What would you think of this woman?

Question

I know a woman who upon finding out that her daughter was a lesbian, sent her to see the pastor of their church to help her to change her ways. She told her daughter that she could have nothing more to do with her girlfriend and that she would be disowned if she didn't go straight. This woman calls herself a good christian. What do you think?

Answer 1

I think she's an absolutely horrid human being, punishing her daughter for something she can't control and was biologically wired into her. If she continues that way, the daughter is better off away from her, even if it is exceptionally painful.

Jesus talk acceptance, and not to judge, it doesn't seem Christian at all to me.

Answer 2

I think she is misguided in her attempt at mothering. I am certain that would be a difficult and bitter pill to swallow as a parent. I do think though that she needs to understand that just as she has had, so does her daughter have the right to make her own choices. Can you fault her for feeling the way she did when in the Bible I am guessing she reads it speaks of Homosexuality as an abomination? I think there needs to be open dialogue between mother and daughter and that Mother has shot that idea down. It is a hard issue though. I don't imagine any parent wants to have their child involved with any activity that could lead them away from God. It seems that is the mothers feeling.

I think the Mother could take a lesson from Jesus with regards to the woman taken in adultery. He says I don't condemn you. He does counsel her to go and sin no more though. Forgiveness is going to be important for both of these women. The daughter needs to allow the mom to feel the way she does. I am not saying she needs to be okay with it, but more understand why the Mom would act the way she did.

I do think the Mom needs to, as I said before allow the daughter to make her choices and love her. You win more bears with Honey than with vinegar.

Good luck and god bless

Answer 3

I'm no longer a Christian but I was raised a catholic. This would have been deemed harsh treatment in the present era. Perhaps in the 1950s or early 60's such an attitude would have met with approval but in my life the policy is to extrapolate from Christ's tolerance of social outcasts. He told us to draw them in,not scorn to know them. By Catholic standards - as I was brought up - she would be considered a poor mother and a poor Christian - cold,bitter and unforgiving. Most of all intolerant.

Answer 4

I think the shock of finding out that a child has made a decision you don't agree with can make you say some dumb things. My oldest son has driven me over the edge a few times with stuff he's done, and I've had to go to him later and ask for forgiveness. I hope that's what this mother will do later on. She won't want to lose her relationship with her daughter forever.

Answer 5

I can not comment on whether she is a good Christian or not.


IMHO, she is a bad person. I think the daughter may be better of being disowned rather than be in that family.

Answer 6

I feel sad for her. It sounds like she may have already said some things that she'll never be able to take back. She's driving a wedge between herself and her daughter that doesn't need to be there.

Answer 7

I think a good Christian is a person who excepts another for who they are. She shouldnt disown her for her ways. She should except her.

Answer 8

Good Christian, bad mother.

Answer 9

no because she cant accept tht her own daughter is different she should come to terms with her daughter's homsexuality or she will force her daughter out of her life and regret making a bad decision later on

Answer 10

I think shes a great christian. Just a bad person