HELP!!! Disiplining a bipolar 4yr. old?

Question

My nephew is 4 and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, it has gotten to the point where we disipline him. We have tried taking toys away for bad behavior, spanking, timeout. He also isn't potty trained because he has an immune disorder that has caused him to be in and out of the hospital, HELP PLEASE

He has been kicked out of daycare and he sees a therapist regularly but he hasn't really given any hints on what to do, he is on medication.

Answer 1

Is he on medication? Is he in treatment? You haven't disciplined him before this?
You need a family meeting to decide disciplinary methods, so all of you use the same ones, reinforcing the message.
Time out for one minute per age in years - if he screams, rants, whatever, he still needs timeout. Put him in a corner of a room, with no toys, TV, etc, so all he can do is think. If he gets up, put him back - a hundred times if you need to.
If he doesn't play nicely with his toys, or doesn't pick them up,
put them in lockdown [ I used to put them on top of the video cabinet, so they could see, but not touch.- usually for a week].
Anything he throws, he loses [ lockdown, or permanently ].
Limit his electronic time to one or two hours a day - TV,
movies, computers.
Take him outside and do physical activities.
Inside, do puzzles, books, cars and trucks, board games, coloring/painting.
Try to change activities every 30 to 60 minutes.
Discuss a discipline program with his therapist.
I don't advise spanking, because it teaches violence as a solution; and teaches if you are bigger or older, you can hurt someone.

Answer 2

You need help from professional care givers. Talk with day care directors, peds nurses, his doctors, therapists, and teachers. They all need to be working together to help launch this child into society with the best possible results. It is going to be quite a task and the key is "Consistency". Everyone involved in care taking needs to be on the same page, doing the same kinds of things with him, noting what works and what doesn't. Kids need want and crave, discipline and order. That is the adults job. Parents, teachers and various other caregivers need to provide the boundaries that will allow this little guy to have safe good experiences and still learn his limitations.

Answer 3

i suggest watching nanny 911 or one of those shows for ideas, or talking to a pediatrician or other child care professional. in my opinion you shouldnt make exceuses for him. its like people who have small dogs but never train or discipline them because they are small. it just leads to wildness and more problems.