hi, i was just wondering. my daughter likes to do stuff with her boyfriend and she is only 12. Like, she has already had sex. how do i get her to stop?
2007-06-26 12:21:07 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's too late to stop her. She's taking after her mom. I'm sorry but if you didn't want her following in your footsteps, then you should have talked to her more and made sure she understood the consequences.
2007-06-26 12:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You need to take charge of your daughter's well-being. The fact that you know she's had sex and she's only 12 means that you have allowed her to be sexually abused - she is too young to understand what she is really doing, and too young to give consent, so it was statutory rape. You need to call the cops and social services IMMEDIATELY and report the situation. Ban that boy from ever entering your home or getting near your daughter again.
You need to set some rules down for your daughter unless you want her repeating the same mistakes you made. I know your daughter may be a blessing in your life, but getting pregnant at 15 was not in your best interest.
2007-06-26 12:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am also your age, and if she was mines I would not let her date until she was 16 years old not 12! That' way to young! You should have a long sex talk with her as well. In order to get her to stop just be her mom not her best friend!
2007-06-26 12:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Capri8 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say this but it is a proven fact that "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree". No matter how hard we try as kids to be different than our parents, in the end we usually find ourselves being a lot like them. So my suggestion to you is to look into your past, see your mistakes, and then try to head your daughter in the right direction before she makes the same ones. You are her mother, not her "friend", and it is your responsibility to enforce rules and standards upon her that will make her lilfe better. It's a really tough job, I know, but if you don't do it...no one else will either. Do you want her to have children at age 15? You know what it's like, so you have to help guide her. Dont allow her to have the access to boys where sex could occur, talk to her about the whole issue, and try to get her to make the decision for herself that it's better for her to wait till she's older before messing around with boys. Try to get her focused on her school and future. I'm not real churchy, but it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to get her involved with one and in the youth activities. They may help steer her in the right direction.
2007-06-26 12:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At this point I don't think you can get her to stop but, as long as she is being safe then you should be o.k. with it. I'm not saying let her do what she wants but you know girls. At that age curiousity and confusion are very similar. It's up to you momma to explain to her what she is getting into and what many BOYS her age are thinking solely of. Love is not an issue at this age and you know they throw that out alot for all the wrong reasons. So be careful and be involved, you know it's not going to stop at that. Good luck Young momma!
P.S. Don't worry about the idiots leaving stupid comments. You know what your doing and I commend you. Later
2007-06-26 12:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Fili 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh heck no! 12-year-old girls aren't supposed to be having sex. Talk to her. From my calculations, your had her when you were 15, and I'm guessing motherhood at such a young age was tough. Explain to her what that was like so that she'll be careful, and to stop what she's doing.
2007-06-26 12:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You send her to military/boarding school and hope that they straighten her out. Or you can try telling her that SHE IS GONNA DIE (from an STD or anything) sooner or later if she keeps going the way she is going. Plus, no guys are gonna wanna go with her if she has already has sex in 6th grade! Her life is pretty much over when she gets pregnant. Does she have a dad?
2007-06-26 12:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by alternrockbabe 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, why have you let your daughter have a boyfriend??? She is too young for that. I feel as though you should have had a tighter grip on her and what she does.
NOW, you have to put an end to everything that she's doing. Start by telling her she has to break it off with her boyfriend.
2007-06-26 12:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by Alisha 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to NOT see him again until he gets it through his mind that he shouldn't be acting like that around your daughter. At 12 years old...they shouldn't even think about sex much less do it!
Hope she ...um...finds the path! Lol, good luck!
2007-06-26 12:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
...........You're kidding me. No, seriously, you hafta be joking. I didn't even kiss a guy until recently (I'm all of sixteen)
You're the mom! Sit her down and give her a good talking to! Don't ground her, she might run away from home to meet up with this guy. There's not much you can say...you'll just have to be stricter. Insist on having other people go out with them. Be at home when he's over. Etc.
2007-06-26 12:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you and I were both 15 when we had children. 26 with an 11 year old. What could have our parents done to stop us? NOTHING! Talk to her, don't get mad!!!!!!! Tell her that if she is sexually active that you do not promote it but if she is you want her to be safe, take her to the doctor and get her on the pill. Buy her condoms and have THE TALK with her and give them to her (for whenever) I told my son when he is ready I will buy them. I hate the fact that he could be way before he is ready, but if he is going to do it I want him to do it right! I don't know about you but I don't want to be granny at 30!
2007-06-26 12:29:10 · answer #11 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋