A guy is going to buy me dinner at a place 2 hours away... and I am going to buy dessert. According to answers from my previous question, this is totally a DATE. However, I don't want to go on a DATE with him. How can I make it so that this IS NOT a date? I mean, I still want to go eat with him and all, but I just don't want it to be a DATE, you know? What can I tell him? What should I do?
2007-06-26 11:32:47 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think a change in the setting would help. Or a change in what you do... You could say "my friends and I have been wanting to go ...w/e...", do you mind if we do that instead since we're just planning to go out for dinner? That way, you can kinda show him you're not putting a lot of thought or anything into the "date". Also, maybe make sure that w/e you wear is just casual or anything you would normally wear on a night out with friends... you kinda just want to make sure that you don't lead him wrong... if your partner or date or w/e doesn't pick up on the fact that you guys are on a date...and he shows interest in pursuing things, it might be good to just come clean and tell him... the important thing is NOT to lead him on even if you don't want things getting complicated...
2007-06-26 11:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by navi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know right up front that you will not make the 2 hour drive (4 hours round trip?!) . Insist that you have dinner at a nearby place that you feel comfortable with. Since this is not a DATE, you can make or change the arrangements as you wish. And to make sure it is not a date, drive yourself, don't rely on him for transportation. And since it is your favorite place to go, perhaps you will have a few friendly faces there to put you at ease. . .
2007-06-26 11:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by cgminime 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is a date but if you don't want to consider it a date then you first need to stop over analyzing it. You seem to be making a way bigger deal of this than you need to. Just relax and have a good time, who cares weather it's classified as a date or not, it's all in what you make of it!
2007-06-26 11:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say I just want to be Friends straight out. Or on the date hint around how or how you're not ready to go on dates and your Glad that you and him can be friends with out thinking about that kind of stuff at the moment,
2007-06-26 11:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by ladyinred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth. You like hanging out with him, but only as friends. tell him that it is not a date of any kind and though you think he's a nice guy and all, you're just not in to it yet. be nice to him, that's a long drive, you don't want to end up on the curb.
good luck
2007-06-26 11:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you talk to him, say something along the lines of, "So, we're going as just friends, right?" or as something more subtle [but could possibly be more cruel], you could say, "So even though I've said we're just going as friends, everybody still thinks this is a date". This makes you seem a little clueless but, he'll get the hint nonetheless.
2007-06-26 11:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you friends? If you're good friends or something just be like "Hey! This isn't a date! Right?" That's what I wouldn't do. I'm not very subtle with that kinda stuff.
If you're both buying that's sorta more friendly anyway. If he was buying it all then it'd be more date-ish.
2007-06-26 11:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to bring a friend along, and take one yourself and go to a movie after
or
if its a special place
tell him straight you dont want a date but a friendly dinner as friends etc
sorry if this doesnt work
no plan is foolproof
stickfigureman123456789
2007-06-26 11:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that it's great that you can go out as friends without there being any awkwardness and offer to pay half. He may or may not take you up on that offer. If it isn't a date you should be ready to pay your share, unless you really are leading him on and looking for a free meal.
2007-06-26 11:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is: You each buy your own dinner and your own dessert and then its not really a date.
Make sure its not a romantic restraunt. Go to like a Mega-Buffett-Bar-All-You-Can -Eat-George-Fest. Thats definatly not in the romantic category
2007-06-26 11:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by milkman24_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋