Is it rare to have manners these days?

Question

I counted the rude people I encountered today, and then I ran out of fingers and toes..........

Freestyle 10345- Exactly where in my question did I say it was only young people that are rude???? I think you have read into my question incorrectly...

Answer 1

Well I am a 15 year old male. I believe some of your answers are even rude. Not trying to mean, but it isn't just the kids these days, I have had several encounters with ADULTS that don't show any kind of manners. I have held the door open at places for adults all the time. In one day I counted 10 times I held the door open and I think ummm ZERO said thank you. Oh well at least I am a big fan of manners. I always have to use them no matter what.

Soo do i think it is rare? Sure do.

Answer 2

manners are a matter of opinion. I often feel that people who comment on other's manners are somewhat lacking in self-awareness. You have spent the day focussing on the negative. What you think about you will attract. Have a look at 'The Secret' and the Law of Attraction. It's just come out as a book. Asda are selling it. www.eft-talk.com will also give you some incite and help you to see the good in people and the common humanity that links all our desires. Remember bad manners are not personal...

Answer 3

It seems that manners are too much to ask from the majority of people, right across the age spectrum - I have encountered very bad manners, sometimes even bordering on verbal assault. I, personally was taught to have good manners and to try to be nice to everyone, but in today's world - rude and uncouth people seem to fare better. Kindness and nice manners - seem to be taken as signs of weakness in me, by some people. But they are very wrong, and if a situation gets out of hand - I can put them down very easily - verbally pointing out to them - in a firm but controlled voice, that I am a nice person and I feel that they would not be very happy to see the obverse of my temperament, and to please leave, before they have to pick a window to leave by. I hate to have to do this, but if allowed to, a situation like that can soon escalate. So with this in mind, I carry out the above exercise and lo and behold, the meek do inherit the earth, by showing how strong they are in reality. Have a good life, and try to rise above fools, sometimes I just tell awkward people that I have then perfect job for them, then I tell them that the circus is see4king a clown, and I feel that the role suits them 100%. Then they either put - up, or shut up - either course is - of course - fine by me. Normally this ends arguments and aids peace, they are too embarrassed to argue - and usually slink away in shame. Hope this is not too strong a remedy for you, actually it is funny, rather than nasty - in most cases, and often gets applause from those nearby. Taking a stand against rude and /or aggressive people is a good thing, and should be actively encouraged by all. Be firm but fair and above all, take care. Cheers --- Dave

Answer 4

Im so polite I held the door open for some people at Victoria coach station. Where Im from the following person would hold the door open and in a small way everyone benefited.

In London no one did this and I was there for some time until a guy said your gonna be there all day doing that. I took the point.

People just dont even bother to acknowledge anyone else anymore. Its sad and leads to a more miserable world to live in.

Answer 5

Maybe you should look for the good in people, focus on that and the rude won't look so intense. Notice and appreciate those that are good and stop rewarding those that are rude by noticing them. Be as nice as those who deserve it. Rude is all over but it will be like the forest and seeing the tree. There are good people out there but sometimes those who are rude over-shadow the good. Don't fall into what those rude people have become, be yourself and maybe pretty soon you won't even notice the rude creations life has to throw at us.

Answer 6

I agree with Biscuit, it has to start with the parents making sure the children have manners and then they in turn will teach their children.

My 2 children aged 8 and 10 are very well behaved, they have good manners, don't run around in shops, we can take them anywhere including 5 start hotels and their headteachers says they are a "delight" to have in his school.

What is so difficult? What is so hard about teaching your children to be polite and have respect for others?

I'm no better parent than anyone else, so why can i do it and others can't?

Answer 7

I always say its nice to be nice or manners cost nothing. If I find a person that is rude I become over polite and they get the message fast and this is elderly and young alike..It can be tempting to give up and treat others as they treat you but don't its all about self respect so don't lose it :)

Answer 8

Rare? It's unheard of to have manners these days! Most people you meet are nasty and arrogant.

My mother is in hospital right now and every nurse I have spoken to has taken my head off when I've asked a simple question. There is absolutely no need for rudeness. Manners cost nothing and there's no excuse for not using them.

Answer 9

I haven't read the other answers because there are so many of them. I have taught my daughter manners from birth, even my parrot says thank you when feed him. My Grandad always said manners cost nothing, I'm always being told what good manners my daughter has but know what the best bit is, I already know, I never need to remind her, it comes natural, just the way i was brought up.

Answer 10

Blame 'stranger danger'. You spend 40 years teaching kids that, and then find

a) twelve year olds are beating up pensioners because, fundamentally, they think they're scary, and

b) the folks that *are* assaulting kids are the ones that they know by name anyway, and therefore don't regard as strangers.

The right thing to teach kids is to know who the grown-up in charge is, and ask them before they go with *anyone* - even sweet Uncle Freddie who always gives them candy, and gets on just fine with Mom & Dad.

Helen