how do i deal with this?

Question

my dad is really double standard. he's really smart. and im not as smart as him. i can't do simple math. i try. but its hard. like word problems and stuff. and if i just say the wrong answer he calls me an idiot and crap. and says even you're 8 year old cousin can do this. he does it all the time. only when i study with him. i don't want to study with. but i have to. since he's the only one who can help me. it really hurts. and i want to be a doctor. and you have to be really smart. i really don't feel so smart anymore. what should i do?

Answer 1

Tell him how he makes you feel when he calls you names. If you dont think you can do that write him a note.

I can tell that his name calling is really begining to affect your self-esteem

You said you cant solve word problems...Have a look at this link it might help

http://www.studygs.net/mathproblems.htm

Answer 2

Sometimes you have to take dad out of the studing....if you can, you need to talk with your teachers or even get a friend-what about that 8 year old cousin- that can tutor you. It can be hard to study with someone that is close to you like your dad because you want to do well, but the stress of it all is overwelming and effects your abilities. The important thing here is to remember that you keep trying...even if you don't do well, you keep trying. Every single time you study, you do learn something, no matter how small it is, it will make you smarter. I'm very sorry that your dad says those things to you, dads sometimes think if they make you feel not so smart, you'll try harder. It's hard to understand....but you keep trying, never give up on your dream to be a doctor...and even if you don't become a doctor, there are lots of doctors that need people to help them help others. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

If you have a good relationship with your dad then you should be able to suggest that a tutor would be better and that him calling you names is not helping the situation. Tell your teacher to talk to him if you can't. You will not feel better about yourself as long as you are being called those names. You can achieve anything you want just believe that you can. Those word problems can be a little confusing, take your time and do each part of the problem seperately and then see if that works. However; still ask for a tutor.

Answer 4

I am so sorry that you are not getting the help you need from home. If you want to be a doctor, you can still achieve this. Get help from school councilors or other relatives that are more positive. You can do anything you set your mind to. I think it is wonderful you already know what you want to do with your life. That makes you pretty smart. I learned from a class I took in collage to write a note I will see every day saying what I want to achieve. And to look at this everyday. Sounds corny, but it worked! I always wanted to be in Real Estate and I am on my 20th year! You can do it as well. I wish you the very best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Honestly this is not your fault, this is your dads fault. It's hard to learn when people criticize you all the time. Your dad should be encouraging you and helping you to excel, not calling you names and acting childish. You can too be a doctor, but that means alot of studying and working hard, don't let your dad discourage you into giving up your dreams!Tell your dad you need his help not his insults. Good luck with this, I hope things work out for you.

Answer 6

Hi honey,

I am very disappointed that your dad treats you this way. Hi is not smart. I he was, he would understand that everyone learns differently and everyone has weakness and string. Maybe math is your weakness.

Have you been tested for any learning disability, which is very common. It detected, it doesn't label you as being stupid. It is just that your brain processes information and has a diff rent way of learning.

Don't let your dad make you feel insecure. I am very sure you are very good at other things.

Answer 7

Man your dad sounds just like mine. Dont even listen to him man, if you want to be smart then you will be, you just might have to work a little harder than some ppl. But dont let a bad father figure drag you down dude. You should just tell him what your saying here. He'd def. feel like a dick. But your prob not gonna tell him. But just dont give up dude. He's not worth it. Prove him wrong.

Answer 8

I think your dad is being to hard on you. I mean sometimes we don't have a lot of patience and we say the wrong things. Let your dad know how he makes you feel. I mean it's not cool to tell people off. He should be helping you not degrading you.

Answer 9

tell your dad this in a non-confrontational way where he knows you are genuine and not shirking work. he should understand that this is your everest, and screaming at the mountain doesn't make the climb any easier, just makes you out of breath and less likely to succeed. You need help, and he obviously wants to help you too-just show him how you need his aid.

Answer 10

i think he is the problem when someone makes u feel bad u like lose all interest in learning ! and he should just try and help u not make u feel bad for urself ! try studying with out him or with other persons that can help u