The event has already passed, but I wanted to get some opinions from people.
They told me to dress "casual". In your mind, what does "casual" mean to you?
I am pregnant and have outgrown all my nice clothes. I also just lost my job (I told them I was pregnant and they fired me), therefore I really had no money to buy anything new. So, guess what I wore? Maternity jeans and a t-shirt.
You know what? I told them I couldn't go, but basically I was forced to go. And I had bad morning sickness that day too.
So... I get there and everyone is wearing fancy dresses! I was mortified and Pissed Off! Casual?! Yeah right! It was horrible.
Does that sound even remotely casual to you?
2007-06-26 13:33:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To answer a lot of your questions, I know about the laws regarding pregnancy/sex discrimination and I am working on suing them!! It was just wrong..
And also, I KNOW I should have worn a skirt or a dress.. But I was hoping to get out of going (I desperately did NOT want to go! My fianceés family literally forced me to go), and I didn't want to spend the money on something I would never wear again.
2007-06-26 13:43:41 · update #1
but still... I'm still mad that they said CASUAL and it SO TOTALLY WASN'T!! ughhhhh. (I KNEW IT!!)
2007-06-26 13:44:33 · update #2
I would have dressed like you if it was casual (well, I wouldn't have worn maternity, but you get the idea). I can't imagine wearing fancy dresses. I live where it is a little more casual, but I have NEVER been to a bridal shower where anyone wore fancy dresses. The most dressed up I have gotten for one is when it was at a restaurant / bar type place and I still wasn't very dressed up.
2007-06-26 13:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, where was it held? Because generally I would go off of that. If you know it's a fancy restaurant then you should dress based on the attire you would wear dining there. If it was at a hall, or somewhere you didn't know then you can't be blamed. And really, at this point, it's over. I'm sure you explained you thought it was a casual event and nobody will hold it against you or anything.
2007-06-26 14:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by ShouldBeWorking 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that doesn't sound casual to me at all. Causal is what is comfortable but appropriate. I am comfortable in shorts and sports bra, but I'm not wearing that in public. I think it was rude that they didn't allow you to go, and that the people didn't tell everyone exactly what you should be wearing. If they wanted formal only, then that should be stated in the invitation plainly. Also, I am sorry about your job. That is very wrong. Good luck with getting that sorted out.
2007-06-26 16:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally, to a bridal shower, it is best to wear at least a sort-of fancy sun dress. Necklines shouldn't be low and the dress should not be a mini-dress with a super short lower-half. Nice heels or flats, and a piece of jewelry, too. Nothing should be too fancy though, because this is about the bride, and showing up the bride is baaaad.
However, aside from your question...I believe you have the right to sue your former employer. If I am correct, it is illegal to fire a woman for being pregnant. Or at least, it should be.
2007-06-26 13:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by Alexandra M 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
what you wore sounds casual to me but it seems that at these events people dress up anyway. no matter what the invite says. don't worry about it. as long as you were comfortable. that's what counts.
2007-06-26 13:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody really means it when they say "casual". if it was casual to begin with! then they wouldnt even have mentioned a type of dress code. i think a nice summer dress and for u a long empire dress. or empire waist shirt. i shop at stores like ROSS, strawberries, walmart, and burlington coat factory. you can get something nice at ROSS for $10.
Wear black to look slimmer. here is some nice examples from old navy. you can order online since ur pregnant:
http://www.oldnavy.com/browse/product.do?cid=36308&pid=488826&scid=488826022
http://www.oldnavy.com/browse/product.do?cid=5870&pid=230759&scid=230759042
http://www.oldnavy.com/browse/product.do?cid=36308&pid=436146&scid=436146062
2007-06-26 13:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by dream_girl1414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't a social pretend pas to put on white at a bridal bathe. you'll put on anything colour you desire to put on to the bathe. white and all sun shades of it are reserved for the bride on my own on her marriage ceremony day most effective..except she is having a snowball marriage ceremony that's an all white marriage ceremony wherein every person is requested to put on white or a black and white marriage ceremony that's wherein every person is asked to put on both black or white. however there don't seem to be laws for the bridal bathe.
2016-09-05 09:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are laws that are out there about being fired for being pregnant. I always wear a dress.
2007-06-26 13:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshynebeams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been surprised to find that casual doesn't mean what i thought too. apparently it means like you are going out to dinner at a very nice resturant.
2007-06-26 13:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Psalm91 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone says "casual," ask if they mean "casual" as in jeans or "casual" as in dressy casual.
2007-06-26 15:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋