having a baby at 16?

Question

im 16 years old, and ive met the most wonderful lad ever (also my assistant manager at work) i really want a baby. but am scared incase my life is ruined, because i would also like to go to university. and make something of my life. will i be ruining my life?

Answer 1

I was 16 when I had my first child. Trust me, wait. Although I love him with all my heart, you will regret it. You have so much time to have a baby. However, you only have a couple of years left as a care free teenager. College is such a cool experience, don't deny yourself that experience. Also, you are only thinking of you. What about a baby coming into a world and you aren't financially stable enough to take care of him, or provide a good home for him, or take him places where other families go. You only want a baby for selfish reasons, not the best interest of the child. WAIT! PLEASE!

Answer 2

Just think about spending the next 6 years talking baby talk and gooing. While your friends are getting good jobs, and meeting nice men that take them out to dinner and the movies, among many other things.
Getting your own apartment would be so much fun if you had money to fix it up with nice furniture and things. But you will not have anything like that because you will be paying for poopee diapers. Tons of formula and baby things. As they need thousands of dollars worth of just the nesessary things, like a walker, bed, a high chair, car seat, swing, bath table, not to mention all those cute toys, and clothes as they grow very fast and it is almost impossible to keep up with clothes.

Of course there will never any money for what you want. And as if that wasn't bad enough, you will have to fight to keep your husband home with a screaming crying baby most of the time. He won't help you clean the house and do the laundry cause he will be b_tching about working all day to feed you and that baby. Are you getting the picture? Many of girls your age have made that mistake. And you have made a mistake.

Talk to some professional helpers, like planned parenthood. Get some sound advice. You don't have to give up your life and your future, but it may be best to give up this baby. Don't you feel guilty about this, because it is the best thing you could do for your baby. You will have other babies when you are older and more prepaired mentally and financially. I have been there, honey, and you need to get a life for yourself, before you can nurture another life. I truely wish you the best of luck, and a great future.

Answer 3

Not so much ruin your life as much as it will make it more stressful. From personal experience I can say theres nothing more stressful for an 18 year old than figuring out what you're going to do with your life after high school. You sort of feel like everyone is moving past you, and having a baby will only increase that anxiety. You have to consider making room for baby and school if thats what you want, not to mention the baby sitting expense. You'll have to start considering whether you'll even be able to leave your town, having the convenience of family near by to help you might hinder your school choices, or destroy them all together. You have all your life after school to have kids, just take it easy for now. Trust me once you get into studying and preparing for college you'll start to wonder how you ever thought you even had time to breathe. Lol. *Good Luck* *smiles*

Answer 4

I can't tell you what decision is best for you since I don't know you that well. But think of it this way the average female to be 90 and menopause starts around fifty. So you have approxiamately 34 years to have a baby and you will probably enjoy the baby more when you are older, because if you do this now later on you might have regretts about not going to university. But like I said it is your choice, but I hope that you have a strong support system at home to help you make this decision, because everything is always harder if your by yourself. It might help to make a pros and cons list. Last but not least will this "most wonderful lad" hag around to help you and if he would make a good dad. To add to that have you discussed this with him beause if you do get pregnant it won't only change your life. But alot of peoples' lives. Think!! What am I giving up, what am I gaining, will I regett this, who will I effect, and what will it change? Good Luck =)

Answer 5

You should definitely wait. Having a baby at such a young age will cause you to have to grow up faster than you should. It will give you responsibilities that a person your shouldn't have to worry about. I know you probably don't want to hear this but this lad at work might be a great guy but he might not be the one for you. So you need to give it time to make sure he is. If you had a baby now and found out later he wasn't the one, that would be terrible for the baby. Not to mention you. You would then be a single mother having to care for the baby alone. I'm not saying he's not the one (he could be) I'm just saying you need to wait and let the relationship grow.

Answer 6

I got pregnant at 16, and although it didn't ruin my life, it sure as hell changed it alot, please wait a while, u still have so much 2 do at your age and if u have a baby now u will miss out on so much, a baby needs round the clock care, doesn't matter if u sick r just while tired u still have 2 tend 2 it, and u might think u with a great guy, but a baby would change all that, puts u your relationship under alot of pressure.

Answer 7

if he loves you back as much as you love him just give each other a promise ring that tells you guys that you will stick together for a long time. UNless you change your mind l8r and you want to break up him for some strange reason, then ofcourse, that is an exeption, but you GOTTA wait! My grandmother had my aunt when she said 16 and although she loves my aunt SO mcuh she never got to go to university, (which she regretted so so so so so so much) and never got a proper job, etc. But dont worry, you are not alone. A lot of people meet someone very very special and want to stay with them 4ever and have a baby, but you need patience. Soon enough that day will come, sooner than you think!

Answer 8

i am speaking from experience i was 16 (almost 17) when i gave birth to my first child 4 years ago, i dont ever regret having him but i will say that it is NOT as easy as you think as other people havee said you need money mostly to take care of a baby they are expensive.
not only that but at 16 you might think you are ready to have a child but i can tell you if you were to have one you would not be emotionally ready the chances of you getting the "baby blues" are much higher and its not a nice thing to go through i never suffered from it myself but i watched a few of my friends fall apart because of it and neglected their babies for a while (they had their babies not long after i did) i was used to babysitting and always looking after my younger brother and sister but i can tell you now having your own does not compare at all there is no one to give that child back to at the end of the day or when there is something wrong.... its also better to be in a STABLE RELATIONSHIP before even considering it i am lucky i am still with the father of my child and i also had our second 3 months ago please dont have a baby yet give yourself a couple of years atleast enjoy being a teenager you have no idea what you will miss out on if you have one now.... you cant just go out when you want to and expect to find a babysitter all the time its not that easy you will be doing yourself a favour by really thinking things through and waiting till you are a couple of years older

Answer 9

If your already pregnant it is a little too late to be asking this question. You'll have to make do and provide for baby.

It really isn't recomended to have children till you get to be a few years older. It takes financal stability and a good solid marriage. You should not let your hormones or your emotions rule what you crave at such a young age.
Many girls have gotten pregnant in hopes that the guy would marry them too. Sorry it doesn't make a good relationship so don't be putting the cart before the horse. It makes for anger and a rough road ahead for all involved.

Get your education and a career first. When you do get married and have children your going to need it for survival.

Answer 10

I had my first child right after my 17th b-day my 2nd when
I was 19, and my 3rd this year I am 29 now. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world but if could chose again would have waited (with the first 2). I made it through nursing school and have a good job now but it was a struggle all the way. I suggest you enjoy your youth have some fun get a education then settle down GET MARRIED enjoy your marriage with your husband for at least a year then try having a baby.