2007-06-26 11:25:31 · 21 answers · asked by anonyn55 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Anybody who is helping you pay for the wedding has a say over the guest list whether it is an aunt, or your parents. If they are not helping pay for the wedding then it's entriely your choice.
2007-06-26 11:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well, first of all, how old are the bride and groom? is this a first wedding, or a second? who is paying for the wedding? to tell the truth, there is no such thing as 'typical' anymore. each and every wedding is unique. so, with that said, i notice that many of the other posters are of the opinion that you don't owe your parents anything, that it is 'your day', and to hell with the rest of the world on 'your day'.
from the way you worded the question, it's impossible to tell if you are the parent, or the prospective bride/groom. also, it's impossible to tell if your position is that there are people the parents want invited, and the bride/groom don't want; or if there are people the bride/groom want invited and the parents don't want included. there IS a difference. if there are people the parents want included, it would be best to include them. to those who start shouting that 'we are paying for this wedding...', there have been MANY occasions that those parents paid for their children, (and most likely their friends, as well) while they were growing up. however, if the bride/groom want people, and the parents don't, it's not so clear that those guests be eliminated. again, though, if the parents are paying, they DESERVE more of a say in the way their money is being spent.
2007-06-26 11:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by tuxey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who pays, which is only fair. If the parents of the bride are footing most of the bill, they should receive a correllating say on who they'd like invited. The same thing goes for the bride and groom, or the groom's parents.
2007-06-27 04:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by Constellation 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say no, but I think the bride and groom should also be considerate and take into account that there may be people that the parents may feel they are obliged to invite, and to accommodate those people if they can. If the bride and groom are paying then I would say they should have the final say in who comes.
2007-06-26 22:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y E S . . By mutual agreement the Bride and Groom should invite 1/3 of the guests . . the Bride's Mother and Father should invite 1/3 of the guests . . and the Groom's parents should invite 1/3 of the guests (or a percentage close to that).
Before the invitations are mailed each guest list should be compared for duplicates. If there is an objection to someone being invited to the wedding, it should be discussed maturely, and then voted on (each couple gets one vote).
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A wedding ceremony officiant
2007-06-26 11:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It usually depends on the bride and groom. The best solution is to have a set number of invites for each side of the family. We had a wedding of 250. About 100-120 were immediate close family. We split the remaining to about 25-30 of our close friends and 50 people for each of our parents, whomever they wanted to invite and let them decide. That way your not caught up in the middle.
2007-06-26 11:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by vi3tangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Are they paying? If yes, then they will probably get to give you a few names for the guest list.
My parents told my brother a few names (I believe 6) of people they wanted to attend. All 6 are being invited. I think that there are people in your parents' lives who should be invited. That said, if they don't know you (and are just good friends of the parents) they probably don't need to go! The 6 who my parents wanted to attend have known my brother most of his life so it makes sense that they're there.
2007-06-26 14:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though the couple should be paying for their own wedding, you would still be consulting both sets of parents about who to invite. After all, it's a FAMILY wedding. Both sets of parents would have been to weddings of children of their friends, for example, and may want to reciprocate. Once the two of you have set your budget on how much you can afford to spend on the wedding, it's best to have a family meeting with both sets of parents to go over some preliminary numbers. Then you can begin to budget the style and size of wedding you want to plan.
2007-06-26 15:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. They can SUGGEST, but its up to the bride and groom with who they want to invite.
2007-06-26 12:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't know. my opinion is that it's the bride and the groom who are getting married. It's their special day and they probably want to spend it with the family and friends who know or who they want to be there with them. (if that makes any sense) I mean I don't have kids, but if I ever did, and they got married, I don't know if I would want 20,000 people coming to their wedding because I wouldn't be able to afford alot of stuff for all those people. (like the food and stuff). But this is just my opinion.
2007-06-26 11:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by KU! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that if they are paying for it they can have a say, but if you are shelling out the dough, you should definitely have the final say. More guests means more cost, just remind them of that. Some people feel that they need to invite everyone they have ever met, but I put my foot down and only invited a limited number of people.
2007-06-26 12:30:31 · answer #11 · answered by Holy Macaroni! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋