My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years and lived together for over 1. We are both very content with our current situation and plan to get married when the time is right, I am 24 and he is 30. How do I respond when my mom and grandma ask "When are you guys getting married" or "when am I going to have a grandchild/great grandchild?" My 21 year old cousin just got married and I feel this is way too young and I don't feel I am in any rush. They say these things everytime we get together, even in front of other people and insinuate something is wrong with me for not being married by now. My mom used to defend me to my grandma, but as I get older she starts joining in too. I find these comments incredibly rude, but want to respect my family, any good responses for this uncomfortable situation?
2007-06-26 11:26:09 · 9 answers · asked by Snarf 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
"When we have something to announce, you'll be the first to know."
2007-06-26 12:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
All of the answers here are very reasonable. But I'd bet you've given reasonable answers to your Mom and Grandma and they still ask.
Next time they ask about a marriage, tell them you're waiting for a good inheritance to get started.
Next time they ask about a grandchild, tell them "in 8 months".
At least you should then enjoy a temporary silence.
2007-06-27 00:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just as plain and simply as you have explained to the community, these words can be spoken to your loved ones. Tell them, you love them and know they want to see you married with children, but that you and your boyfriend are content with your present situation and will marry when you feel the time is right. Tell them you would appreciate if they did not continue to bring it up because it makes you uncomfortable. On the other hand - don't think of them as rude - as our parents age - it is not uncommon for them to want to see that we are 'okay' before they leave us. I was fortunate to have my mother and father live long enough to see my daughter graduate from high school. I would love to have them alive to see my nephew's two lovely children, but they are not. I can only believe that they are in heaven and can see it all. Be patient with them and laugh a little bit if they bring it up. They love you and they can't help it.
2007-06-26 18:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This happens to me all the time. Don't worry... when it happens you will the first to know! You may have to say this a few times but after a while they stop.
2007-06-26 20:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshynebeams 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would sit them down and talk to them politely about how you feel the comments are rude.
Talk with them about how you are not ready yet and try to make them understand your point of view.
Good luck.
2007-06-26 18:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by FOAMY! 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"we are not ready at this point of our relationship"
If they are really rude about it, ask "so when you gonna die?"
Rude reply? Yes, but so are they. Maybe that will sink in to stop badgering you two about getting married.
2007-06-26 22:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say "we're okay how things are for now. With the divorce rate so high, we want to take our time"
2007-06-26 18:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by luv2help 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just simply say, "When the time is right."
2007-06-26 18:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by mrb1017 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"As soon as you stop asking"
2007-06-26 18:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋