When me and my bf first got together,things were great,we saw each other everyday at work and afterwards. But now after 3 years, things have really cut down and he doesnt txt like he use to,and we dont have a laugh anymore,it's always me who initiates sex first,he doesnt make much effort. He also has this new job which i'm worried he might meet someone there,have we come to the end of the road or is he just bored of me?
2007-06-26 10:45:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't laugh together any more then I think that is the end of the road. A friend of mine who is now a widow, was married for 30 years. She recently told me that her marriage wasn't always smooth but she and her husband always had a good laugh with each other.
She said that her husband was the best and she was grateful for the 30 years they shared.
Now, I'm sorry to say this but as a man I am suspicious that your bf doesn't initiate sex any more. Don't get me wrong, it's always great when a gf takes the initiative but to do it all the time? Alarm bells are ringing.
I suspect he may be getting sex from someone else because he has become bored with you. (I am assuming that you are both in your 20's - 30's).
I could very well be wrong and your bf is constantly tired through overwork or he may have a health problem. However, what you have told us gives me an uneasy feeling.
If I were you, I would ask him why he never initiates sex. But be prepared for an answer that you may not like! On the other hand, better to know if he is cheating on you, don't you think?
Good luck in whatever you decide and I hope that things work out for you.
2007-06-26 12:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Fanshawe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in a rut. Try spicing things up for a change. Send a sexy text message while he is at work. Set up a romantic dinner for when he arrives home. Take a night away from home and stay in a motel. If he hasn't given you a reason to worry about him with someone else, don't do it! You are only hurting yourself by worrying about that. Maybe even try spending a few days apart....one of you go out of town alone or with a friend. If none of that works, just talk to him about how you feel. You never know, he may be having the same feelings.
2007-06-26 17:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a question you should ask him.Maybe not the end of the road but after a while is very easy to fall into a rutine and maybe you need to do exciting new things together , be spontaneous again. Maybe you can still work to save ur relationship.Take the 1st step talk to him, send him sexy txts and try a new look. work together or if he wont its time to move on instead of wasting ur time, whats the point of been together if you dont enjoy eachother???
2007-06-26 18:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by carolina c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably insecure in the new environment and feels exhausted from making a good impression all day. give him some space. he's obviously very secure with you as he doesn't need to chase and text you. relationships have natural ebbs and flows. you seem uptight and trying to push for things. don't initiate sex..leave it and see if it's not fab after a bit of rest time. if you go 6 months without then you need to talk seriously and get some help. but for now just ease off and try being his best friend. are you bored of him?
2007-06-26 17:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say for sure, but it is possible that you have come to the end of the road. I think you should try talking to him about how you feel, he might just be going through a lot and might be thinking of other things.
2007-06-26 17:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe things just aren't as interesting for him as they use to be anymore. Perhaps he felt great while he was trying to win you over and when you discovered new things together. Try to rediscover the fun in your relationship. Try new things together, go out more, and show him in every possible way how much he means to you!
Good Luck!
2007-06-26 17:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by bartyva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's called life and settling in. You want to spice things up then find something you both agree on and do it.
Second of all, you obviously don't trust him if you are worried about him meeting some one at his new job. You need to figure out why you are with a guy you don't trust.
Third of all, you need to figure out why you have abandoment issues.
2007-06-26 17:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sooo sorry but it sounds like he might be having an affair i don't want to put ideas in your head but this happen to my mum and it sounds the same i don't think its you ask him about it and look into things more ask him is he having an affair you will see how he reacts and if he says yes im sorry ..x
2007-06-26 18:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by angel with wings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your romance is over. This is someone you wont want to be with any longer. Sudden changes may mean he has found someone eles and she may intrest him more maybe you should break it off
2007-06-26 17:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by *Young & Beautiful* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasnt married you after all these yrs and all the sex, chances are he is bored.
2007-06-26 17:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋