So here's the thing. My girlfriend has told me she will not have sex until we get married. Anyway I was at the club with the boys and one drunk girl kept trying to talk to me. Then she said "lets do it". Being a virgin and horny, I reluctantly agreed. One of my idiot friends told his other friend in confidence who told someone who told my girl and she broke it off with me. She confronted me and I said "it was just sex, there was no emotions involved, it was just a physical thing I was drunk, it's not like you're putting out I am a man I have needs". Even though I wasn't drunk I had to lie to her. Still she ended it saying she can no longer trust me and is not taking my calls. I want her back because she is a good girl. How do I get her back?
2007-06-26 09:58:56 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awwww - how considerate of you to put your "manly needs" ahead of her feelings.
I think she's the smartest girl and has done the right thing! Good for her! If I were her I'd have done the same thing and kicked you out on your rump, and said "don't let the door hit you in the behind on your way out!"
At least she has standards and now knows that you don't measure up to her standards. Better for her to find out now than later. Next time you should think of the big picture before you go off and do something so stupid, instead of just thinkin about what's in your pants and your own selfish needs! Oh ... and by the way ... just because you were drunk does not mean that you're not responsible for your actions! Grow up!
2007-06-26 10:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by monkeymom 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, you messed up. I wouldn't trust you either because everytime you get drunk, is she going to have to worry about you having sex with other chicks. She did the right thing, she shouldn't put herself through all the stress of not trusting you for it to only happen again. If you can't handle your alcohol then maybe you shouldn't be drinking. Moreover, the worst part is that she had to hear it from someone else instead of hearing it from you but as a typical cheating guy, you tried to hide it. I don't mean to sound like a ***** but you should've told her because hearing it from someone else probably hurted her more than the act itself. You have to decide how bad you want your relationship with her & if it's worth all the trouble then go from there because if she decides to take you back, you're going to have to work hard especially with regaining her trust. Otherwise, don't waste your time and hers. Good luck!!!
2007-06-26 10:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by AWomanScorned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not know that SH*T Happens in life, maybe she will now. Do not know the ages that are involved here but if you were at a club and drunk you must be of age. Hard to believe that there are still virgins in the world at that age but that is a great thing. You did not lie to her and she should respect that. That does not make it better but at least you were honest. If she really loved/loves you, she would see that and want to forgive you and at try it at least one more time. Hell I went through that with my last GF and she cheated on me 8 times in almost 4 years. No more though, I returned the favor to her and I thought she was going to kill my a**. I guess I loved her more than she loved me, HUH???
2007-06-26 10:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is a serious situation then you got what you deserved. How would you feel if the situation was opposite? Only an idiot would wait "till marriage" then do it randomly in a "moment of passion" and not think anything of it. You were stupid and now have to pay the price for your stupidity. Think next time before acting so foolishly. Look upon this as a learning experience.
2007-06-26 10:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by mcbobly2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, you can't. If you were both virgins then she probably held that part of you in really high regard and also was looking forward to the special bond you two would create once you were married and shared that with each other. By sleeping with the drunk bar ho, you've underminded all that she held high in regards to hers (and yours) virginity's. She will probably NEVER forgive you... and as a woman, I'm going to tell you... even if she does, it will always hurt her. Always. You might want to just move on.... sorry dude. Maybe drunk bar ho is available?
2007-06-26 10:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude I think you pretty much blew it. See, the reason she wante to wait is because she waants to make sure you love her and respect her. Having sex with another gir because you "have needs" proves you do not love or even slightly respect her. It proves you are selfish.
You deserveto get dumped by a good girl. Maybe you shouldn't drink quite so much if it makes you make stupid descisions. Being drunk is not an excuse for anything.
2007-06-26 10:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Schmuck. You got want you deserved. What if the situation was reversed? You would be squealing like a stuck pig. Maybe after you can prove you haven't picked up some nasty STD from your "drunk girl", your "good girl" MIGHT talk to you again, but don't count on it. If she has a brain cell working, she won't. If you wanted a good girl, you should have respected the one you had. All actions have consequences.
2007-06-26 10:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh no! you won't be able to blame her for no longer reminding you of something YOU forgot. the two events ARE in charge!!!! it is likewise how the regulation see's it, so which you greater suitable attempt to bypass your a** using fact she'll have not have been given any determination yet to bypass when you for toddler help, and that i do no longer know if crossing the boarder will substitute that. the way I see it she's greater suitable off devoid of you, so i assume ill supply you the thumbs up for leaving. it truly is too undesirable your toddler has to share your genes and strengthen up with no in charge father.placed on a f*carry condom next time dumb a** or you will possibly have a similar difficulty in Canada.
2016-10-19 00:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW lol 1 decision one bad choice can seriously change your life and that applyes for anything in life.. and this my friend is just one of them.. I dont think there really is anything you can do to undoo what you did.. Maybe tell her that people make mistakes and this is one of the mistakes you made and if you could you would go back in time and undoo what you did but you cant but you can only learn from your mistake and you have learnd your lesson (im sure lol) and that you would never do anything like that again. Telll her how you feel about her and that she means the world to her maybe even propose to her.. Thats the only way i would take you back if you said all that too me.
Best of wishes kesha.
2007-06-26 10:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
not to be rude, but don't waste ur time, see after saying "it was just sex, there was no emotions involved,...it's not like you're putting out I am a man I have needs", she now knows that you are like all the other men and all you really want is sex, when she had specifically let you knwo in the start she was gonna wait until she was married, so in her head it's like "why stay with a guy who is gonna sooner or later either cheat on me again or push me for sex", so you made the mistake, deal with the consequences
2007-06-26 10:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by Dar-E-O 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋