My brother is dating my other brothers ex-wife who he has a child with. i confronted my brother about this and asked him doesn't it seem sick to you think of your niece she is probably wondering why mommy is kissing uncle daryl he said that it's not nasty they live together as a couple with this little girl am i wrong for thinking this is sick?
2007-06-26 09:20:08 · 43 answers · asked by sweetie1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the father of the child is not ok with this actually no one in my family is ok with this
2007-06-26 09:45:44 · update #1
Its just akward......not just for the kid but for the whole family.
2007-06-26 09:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Rockstar ☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If brother #1 has no problem with his ex-wife living with brother #2, it seems that the only person who is having a problem is you. And it isn't really any of your business.
Children can adapt. In fact, as long as Uncle Daryl treats his niece and her mother with love and respect, I don't see that this can possibly be hurting the child. When she is older there will be questions to answer. But as long as everyone is doing what is right and honest, she will understand and it won't be a hurtful at all.
You might have a personal objection (and you have every right to have an opinion), but like I said, it isn't any of your business. Just try to be happy that they are happy. And, off the subject, you might want to consider using capitals and punctuation. It is difficult to follow what you are saying if you just have one, incredibly long, unbroken sentence.
2007-06-26 09:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Manda B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a visitation order in result? If no longer tell your ex if his sister does not conclusion asserting issues on your son you will no longer deliver him there anymore or get after college care till his dad can %. him up or you get him after college and enable his dad get him whilst he gets off of artwork. If there's a visitation order in result then consult with a criminal professional and tell him your concerns and how your son behaves whilst he comes living house and see what could be completed. There desires to be an learn as to what is going directly to reason your son to act out. that's that he in simple terms misses his dad yet a six 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous should not be disrespectful to any person whether it is your boyfriend or no longer that's unacceptable and desires to be dealt with. in keeping with danger you're able to try taking your son to a counselor and see if it facilitates before it gets any worse. He does not comprehend what has got here approximately an subsequently whilst babies don't comprehend they act out lots of the time in anger which isn't a stable element. professional help is superb.
2016-10-18 23:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by hyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if sick is the right word but those all important 'unspoken family ' rules have been most definitely crossed. At the same time you can't choose who you fall in love with. They have made their bed let them lie in it. you say your niece sees her father which is brilliant just make sure 'the couple' are not talked or dissed in front of the child.
Hard I know but is a must. You don't want to damage the child yourselves.
The saying is you can't choose your family, true but you can decide who you keep in contact with.
2007-06-26 09:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by angelrose0105 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are human, but it is still nasty. It happens all the time. I just wonder how your other brother feels. What a betrayal to say the least. At least you know your niece isn't being raised by an outside ******, instead it's your brother.
What type of woman is she? How uncomfortable to be a family functions knowing you slept with both brothers?! nasty!
2007-06-26 09:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by Maeflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. It is very sick and twisted. It is strictly Taboo to date or engage in a relationship with an Ex of any kind even if a child is not involved. Everyone know this. They are going to mess that little girls life up as she will think that is normal behavior...
That is my 2 cents...
2007-06-26 09:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong to think that what they are doing is sick. You are free to think whatever you want. Sharing that information with your brothers IS wrong if they didn't ask for your opinion in the first place.
There is a distinct possibility that your brothers both think things about you that you would rather not know. If they have the good sense to keep it to themselves, you should show them the same courtesy. They (like you and everyone else) have to live with the consequences of their actions.
If both brothers involved are OK with this, who are you to get in the middle of it? As far as I know, no laws are being broken so what's the big deal?
My advice, to be succinct, is butt out.
2007-06-26 09:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Rev Phred 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't consider it sick, different yes, but not sick. The little girl will be fine with what she exposed to as long as it's in a loving way and in a loving home, regardless of who it is with.
It may be a problem if you first brother has issues with it, but you should stay out of it. You don't want to cause a rift between the three of you.
2007-06-26 09:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by paganmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I think it's sick too. And how confusing for the child! I'm curious to think what her ex husband thinks about it. Some people are so weird!
2007-06-26 09:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Hot_Momma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree in our society it is wrong, but please keep in mind in some cultures this is the way things are done.
Its not due to divorce, mind you, but in other countries it is expected for a brother or closer male family member to take a widowed wife and children as his own.
2007-06-26 09:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by MeNTeddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The past is past! Your niece is the envoy for your brothers ex-wife's life!
2007-06-26 09:58:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋