my sister is very very very close to my grandmother who is dieing from cancer and my when my granfater died who she knew very little about she was crying 24/7..... help me...
2007-06-26 07:15:10 · 5 answers · asked by david b 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
First how old is your sister? If she is young she needs to know that grandma is very sick. To a young child you could say grandma has a bad germ inside her that she is trying to make go away. I heard someone talking about saying that to their young child when they were dying of breast cancer.To a teenager, tell the truth. Everyone deals with death in their own way. Allow your sister to do this.
2007-06-26 08:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by redwidow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandmother needs to tell the truth. Make it as simple as she can but hold nothing back if she starts to ask questions. Most people think that kids don't understand but they do. In fact they are better at handling stuff like this than the adults are. It would be good if your grandmother could make her some tapes of the things she wants to say to her after she is gone. It will help your sister when she gets older to have something to remember her grandmother. Your grandmother could read her a story on tape if she is very young. Things like what she would say to her at graduation, her first date, her wedding, stuff like that. I know it will be hard on your grandmother and she might have to stop the tape and cry, but it will be a lovely thing to leave her granddaughter.
I am a cancer survivor of 14 years, and this is what I would do for my 10 year old daughter if I had too.
When I told my boys I had cancer I was very up front with them. They have told me thank you for not hiding things from them.
2007-06-26 10:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Diane T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should explain honestly in a way that your sister will understand. I think if she is at least 5 she will understand it well. My nephew was 5 when his grandmother (my mother) was in the hospice dying from breast cancer, and he had a number of questions, some difficult or impossible to answer (like "Why do people die?"), but he clearly understood what was going on.
Either way your sister will find out, and it will be very sad, so it is better to tell her now and give her some time to prepare for it.
2007-06-26 17:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by Alan S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is support your grandmother and sister the best you can and seek a doctor if you cant cope.
2007-06-26 07:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by David K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how old ur sister is
2007-06-26 07:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by ♥idk my bff jill?♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋