Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

Question

In September my Boyfriends moving away. Its about a 3 hour car ride away... (i cant drive.. so id either have to get the train or he'd have to drive and see me). we'd only be able to see each other once a week.
My problem is he'd be surrounded by other girls all the time.

do you think that it could honestly work?

(i cant go with him because im tied down here with my education)

Answer 1

your case is just like few of my friends'..but they all work out fine..you two need to have trust with each other..if your partner are your true love who truly loves you,nothing bad would happen..just remember you two need to always keep contact..

Answer 2

First of all if this guy is not your husband or someone that u would consider being your husband sometime in the near future, following him was not a good idea anyway.
Secondly in respect to your actual question long distance relationships can, esp with the short distance ur talking about, work with ease. as long as both parties are committed to the relationship 3 hours away should be a drop in the bucket.However to me the true question is do you truly trust this guy; i mean why should it even matter what girls( or how many) are around him if you guys have a solid trusting relationship? I mean, why did that even cross your mind? I think you need to find out how committed he is to u guys relationship and if he truly wants to stay together or just not let you go. A wise person once told me that there were two essential components to any successful relationship, commitment and trust. If either are missing ur doomed to fail. Good luck Hun. I hope this helped.

Answer 3

Long distance relationships only work if the relationship is strong in the first place. The internet and mobile phones make regular contact with a long distance partner even more possible. If your relationship is strong and meant to be then it will survive no matter what the distance is whether it be a 3 hr drive or the other end of the world as at the end of the day nothing should stand in the way of love.

Answer 4

Your problem is not that he would be surrounded by other girls, it's what he does or does not do about it.

I think you eventually would drift apart as you both make new friends and develop other interests now that you don't have each other to be with all the time.

But if is 'the real thing', and meant to be, it will work if you both try hard and have compete faith and trust in each other.

You also need to make that 'once a week' quality, special time. You can't be arguing about anything when you do get to see each other or it will NEVER work.

Answer 5

Nothing's impossible. I do know one couple who had a long distance relationship for about 6 years and then they got married like 3 years ago and they are still married. But I do think that they're the kind of people who don't like to be in each others face all the time. If you desire to be with someone more than just an occaisional visit it probably won't work for you as the stress of being in love with someone who's not here will eventually get to you.
Most long distance relationships I have encountered have eventually failed. I just have the one exception to counter this.

Answer 6

Wow, just three hours away and once a week? Consider yourself lucky. While I was still dating my husband, he lived 12 hours away in New Orleans and we only got to see each other once a month at the most. If you can bear it, it will make you stronger and you'll appreciate each other more. Of course he'll be surrounded by girls. You'll always have that. You need to figure out how much you trust him. I hate it say it, but this is your evaluation time for your relationship.

Answer 7

hi long distance relationships do work if u want them 2 ive been wiv my boyfriend now for 3 years a year ago he moved awy 2 scotland which is a 3 and a half hour drive away he drives i dont i get the train up there n the next time he will drive down here i see him every saturday and we speak everyday on the fone its hard at 1st but i just think we will be together again 1day .

Answer 8

It could work but i dont think so. Well it is not the problem of him being surrounded by other girl like he is you boyfriend you should trust him.But a good relationship you need contact you need to get to know each other for it to go any further and you cant really do that if you like talk to him once a week! And even if you know him really well you still need to be together!

Answer 9

yes it does work, if;
1. u honestly trust him (if u haven't seen him behaving in a skirt chaser attitude).
2. u build confidence in yr self and get rid off that feeling of being insecure.
3. u keep in touch on the phone to make him bussy. he may have no time to hang arrd if he fancies u so much and truely loves u.
4. the distance isnot far so start saving for transport to go and see him such that he's not enticed away by those gals. have a 1 on 1chat and seek assurances from him before he goes. believe in him and yr self and stay strong and dont litsen to rumours. "something u've not seen doesn't hurt unless there's enough proof to support it" good luck in yr r/ship

Answer 10

depends how long for and what you both want out of the future love holds no boundaries if it is strong a few miles wont break it and seeing each other once a week is fine your feelings after your education may change to one of I'm going up there to be with you it all depends on how you feel about each other it is a testing time

Answer 11

Long relationships do work very well but it always depends on the characters involve, if your boy loves and honest to you, I think he is going to pay full attention to even if you are the other side of the sea. So don't worry and stop suspecting him if you trust or believe him.