Is it wrong to nappy your child ? Your opinion.....?

Question

I read an online article about how an 8 year old's wetting fustrated her mother so much in that she bought and changed her into older child size terry towelling nappies and plastic pants at night and sometimes day.
Despite her daughter feeling embarassed/shameful and loss of self-esteem by her very babyish underwear and pins, do you think this is a 'cruel' punishment ? Her mother refused her disposables. I think it's terrible to make an 8 yr old wear these.

Answer 1

The child isn't doing it on purpose so it's unfair to punish her. The child needs reassurance and love, not shame. The mother should allow the child to wear disposable training pants at least. They're made just for this kind of scenario.

Answer 2

For the most part, I agree with the others that this isn't the best way to handle things. On the other hand I don't like giving a child that young a medication to solve the problem either.

So many times we always look to pills to solve our problems, it's no wonder that there are so many drug abusers out there. I'd venture to say that the majority of them started by taking a pill to fix this or a syrup to fix that or some other medication to cure somegthing else. It seems to me we are over medicating our children when there are other ways to take care of a situation.

Is a nappie on an 8 year old the best way to solve this problem? I don't know, there isn't enough information provided to make that call, but depending on the circumstances, it could be one solution to the problem.

Maybe the child is doing it deliberately, that is something we don't know. If there is no other reason than the child is just being stubborn about something then sure, I have no problem putting her into a nappie and plastic pants to solve the problem.

So much depends on what we don't know for any of us to make a final decision as to whether it is a good way to go or not. Every circumstance is different.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I agree. Instead of the mother helping her daughter out w/ her problem, she let her anger and frustration get the best of her and make a wrong decison. All she had to do was sit down w/ her daughter and talk to her. Maybe she was having issues outside the home or maybe she just had a bladder problem. I know the mother thought that by 8yrs old she shouldn't be wetting herself but sometimes these things happen. She did nothing to solve the problem but simply increased the problem.

Answer 4

Well, diapers aren't going to fix anything.
It's more about self control. There are books and so many other better ways to handle this.

A better question would be...
Why are we discussing some random 8 year old that you read about online?
If it was someone you knew, then there'd be a point and a goal to this discussion. Otherwise, um...?

Answer 5

I would never do such a thing, my brother wet the bed til her was almost 10. My mom just stopped giving him anything to drink 1-2 hrs before bed, made him go to the bathroom before bed, she would also at 4am when she would get up in the morning, wake him up to go the bathroom and he had a plastic cover on his mattress, until he learned to control it himself. And w/in about 6 months he was doing well on his own

Answer 6

Sounds very harsh and terribly embarrassing for the child.

Answer 7

sounds like she really needs to take the child to a specialist..

Answer 8

Yes. That is horrible. This is medical/genetics. They have medication for this. My neice had this problem until she took the medication

Answer 9

Shouldn't your question be, "Did this solve the problem?"