My friend is getting married fall of 08 and her Matron of Honor just announced that she is trying to get pregnant now with her second baby. My friend who is getting married is upset that she would plan this before her wedding, she feels she should wait until after her wedding. I was really surprised by her. I know she is concerned about her Matron of Honor finding a dress that will fit her, but I can't believe she wants her to put her life on hold for over a year. What do you think, would you want your Matron of Honor to hold of on any babies during your wedding planning?
2007-06-26 09:02:40 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
just because she is trying doesn't mean she is going to get pregnant right away.
i have not had this problem, but as long as she still fit in the dress on the day, i would be find with it. things can get altered.
2007-06-26 09:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is quite selfish of your friend. The Matron of Honor has a life, and it doesn't revolve around the Bride-To-Be. The Matron of Honor should make whatever decision is right for her, regardless of the upcoming wedding.
Your friend should also keep in mind that there are some adorable maternity dresses for weddings. The Matron of Honor could get a lovely dress even if she is about to have a child. Her dress could be the same color as the other bridesmaids, so that it wouldn't look out-of-place.
I wouldn't mind at all if one of my bridesmaids was a part of my wedding with a beautiful baby bump!
2007-06-26 09:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by Stacia T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot can change between now and Fall '08. The matron of honor could have a child before then.
She obviously chose this person because they are close friends. If it is going to kill her to have someone pregnant in the wedding, she should confront her so she can find someone else. But the matron shouldn't have to postpone her pregnancy.
People freak out too much when planning weddings. The goal should be to bring family and friends together to celebrate a wonderful day. It shouldn't be to micromanage everyone's lives so you have the so-called perfect wedding.
2007-06-26 09:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by jellybean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend just can't expect other people to totally drop their lives just because of her wedding. She shouldn't be such a bridezilla. The matron of honor is not going to steal the bride's thunder. Nowadays, you can buy maternity bridesmaids dresses. (at davids bridal they even let you wear a little pad that lets you know how you will look so far along.) Your friend should be happy for the girl planning to get pregnant...just as im sure the soon to be pregnant girl is elated to have a friend thats in love and getting married.
2007-06-26 15:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by beffis1984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think they're kinda both in the wrong with this situation. on one hand, the bride has no right to dictate when another person can try to get pregnant, that's just outrageous bridezilla behavior there. however, the matron of honor shouldn't have accepted that honor when she is planning on getting pregnant in the first place, because the moh is a very demanding position that requires a lot of time, money, and effort. aside from the dress fitting issue, it's also likely that once she gets further along in the pregnancy, she's not going to feel up to taking care of her wedding duties, because she'll be focusing on herself and the baby (as she should.) babies always take priority with new mothers, so i think it would be best for all parties involved if she either demoted herself to a regular bridesmaid or just not be in the wedding party and take on another role that doesn't involve a specific attire and a lot of her time.
2007-06-26 09:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Bridezilla! How selfish is she that she wants her matron of honor to put her life on hold?!?! Isn't marriage about the family? Doesn't the matron of honor represent something like what this woman wants when she is finally married? The wedding is one day of your life-an important one-but one day. Creating a family goes on forever. I can't believe how crazy and selfish some brides can be....
2007-06-26 09:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Des 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This literally just happened to me and upset may be an understatement. I've known my maid of honor since elementary; we graduated from the same HS and University. I got engaged this past October and asked her to be my maid of honor. She's a wife and the mother of four small children; ages 7, 5, 2 and 1 and I know she's busy. After she showed little to no interest in my wedding plans I spoke to her about my expectations of her as my maid of honor and asked her if it was a duty that she would be able to fulfill and she agreed. In February, we go to pick out bridesmaid dresses and the entire time she keeps dropping subtle hints about how the dresses we chose had the ability to accommodate unexpected weight gain and a baby bump. Last week I find out on INSTAGRAM that she's nine weeks pregnant and will be seven months at the time of my wedding.
2015-05-04 06:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by Nequanya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is being unreasonable. Nobody else should have to put their lives on hold because of someone's wedding. Now, maybe if she was due at the time of the wedding I can see the bride being a bit upset (in case the MOH may not be able to attend, etc) but as long as she can stand for the photos and during the ceremony, why not?
2007-06-27 02:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, weddings are important, but not stop your life and put your family plans on hold for over a year important. That's ridiculous. What if the MOH told the bride "I plan on getting pregnant soon, but I'd like to be there, so put off the wedding until after the baby is born and I have time to shed that extra baby weight. Thanks." She would not have it. It's crazy to think that's a reasonable request. Talk about self-centered.
2007-06-26 10:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...how completely selfish of your friend. Everyone else doesn't have to put their lives on hold just because she's getting married!
If she were unmarried, I might be worried...But for pete's sake, she's a grown woman, who's trying to put together a family with her husband! Besides that, if the wedding is over a year away, she may give birth long before the wedding day comes around!
They make all kinds of great dresses that can accommodate pregnant bellies...Your friend should have nothing to worry about!
2007-06-26 10:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all the wedding isn't until next Fall meaning that she could have had the baby by then. Even if that isn't the case Your friend can't ask a person to put their whole life on hold for over a year for her wedding day. That is selfish and rude.
Tell your friend to get a grip and realize the world doesn't revolve around her.
2007-06-26 09:25:24 · answer #11 · answered by SweetiePie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋