travel 7 hours one way to see them after I give birth. They are usually wonderful, but they keep trying to guilt me into this. I already feel worn out, I don't want to sit in a car for 7 hours with a 2 year old and a 3 day old to please them. When my daughter was born I made the trip with her because my husband was deploying and I wanted him to spend time with his entire family, but this time it is unecessary-it is just as long for them to come see us. How do I tell them that tactfully because right now I don't even feel like being tactful because I think they are all being selfish.
2007-06-26 10:26:58 · 6 answers · asked by Michelle M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
easier said than done but, just say no. the more you try to make up excuses the more they'll bug you. that's way to long to soon for you and the babe and that should be good enough reason for them.
2007-06-26 11:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them though you are looking forward to seeing them and them meeting the new addition to the family it not only would be too much for you right after birth but maybe too much for the baby as well, you would like for her to become aqaunted with her own home and surroundings first before thrusting her into something she will not see often. Welcome them to come up and visit you all until she has got a little bit older to travel.
2007-06-26 10:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell them you will want some privacy and that you will call them when you want to see them. That way it is left open and you will be in control. Tell them that they are so good you simply KNOW that they will understand!!!!!Tell them it may be a few months so that you can rest. This is a special time for you and you should be in charge of it. Moreover it is not healthy for you to drive that long .
2007-06-26 12:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are completely right. Secondly, I think if it is your husbands family, he needs to step up and explain to them that you arn't going anywhere with the baby except for home. You have enough on your mind with your new baby coming and taking care of your other kids too, that you shouldn't have to deal with this. He needs to take care of this. I'm sure after he talks to them , that they will understand.
2007-06-26 10:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by janeyr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them it's not their decision to make concerning when you take trips and to where and as a matter of fact, they have no say so about anything in your life.
2007-06-26 10:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them just that, they are being self-ish and you don't feel like you can do it. Ask them if they would like to travel tosee you if they are able, and if they are not, set another date to come see them.
2007-06-26 11:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋