People told me I was too guarded and bitchy, i let my guard down and was very nice to family, friends, guys,etc.. What i got back was them putting me down, trying to control me, and making fun of me..
It makes no sense to be nice in this day in age, just guarded and tough, superfcial and minding your own business? agree
I had it right before and "lost myself"-- its ashame.
2007-06-26 08:41:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't agree. It doesn't hurt a thing to be nice to people. Yes, there are some jerks out there. But there are some great people too. Keeping yourself bottled up means that you miss out on too many good things in life. Remember this too, if your "friends" are causing you problems, they really aren't your friends. A friend is there for you no matter what, always has your back, and never gives you crap.
2007-06-26 08:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by randy 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
being kind in this generation doesn't get much from the rowdy gang of teenagers that are caught up in their lusts or desires. They probably said 'guarded and [edited out]' because either they didn't get what they wanted from you or you translated their remark wrongly or too strongly. Being nice gets your respect from the good people and their kindness. If they don't take your kindness, its alright. Some people in the world aren't here for good reasons. Some people are used to certain stuff like swearing. I have to say, I'm always kind to the good people and avoid the wrongs. It all depends on the course of actions people go through
2007-06-26 08:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by *9(^^)9* *9(^^)9* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree. I try to be respectful to everyone and go out of my way to help others out and I don't see the benefit of it. Don't get me wrong I don't do nice things because I am looking for something in return that's just how I am but I do see that the nicer people are disrespected more than the bitchy, arrogant, asshole, jerks they seem to get alot farther with their negative attitudes, sad truth. Unfortunately it is very hard for me to change my ways. I guess it's just something I have to live with.
2007-06-26 08:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by Yvonne Cesaro 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a process called invalidation. You are not the first person to face this and will not be the last. I have gone through this and have a lot of experience. But, though I am a bit careful, I am still the same. I`m sure that you must have met a very good friend in this period who will lead you on.
You can check:www. eqi.org/invalid.htm. I found this very helpful. Stay positive. I think that you are a very good person. These are life`s experiences.
2007-06-26 08:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by itsybtsy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got to decide what you want to turn into. Years from now, what expression will be on your face? Let go and try being softer. You don't need to let people walk over you, - anyone who tries may be avoided very easily. If you don't start relaxing now, you'll wind up in the loonie bin. Aim for serenity rather than aggression and you'll get more out of life. At the moment, you certainly aren't enjoying life the way you ought to be. Just chill.
2007-06-26 09:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard to be nice, because a lot of times people will take that as being weak and take advantage of you. I personally try be nice to people, however I don't let myself get walked on. There's a difference between being friendly and helpful and being everybody's "b-tch". I am sorry that people treat you that way!
2007-06-26 08:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Nate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's all about moderation. I mean, I'm generally, and agreeable fellow, I think (Just don't talk to me about politics. :D). I'm often made fun of, but I think it's generally in good spirit, although I'm prone to panic attacks when they get agressive.
You can be nice and not be abused. You just have to assert your needs, while keeping the needs of others in mind. When you find a good balence, it adds a lot of stability to your life. It's all about good Karma!
And you can start by giving me a best answer for this one, eh? :D c'mon, you know I helped you.
2007-06-26 08:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to be superficial. But guarded, tough and minding your own business- yes.
2007-06-26 14:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by Keyring 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, this is a rant, not a question. But I acknowledge that you felt the need to do it, and don't chastise you about it.
Honestly, I'm a nice guy. I also like to think I'm fairly modest, so I don't think I'm exaggerating. Personally, what do I get out of it? A lot of self-respect. At the core, that's what really matters to me.
2007-06-26 08:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its always better to be nice. What goes around, comes around. But you have to draw the line somewhere. You don't take crap from other people and you dont let anyone put you down.
2007-06-26 11:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋