My brother has been invited to a wedding for a co-worker he used to be very close to. He won't be attending the wedding and wants to know if $50 is an appropriate gift to send or if he should send more.
I should also mention the groom works part-time under my brother and therefore probably knows how much money he makes.
I think $50 is fine considering their relationship but other thoughts would be appriciated!
Thanks!
Thanks!
2007-06-26 11:42:07 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The cost of a wedding gift is usually pegged to how much it would cost to feed the guest. Since he won't be attending, $50 is more than enough.
2007-06-26 11:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Carlo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Appropriateness depends on what the giver can afford. It sounds like your brother can afford $50, and if so, that's a perfectly fine amount. (I might give a different answer if, say, your brother was supporting a family of six on a low-paying job, was putting himself through college at night, and was trying to pay off medical bills from a lengthy hospitalization.)
Whether he gives a cash or gift card or gift depends on his relationship with the groom and his and the groom's cultural heritage. In some Asian cultures, cash gifts are normal. (And frankly, I've never heard of a newlywed couple getting offended at receiving a cash gift because it was tacky.)
I also respectfully disagree that the cost of a gift is supposed to have some relationship to the cost of the meal served to the guests. The gift isn't an admission ticket. I have attended weddings where the meals were $300-$500 hundred dollars per head (this is in LA, and I'm sure this is pretty common in NYC, Boston, SF, and other places). Would the newlyweds be offended if Grandma (who is living on a fixed income) had the audacity to eat the pricey meal but not pony up a $300 gift? Of course not.
Your brother sounds very generous and thoughtful. Wish he were my boss. Good luck to him!
2007-06-26 12:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course..that is a very generous gift. The typical dinner plate at a wedding today is around $75.00 and then giving a little gift will be plenty. The gift at the shower is usually your "big" gift that you bring. The envelope that you give at the reception is to help pay for the wedding and then a little extra.
2016-05-21 03:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that the groom might know how much your brother makes has no bearing on gift giving at all. The amount of the gift is decided by the GIVER of the gift not the one recieving the gift. If the groom would think your brother is cheap in sending $50.00 then maybe the groom doesn't deserve ANY gift.
2007-06-26 12:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! $50 is fine, but . . .
Have him buy a $50 gift; do not just give $50 bucks, that would seem like an insult. Any amount of cash from a boss would seem like he cannot provide.
He should find out where they are registered and just buy a nice gift for about $50. And if it is less, well then it is what they asked for.
2007-06-26 11:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by Michael 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think $50 would be fine. He's not going to the wedding so it won't cost the couple for him to attend. I would go with $50.
2007-06-26 11:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
$50 is definitely plenty. The average is $25 and you usually only get more than $25 if it's family. You don't want to make the groom feel uncomfortable if more than $50 was given. He would feel indebted to your brother at work.
2007-06-26 12:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by amandajensen87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that $50.00 is a nice gift. I would check to see if they are registered at a store and buy them something off their list or even give them a gift certificate for $50.00 to store that the couple likes. It would be nice to get them a gift that might last so they will remember you in years to come. The only draw back with a money gift is that once it's spent it's gone forever.
2007-06-26 11:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gift that costs at LEAST $50 is more appropriate. He needs to find the registry and order something from there. It's the proper thing to do, despite the advice to the contrary given here.
2007-06-26 11:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least consider sending it in the form of a gift card though. It would be a lot more personal then sending cash or check. Potentially something like bed bath and beyond could be a good idea.
2007-06-26 11:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋