There are a couple of girls I know who have gone out and bought their wedding dresses so they can "be prepared when the time comes" and to go ahead and get the cost out of the way. Sure they had boyfriends at the time, but neither of these girls were even CLOSE to being engaged! What are your thoughts on this?
2007-06-26 09:48:31 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not a good idea. I see nothing wrong w/ looking a dresses on line if you are not engaged, but buying one NO.
The first reason would be that dresses go in and out of style, new designs come out everyday. You may find and amazing dress now, only to find "the one" later.
Also, I think part of the whole engagement period is going out and planning for the wedding. That includes buying the dress. You gather up your mother, sister's, bridesmaids and go to the dress shop. You get to plan dress up, everyone ohhhs and ahhhs at you. Then you go for lunch, talk wedding details.
If you aren't engaged, no one is going to take your dress purchase serious.
As for me, I looked a dresses before I was engaged. I have an idea of what I would like to wear on my wedding day based on that. But, I know, I'll still be trying on dress after dress when my time comes. Looking is nothing more than admiring their fashionable value.
It's a special moment in your life. Don't spoil it.
2007-06-26 09:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wedding dress styles change so much. It could be years before you get to use the dress, and you may not like it when you pull it out of the closet again. I would say save your money. Or put it away for the dress when you are actually going to buy it. What if you bought a beautiful full hoop skirt dress and then end up getting married on the beach? Wait until you know what you are doing and who you are marrying. Picking out the dress is part of the wedding experience. So much can happen if you buy the dress early that you don't have control over and it could end up just being a waste of money in the end.
2007-06-26 09:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Fstop11 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So they can be prepared? Do weddings just jump out of the bushes? That's kind of odd. Fashion changes quickly, what if they hate their dress in 5 years and it's hideously dated? What if they bought a dress with a huge skirt envisioning a princess wedding when they actually are going to have a beach wedding and need somthing slinky and appropriate?
I would think that a boyfriend would be scared off by that sort of thing, but I know I'm wrong. I had a roommate who would talk about her dream wedding with her boyfriend of 2 weeks. He stuck around for a while after that...
2007-06-26 10:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by erin7 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy it now. Especially if you can find it on sale. Don't let him know you bought it though. Also, don't have it fitted yet. Wait until a few weeks before your wedding. Even if I was planning on proposing to a woman and I found out she had purchased the dress before, I would be a bit freaked out. Store it at your parents house in an air tight bag so moths and other insects can't get to it.
2016-05-21 02:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it's a bit strange... but if that's what they want to do! My biggest thing would be that what if they don't get married for another 5 years? Their tastes could totally change by then! I know the dresses I liked 5 years ago (even 2 years ago) are totally different from the ones I like now. Plus, that takes away from one of the really fun parts of being engaged!
2007-06-27 02:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its actually a very traditional thing to do. Women used to have wedding dresses passed down from mother to daughter. Some women had their dresses put in their *hope chest.* I think its a very smart and practical thing to do. If they can find a great deal on a dress then they should go for it.
Costs add up fast at the time of the wedding, so getting the dress out of the way first is economically sound. I'm sure all of these girls parents are thanking them.
As for bodies and styles changing, dresses can always be altered.
2007-06-26 10:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whoa that is jumping the gun. Every girl browses the wedding gown section and finds that dress that she thinks is the one. But in reality - styles change, not to mention your body changes. If your no-where near a proposal or don't even have a boyfriend it will be at least a year or two and honestly most people go up a size or two. In the end you may not even be able to wear the dress.
2007-06-26 10:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by vi3tangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's something I wouldn't have done, but in the end it's their money and if they choose to spend it that way...that's their decision.
That seems a good way to wind up buying multiple wedding gowns. Maybe that's why it wouldn't have occurred to me to do that. On the other hand, I spent several years before I was engaged reading bridal magazines. It was less of an investment and I got to follow trends for a long time and get good advice I could use when the time came.
I guess we all have our different ways of dreaming.
2007-06-26 10:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple thoughts:
1)They are going to scare a man so far away it isn't funny. What are they thinking? To a man that comes across as all they want is the ring, doesn't matter the man that gets it for them.
2)I don't find this practical at all. What if it's 5 years until they get married? I bet then they would want a different dress. Not practical at all.
2007-06-26 10:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're definitely jumping the gun. They bought the dress that they like NOW. What happens when they don't get married for another few years and they see a newer dress that they like even better. And my guess is that it probably scared the crap out of their boyfriends that they actually bought a wedding dress. They should definitely slow down and not get ahead of themselves.
2007-06-26 12:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by amandajensen87 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋