How does one become lovable again?

Question

Before you ask, yes im being serious, in a previous question i think i have worked out that i am unloveable so i cannot get a gf. I just dont approach females at all, which makes them think either im gay, have a girlfriend or just generally weird.

Try and keep the maturity age over 20, dont really wanna hear "lol ure gay"

Answer 1

By loving yourself first, who said you're unloveable?!! You did? Well forget that for starters! Look at all your postive qualities how on earth can you be unloveable! Also is it lack of confidence that makes you not approach females? Try working on that. Females are just humans too ya know, just look at them as new friends first. x

Answer 2

Perhaps you need a bit growing up to do. If a guy doesn't talk to girls I don't assume he's gay. I don't get why you put the emphasis on that. (Either someone told you they thought you were or you have self doubt in your own sexuality).

You've already established that you don't approach girls and that makes you unlovable. If that's the case the remedy would be to approach girls. Start talking to girls, even if it's just as friends. If you have to, talk to a girl you're not attracted to and work you way up.

Answer 3

Ofcourse you're not unlovable, I do think your confidence is very low right now though.
I don't think it has to do with self esteem, or self image, you're just "out of practice", ask anyone whose just gotton out of a long term relationship, they're out of practice and it's scary getting back out there.
1.Go get a great hair cut, not from super cuts, but a good place, spend about 30 bucks.
2. Get some nice "cool" clothes.
I think in your previous post you said you had female friends, bring one with you to help you pick out some stuff.
You needn't spend alot, but you need to feel current with times.
3. Get out there, go out with a group of girls or guys, have fun!! Happy hours after work are great, church is great. The girl of your dreams might not go to that church, but maybe her friends do.
4. Casually, or not so, depending on how good of friends these girls are, express to them your desire to meet some girls. Believe me, we love to set people up! It will be their mission to find you a dance partner at the club.
5. Baby steps and don't let the first few no's scare you.

Approaching women for dummies:
We love to be told we're pretty, whether verbally or just by your stare. When I say stare, I don't mean in a creepy way, but you can let her know you she's got your attention, you'll know if she's approachable by her reaction. Don't bother if she's snooty.
Be a gentleman, do offer to buy her a drink, open her door, bring flowers on the first date.
Women want to be cherished. I almost forgot, treat yourself to some nice cologne. Use it sparingly.
Let us know how it went!!

Answer 4

well lovable huh. as silly as this one sounds it all starts with personal hygiene. You gotta smell good, clean hair, armpits, and balls. Then you should dress the part because you dont have to be the best dressed but girls pick up on how you present yourself. Next comes flirting. You have to know the signs that women give off that say "hey I'm feeling you, but you have to chase me"
Then there is the conversation. A woman will tell you the most about herself when she talks. Listen to her tone, the words she uses, and body language. It'll tell you if she is shy, dominate, intelligent, or insecure.
Be able to really listen to everything she says.
Now you have to be able to make conversation. Do your best to re-direct the conversation to her as much as possible before you talk about yourself. I mean bits and pieces of you, but let her take to lead role.
Now if you can understand all these things then go for it. But you are lovable even with out all this stuff.

Answer 5

beat up who ever thinks your gay