We also are planning on not having a reception at all, except for the people at the wedding immediately after, and no showers, unless someone offers. How do we avoid insulting people for not being invited, or if they are invited to the shower (out of our control) and not the wedding?
2007-06-26 08:15:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Its your day and rational people ultimately will respect that. Maybe the people hosting showers can make it very clear on the invitations that the bride and groom are having a private ceremony and the showers are their chance to give their best wishes to the couple. That way they won't be offended when their invite doesn't come and also they can use the shower as an opportunity to give you an appropriate gift. Some people's gifts may differ if they know it is a shower combined with wedding gift.
2007-06-26 08:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Julie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There will always be someone hurt or disappointed because they are not invited to a wedding and/or reception . . and there's not much you can do about. There is no need to explain, there is no need to apologize . . it is your wedding and you are entitled to do what you want or what you can afford.
You can invite five hundred people to a wedding, and there still will be someone who is hurt or disappointed because they did not receive an invitation.
Do not worry about the people who are invited to a bridal shower and not to the wedding, that happens all the time, that's not unusual. There are many Brides and Grooms who get married in Jamaica . . or Bermuda . . or Hawaii "alone" that had three bridal showers before the wedding.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-06-26 12:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Professional Advice --- Typical it's rude for someone to be invited to a shower and not your wedding. Who is invited to your showers is to csome extent in your control. Your have a wedding list of people going to your wedding. typical the MOH and Bridesmaids (never the mothers) or close friend put together your shower. Their list is put togehter form the lsit of people you invite to yoru wedding. A shower is never thrown with guest that aren't invited to the wedding. It puts the bride in a bad spot.
Tradition has it that those invited to wedding are always invited to the reception. Your reception is your celebration as well as your gift to the guest as a thank you for coming to your wedding and celebrating this new page in your life.
From the information I gather your on a rather tight budget. It's common sense that it is rude to question the bride and groom as to why they were not invited. If someone should ask just tell them it's nothing personal and that due to somethings you had to cut the guest list short and allow only immediately family. They should say something to the effect that they understand or that it's okay. If they keep question then you need to tell them that its your day and your busniess. If their feelings are hurt your sorry.
2007-06-26 08:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude for anyone to ever expect to be invited to any event. This is your wedding, you do it your way. If you want 17 people fine. If you want 17777 people, fine. It's your wedding and no one has any right to complain. I will never understand why anyone would feel insulted about not being invited to a party or wedding. Small weddings are very intimate and joyous and budget-friendly. Why would anyone take offense at you having the wedding YOU want?!? If anyone gets offended by that than they can go pound sand. Your real friends and family will be happy about the fact that YOU are happy and won't be so selfish as to ask why or why not they were or were not invited to the shindig.
Good luck and congratulations!!!
2007-06-26 08:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kristy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about other people hun. It is your day, you have it that way you want it. People shouldnt be insulted. Anyway, you can never please some people, so even if you did the big wedding and invited everyone, someone would find something to gripe about.
I think the smaller, more intimate affairs are so much nicer. Less stress and I think you are able to drink in your vows more, instead of being nervous about the 200 people, some of which you dont even know, sitting behind you waiting for you to make a mistake.
When I marry my man, I think it will be only very close family members. My daughters, his parents, my mum and a couple of my sisters that I am close to....a couple of close friends.
No cousins or other hangeronerers.
Ultimately, only two people matter....the bride and the groom.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-26 12:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone throwing you a shower is not out of your control. You can just make it politely known that you'd prefer not to have one. But if you do choose to have one, who gets invited is TOTALLY your decision. So I would NOT invite anyone to the shower that would not be invited to the wedding.
I don't think anyone who truly knows you will have their feelings hurt. I would send out beautiful announcements afterwards, and leave it at that.
2007-06-26 08:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you could invite all the people in the world - expenses paid etc. etc. someone will be insulted.
Send out announcements. Let the chips fall as they may.
Those who were invited to the shower but not he wedding will have to take that issue up with whoever held the shower. As you said, that was out of your control.
2007-06-26 08:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This was my problem too. My fiance' doesn't want a big wedding. So we decided to go on a cruise.. Well we haven't picked a date yet but anyway.. If we get married on a cruise only the people who come on the cruise will be there! And that is probably going to be close family memebers..And we probably will have a bridal party/ reception before we go so other people can come! BUT Good Luck!
2007-06-26 08:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by girl IN louisiana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 04:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding you invite whomever you want to and you should not have to apologize to anyone for it!! If anyone questions why they were not invited just point out that many other people were not either. Sometimes knowing they weren't the only ones not invited smooths things over a bit.
Good Luck
2007-06-26 08:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Cory C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋