Getting over it.?

Question

Jesus I can't believe I'm putting my personal life on an answers site on Yahoo.

Anyways, I had a boyfriend. We had been dating for around seven and a half months. I found out that he cheated on me about a month ago, but believed his promises of never doing it again. We got back together later that week. Sadly I found that he did it again. I put my whole heart in this guy. I loved him more than words can describe. Now I feel alone and insecure. He was not only my boyfriend but my best friend.

Help?

Answer 1

You were too ready to trust methinks, happens to us all. But at least you gave it your all and that's what counts. Think of it this way, you would have gone on giving 100% and getting 50 back....eventually something would have gone disastrously wrong. All in all you're best out of it before things go too far, y' know?

Answer 2

Boyfriends and best friends are tough to lose. It sounds like his interests lie elsewhere.

There's a lot of boys out there, and a lot of them who may not cheat on you. I think you've got better things to do than mourn over this guy. Lots of guys probably notice you. Most of them are probably a little shy/afraid to approach you.

I'd say find someone new, but first develop yourself as a person. Develop a strong identity of who you are and who your friends are, and what you want to do. That way, if you have to split in the future, you won't feel alone and insecure.

Answer 3

You feel like that b/c you are still lingerine and getting over it. Time is the best healer and you will soon find peace within yourself. You will look back and not even care about this guy. He didnt appreciate you so best thing to do is to move on as much as it hurts. It is normal to feel insecure/lonely, but once you get back to the dating scene you will see how easy everything is. And you have your whole life ahead of you, so dont let one jerk let you down.

Answer 4

I am sorry and I feel for you....I know all bout betrayal and the alone feelings

If he cheated once he will do it again and again....

You can try and look at it from the point of view that he did not respect and cherish you as he cheated on you....has nothing to do with you …it is not your fault.……

All you can do now is try to move on and let time heal the pain...but what every you do no matter what he says you should not get back with him as it looks like every time he see's what he "thinks" is a better deal he will move on.

Try keeping busy doing different types of thing it helps keep your mind off of it

Best wishes

Answer 5

He is a loser, he isn't worthy of anymore of your attention and devotion.

I know it is much easier said than done, however what you need to do is get out and enjoy life. Meet some friends for a coffee, get out for long walks, watch movies, sign up for a club, class or team. Getting involved and keeping busy will not only open the door up for you to meet new people, it will also help battle the loneliness you are feeling.

Answer 6

I'm sorry that happened to you! It's hard when you put your whole-self on the line. But you live and learn I spose..
You'll feel alone for a while since you loved him so much..but you'll move on. You sound like a great person. Anyone who can love like that is..

Answer 7

girl u need to get over.. u cant be with someone like that... hes a jerk and he dont' deserve u. and if he was a bestfrined as well.. he wouldn't have done that. or at least he should've of told u or broken up with u before he did that

Answer 8

i'm sorry this is hard but he's the wrong guy ..he's manipulating you ..he's a liar ..dump him and find a new one who's really able to take good care of your heart ..