out with and that you always have to be with him. There is differently a problem here. I think you need to give him some space while you try and figure out what that is whether you love him or not.
2007-06-26 13:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not normal he wants to control u and be the boss of u dont let him go there and take control of your life ur a human being who does he think heis anyway??if he truly loved you he would let you do what makes u happy and trust you so for your sake you shuold get out of the relationship before he does something horrible it really does sound serious. If it gets that far you should talk to somebody about it.
2007-06-26 14:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by Ivona R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this young man has a whole lot of issue and rage!!! He is a controlling freak... Can you see a pattern in his behaviour? It is st airing you in the face... Sooner or later if you stay with him, he will hit you (if he hasn't done it yet) and even say he is sorry but he was a bit enraged and ask for forgiveness, then he will want to choose your friends, maybe he even cut you off from family members. I smell trouble get out now and run for your life.
2007-06-26 14:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋