How to train my girlfriend?

Question

Ok, I know that the question sounds completely macho and sexist, but, honestly, it isn't. I'm just starting a relationship with my new girlfriend, and Im definitely not going to be p*ssy whooped. No, im not a crazed-sexist male, and no I don't want to control her, I want us to be parred, and I want to be able to do what I want without being hassled. We just started going out and I've already noticed that she wants to take the lead in the relationship. I dont think that sitting down and talking to her would be the best way to deal with this, because she'll think im crazy and we might end up splitting up. So what should I do?

Answer 1

for one you gf is not a dog to be trained. She is a person. What your going to need to do is to sit and talk about it and relationships come with compromises. good luck!

Answer 2

Training is a two way street hun. It begins with finding out what you both expect with each other and what your expectations are. No one is a mind reader. Keep the conversation flowing and let her know gently when something irks you and you just don't want to do that. Listen to her when she tells you of the things she doesn't like and see things her way sometimes. I am not big in the many relationship departments as I have been married three times long term first one has passed on after 18 years of being together, second one only 11 years and too much hard drinking and lying for me and this one going strong after 7 1/2. All three relationships were based on honesty, trust, communication, compatibility, love and most important Fidelity. Hope this works for you. There were no chiefs in the house we were partners and we agreed to disagree but no one ever went to bed angry, we had are arguments and I said many sorry's but we knew festering fights just got worse so we would sit down alone and with no accusations talked out all misunderstandings and problems. Try it..

Answer 3

You train pets. You don't train people unless you want to have complete power over them. Your girlfriend is a person, and you really need to choose better words than "train". There is no other way to deal with a relationship problem other than talking to her. There is NO other way. Look back at your question for just a moment. You had to state twice in your question that you are not sexist. If you have to state it to prove to someone that you aren't, then there is a little bit of a problem. You stated once that you do not want to control her, yet you do not want her to take a lead in the relationship at all. That is a desire to have her under your thumb. I think you have some deep issues inside of your soul that you don't know what to do about. You seem to have some deep issues about women that possibly may be above you in a power situation. Seriously sit down and think about yourself for a moment. Seriously examine your soul and your heart and ask yourself why it bothers you if a female has a little bit of power. Ask yourself how you would feel if a female was your boss at work. In this paragraph you mention only what you want, stop and consider what your girlfriend wants. You need to talk to her, but you need to seriously examine yourself before you do it. I hope this gives you something to think about.

Answer 4

Stand up for yourself, always. Women often test their boyfriends to see if they'll be a man or not. If you wuss-out by backing down, you fail. Too many failures and you'll become the ex-boyfriend.

Don't be a completely inconsiderate jerk, but ALWAYS put your own needs first and hers second. (She does the same thing.) The best guideline to use is the friend test. If a guy friend were to ask you to do a similar thing, and you didn't want to, would you do what they want. Of course if it is something you WANT to do, then by all means go ahead.

By the same token, don't lose your cool when she tries to make an issue out of something. Simply say something to the effect, "we'll talk about my going out when I get back and you've calmed down." Then walk. If she breaks up over something like this, the relationship was past gone before this conversation started.

Humor helps to diffuse many situations when she is complaining about something silly. I've held my hands over my head and "whooooo'd" like I was on an amusement park ride. Then say, "Yeah, take me on a ride on that hormone roller coaster". Another approach that works surprisingly well is to simply walk up, cup her face in both hands while looking into her eyes, say "shut up" firmly, then kiss her. Then again, walk away. Women know when they're being silly if it is pointed out to them.

Women like MEN, not boys. Be a man and things will go much better in the long run.

Answer 5

Well, a good relationship is based on trust. A fantastic relationship is based on wanting the other person to be happy and being supposrtive of their happiness....

I know you don't want to be whooped, so here's some things you can do. It takes a lot of effort on your part, though. If you want time on your own, mention that she should go have a girls night with her friends. You can manuever her without hurting her feelings.

Of course, it sounds a little like you need to get a dog, rather than a girlfriend.

Answer 6

Woman don't like to be told what to do anymore. They're the new men in relationships nowadays. As long as you respect her then she won't try to take complete control and she will respect you in return. Don't spend too much time worrying about who is in charge because then it just becomes a mental battle. Just relax, if the two of you really care about each other- then control won't be an issue. Just enjoy. Good Luck.

Answer 7

A relationship has 2 people in it. You and her. Train her? That's insane! You should really consider whether you want to be in any relationship at this point in your life. A relationship is a responsibility. If you really want to do "what you want, anytime you want" then maybe you should consider being single for a while until your ready for the kind of committment a relationship requires. Good Luck

Answer 8

I think that you're a sexist control freak, and that she should run for the hills. I'm not usually genuinely pissed off by the questions I see here, but I am honestly mad on your girlfriend's behalf.

You want someone trainable? Get a dog.

Answer 9

haha this question made me laugh lol! I think what you mean to ask is how to make you be the leader in the relationship and not ur gf. As for what you should do you should start being the leader and talking more and making the first moves.. thats all you have to do lol.. its not brain work lol.
and yes she will think your crazy if you talk to her about somethingas silly as this lol.. srry but if my bf said that too me i would laugh.. umm you have to be trained kesha lol okee there lol?? anyways hope i helped lol

best of wishes kesha

Answer 10

John,
If you want to be able to do what you want with out being hassled, then don't get married. Because that is not what being married is about, and it is not what any women is going to want out of a marriage, you should stay single until you feel differently.

Answer 11

Just make sure whe knows that you have a life of your own to lead. When your busy with something else tell her that and don't back out. Let her know how much time of your she can have.
However like every relationship you will have to make sacrifices just don't get distant and make sure to take time for her.