Am I the ONLY one who believes this to be the tackiest form of being lazy? It seems in the last few years every bridal and baby shower I've gone to one of the first things upon walking in is I'm asked to address my own Thank You note enveope, to "help out" the bride/new mother. I find that this is the ultimate tacky move... am I alone in this thinking? Why do so many people throwing showers now do this? Shoot.. I might as well fill out my own thank you note too since I know what I brought? Why stop at addressing the envelope? Shoot.. don't bother sending me the note ya know?
2007-06-26 07:27:00 · 19 answers · asked by Sharlala 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I have been to 4 baby showers, and 3 bridal showers in the last 3 years. Every one of them has had me do this and every single one of them I've told them how tacky they are being and the hostesses have just laughed it off. Its so sad what has happened to society today.
2007-06-26 07:43:54 · update #1
Its also very tacky to NOT send Thank Yous when someone has given you gifts...especially when dealing with the passing of a family member. I'm shocked that someone here said they didn't send them when their own mother died. her mother obviously meant a lot to a lot of people for her to get so many gifts of flowers or money and to not send a thank you is the ultimate smack in the face to your mothers memory. So sad.
2007-06-26 08:19:51 · update #2
I'm about to throw my sister a bridal shower and saw this on one of the websites...I find it to be extremely tacky. People are so obsessed with the brides and how busy they are...they make it sound like they have some kind of disease that we need to take care of them for... UGH! I think the bride can find a few minutes in her day to write out a few addresses (or BETTER YET! type em' up on the computer)
..sorry, that's just my rant...I'm getting so tired of everything bridal. :)
2007-06-27 03:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some Baby Showers do a raffle during the shower and pull an envelope to determine a winner and so as a game I think it is fine. Is it tacky to be asked to do this? Yes, but you seem quite upset over the minute or two it took to do this in your life. Let it pass and move on. Remember - the Hostess might have set this up without the new Mom evening knowing. Plus it could save her an 30 - 60 minutes of work so that is a nice little gift. I am sure she is thankful you attended and hopefully you had a nice enough time to let this item be forgotten. You have to much to look forward to with your new baby. Be positive and be happy!
2016-05-21 01:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. That is the height of rude behavior!
The guests went through the trouble of selecting a gift, purchasing it, wrapping it and going to the shower. The least the receiver of the gift could do is sit down and write a thank you note.
It is tacky, tacky, tacky. Ladies, do not do this at your showers! Polite people will not say a word to you, but they take note of your rudeness.
2007-06-26 07:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Valley High 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't fill it out if you think its tacky.
I think it IS being lazy, but I'd just fill it out and be done with it, it doesn't take too long to fill out an address in order to make it easier for the bridesmaid/new mom.
And, I've never expected a thank you note when giving gifts or attending anything. When I give gifts, its not because I'm looking for a thank you note that takes two seconds to open, one second to read, and a millisecond to throw in the trash to be forgotten in one minute, its because I WANT to.
2007-06-26 11:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand a new mother they are really busy and this little bit helps, but a new bride is tacky. Haven't been to many showers that do this, but occasionally there is one!
2007-06-26 07:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by cls352 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very Tacky I agree why send a ty note, adding to your question, when my mother passed I never sent ty notes for the flowers or cards as I find it very tacky expecting the grieving family to send ty cards because there family loved one has died.
2007-06-26 07:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by stacy j 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've not actually been to either of these events, as I don't have many female friends. I do agree that it is quite tacky. I hope to not have the misfortune of encountering this in the future.
2007-06-26 07:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by Drea L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible. And lazy. Anyone that lazy should definitely rethink marriage and/or children. I would NOT encourage this. I would simply set the blank envelope aside and state that I will not be expecting a thank you note. And then I'd make a mental note to myself for future.
2007-06-26 18:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT IS SO TACKY. How lazy can you get? If they got the address to invite you, they can get the address to send a thank you.
2007-06-26 08:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could drop a hint at the next shower you are at by gifting an address book with your address already in it?
2007-06-26 14:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋