I'm feeling really lonely here. Just need a few nice words eh?

Question

I'm not quite sure what to say. I have a pretty okay life I guess. A beautiful child, good friends etc. But every so often, this horrible feeling comes over me where I feel like just running away and being someone else. At the moment I feel trapped, trapped in my life, trapped. I live in a tiny town in Ireland and I'm on benefits; I also go to university. The thing is, I know this feeling will pass, but right now I feel like life is not worth anything...yes I know I have a daughter...trust me that stops me doing anything stupid. Any suggestions on books that might help, or something that has helped others

To all of you, who in the last few minutes, took the time to respond, cheers. I'm in tears but I don't feel so alone. Thank you. Captain S...cheers

and I think I shall check out bbc health forum...to the lady from the North, I shall pray for you too.

Answer 1

yeah the bible (:-)

Answer 2

Hey hun, feeling a bit glass half empty? From the outside, it looks like you have the seeds of a nice life. You have a child, which makes you a mother, which is the most beautiful thing in the world by itself. Then you are living in a small village in Ireland. I know people who'd pay good money for that, just think you could be living in a run down council estate in Manchester with drug dealers on your corner, carrying guns. And then you at University, you don't say what you are doing, but anything is good. Yes, you don't have any money at the moment, and you can't do the things you would like to do, but just keep telling yourself "tiny acorns" your life will grow soon, and you have the advantage that you are in fertile soil, and not on barren ground.

Answer 3

Well, darling, some will say "faith", others will say "love" and still some will tell you that it's hard work that makes like seem worth living.

But the truth is that we all go through what you're feeling, "happy feet", i sometimes refer to my wish be be somewhere, someone else.

Only you can define your purpose, your reason for even exisitng. That may help and may not, but know this...

We are all, each and every one, including you my dear, precious, rare and worth the space we occupy, loved and needed in the world.

We all have something special to contribute, you might try giving a bit of time to others. But do stay busy, keep your mind on the light side, your hands occupied and never let your heart get so full that you don't reach out and ask for someone to take your hand.

God bless you, darling. You will be OK. And I'll be sending gentle thoughts your way.

Answer 4

I am sorry you feel trapped. I live in a small town in Minnesota, America. Sometimes I feel that way too. But I have five kids and thank God for each one of them. Don't get down on yourself. I know for a fact that things could be worse. I don't know any books that might help but I know that praying to God helps me through tough moments. If you ever need someone to talk to I don't mind the company. I realize how some people feel about Americans but we're all not that way. I also wanted to tell you that you're doing a great job with your daughter. Its nice to know I'm not the only one who feels trapped sometimes. SusanF

Answer 5

I'm feeling lonely tonight too but I keep telling myself it will pass. Good on you for keeping up your education and a child, I have no kids and just finished a degree, lost my love during my finals long story but though it's been hell I know things will improve soon, I'm tempted to start reading popular psychology books myself but having studied the subject I'm a little cynical about th material, i think people are better off gettingout and mixing in society and thus making more contacts and so the chance of friends and partners in life, this could be difficult for you being in college but if it's any help college will end soon and you can earn eough to perhaps chage location and start a new life elswhere not so lonely.
Anyway lets face it when its night time it's always the worst, i got in bed tonight and looked at the empty space in the bed beside me wishing he was here just for one night. now i'm say ig stop you are better off without hm keep strong kep going and soon things will be a whole lot better, I'm in Dublin and the weather this past month has been enough to put anyone in the doldrums.
So heres a hug from me I know how you feel we can be strong together tonight and tomorrow you must make it your business to call on a friend or family member it's important to talk to people every day especially if you're feeling low, justtalking about how you feel can help and just get out and about tire yourself out and you may feel better tomorrow night.
Chin up. Loneliness cant last forever we'll be fine!!

Answer 6

You know you're self better than anyone else, sometimes we may feel that life is way too complicated, and maybe having a child and plus being a student maybe overwhelming for you. You said that you feel trapped, maybe because youe a a mother, and that stops you from doing many things, because you have the responsibility as a parent to take care of your child.
Maybe your feeling this way due to depression after birth, sometimes it's normal because your not used to having another person to care for so much. I believe that because you have already defined that this feeling will pass, you will go pass this and be strong for your daughter.

Answer 7

Go see a doctor friend, really i feel the same all the time only i have 2 children which is wat stops me doing anything silly although i have to admit i tried once a cry for help really i think, Anyway im from Northern Ireland which probably adds to the depression fs, Just think it has to get better, there has to b more to life, What about ur daughters father r u together cud he help u threw this if not go c a doctor he cud give u sumthing or speak to a family member it usually helps to get it out and talk.

Kind regards good luck ull over come it, u have to be there to see your little girl grow up, or who will tell her about her mummy, x.

Answer 8

I dont have any books or anything but i can tell you this. You arent the only one that feels this way. You just have to find things that make you happy and keep you busy. Your life is worth a lot. If it wasnt i dont think you would be here. You have a beautiful daughter (im sure) and youre intelligent. You can do so much. If you dont think Your life is not worth anything ill let you know right now that i think it is.

Answer 9

Hey, I bet you're a real sweetheart really. Have a look in the mirror and you'll see a beautiful person who's just having a bit of a rough time at the mo. Don't worry, it will soon pass. Then you will be ready to get out into a troubled world and spread a little happiness.
Life is to short not to.
Stay lucky!!!

Answer 10

what has helped me is to plan little treats to look forward to ,like going to the hairdresser, day out in the shops ,try and get a day away to the sea side, lunch with a friend,and stuff like that ,it is easy to get down sometimes put if you have something planned it makes it easier,,planning on taking the kids to the zoo next on the train,makes life enjoyable,SO can get through the boring ,tiring bits,hope you feel better soon, also having a good old moan with a Friend if you feel really down have a chat with the doctor and you might need anti depressants,as i have had a few friends that they have helped

Answer 11

You know what I think you should do is talk to someone you don't even need to talk to anyone you know give Breathing Space a call it's good to talk to random strangers on the phone and get some professional advice without other people know your buisness everyone feels low at times and you shouldn't close yourself away and keep it all in let it out girl!
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