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Last year, (more like a couple months ago), I wantyed to sign up for some AP classes for my junior year. My mother said no at first but she relluctantly signed the paper. A monthish later I told her about the summer work (because that was when it was assigned), she wanted to get me out of the classes.......I eventually got her to give it up and just deal with it.

It's summer and I'm taking a class to make up some credits. This course goes very fast and I have never seen the material before. I ask my mom if she could drop me off back at the school for tutoring ( I can't stay at school after my class is over).

She says," No I'm not making 3 trips to the school. If you fail you might as well take it when school is back in."

This depresses me.

Why does she not care about my education?

Why must I put my life to the side because it's not convienent for her?

2007-06-26 06:53:49 · 13 answers · asked by Roxxi 6 in Family & Relationships Family

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Most library websites have links to online tutorial assistance and that can be great option for you get the help you need and eliminate the commute issue.

I disagree with the posts that your Mom is jealous, does not care etc. Being a parent, handling responsibilities, taking care of the kids, running errands, taking kids to and from school, activities, doing laundry, cleaning the house, grocery shopping, cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner, paying the bills, and managing a household is difficult. It is especially difficult when it is a thankless job.

It is great that you have the drive to succeed but you could also try being more considerate and understanding of your Mom. Instead of asking why must I put my life to the side because it's not convenient for her? Ask why does she put her life to the side for me? Who knows -- you may want to give her a hug and say thank you.

2007-07-02 15:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

She might be stressed by things and yes, it does bother her to make three trips to school. She may care about your education but she doesn't appreciate how good AP classes are for you. She probably thinks they aren't absolutely necessary and she's right, they aren't.
If you had a similar situation with cheerleading, she'd probably say she doesn't want to drive you to school 3 times a day for that too!
Can you take a bus? Just asking. Can you get a study buddy? Summer classes do go pretty fast so maybe you could drop some other activity and just adjust to the intensity of the AP classes. You're with other people in the class who are seeing the material for the first time too. It is daunting.
I don't know what the classes are but one big help is to spend some time on the web looking for tutorials of the subject you're studying. Do a google search for 'trigonometry tutorial' and you'll see what I mean. Then you just have to spend a lot of time on the subject - there are no shortcuts there; it is just more time when a class moves fast and there's a lot of material.

2007-07-02 01:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0 0

Is there a way to take a bus? Or get a ride from someone in the class?

If you are not driving yet, or do not have your own car, I can see why it may be difficult for her to change her schedule for your needs.

It is not that she doesnt think your education is important I am sure, it may be that she is just getting pulled in many directions and this was a commitment you made, not her.

I would try and find alternative transportation, at least some of the time.

Good LUCK!

2007-07-04 00:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by everywhere63 1 · 0 0

Lots of possible reasons, here. Is your mother well educated? Perhaps she is jealous of your ambition or your intelligence. Maybe she really is terribly busy with her own career or obligations. Perhaps she's concerned about the expense or the time of all the extra trips. I'd try to sit down with her and have a serious (NOT argumentative) conversation about this subject.

Bravo to you for wanting to improve your own education and your own mind. Start using that mind to find other ways to get to these classes. Perhaps one or more of your classmates could get a carpool going. Or maybe you could take a bus. Perhaps the teacher would be willing to work with you on which materials you could borrow to take home or with some creative scheduling ideas. Teachers *love* kids who make the extra effort to make the class really work for them.

Good luck, and stick with your goals!!!

2007-06-26 14:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by tanibk 3 · 0 0

Set this aside---she is not in your world of competition right now.
This is not her fault, she is handling the responsibility of a family, and has no energy left.
You will have to motivate yourself, and work around this.
The best thing is that YOU are aware of how critical things are at this point in your life---you are at a crossroads every day, that will lead up or down.

You know now you will not be living in your parents' world--their skills will be obsolete, and their assumptions will be obsolete. It's not their fault.
But you will have to pick and choose to form your own life the way you want it. This takes a lot of guts and committment, and faith in the future, and faith in your own ideas.
You realize you're not going to get "career & education" advice from your MOM, so don't expect it anymore.

Look hard at your alternatives for your goals (getting through the summer school class)---learn to solve problems relating to those goals, because you are going to be doing this for the rest of your life. You don't need to be perfect but you certainly aren't destined to fail anything.
Work towards your goal->
---concentrate totally on the class while you're there, ask questions, take careful notes, keep asking for help.
---figure out public transportation to get to the school you need, when you need to get there. Get the fare, find the route, and read the local bus system's maps. Ask the other students how they get there. Most cities have bus routes to ALL public schools.
---when you're at home, take responsibility for your studying. Eliminate distractions, get your chores done first, and gather your book, notes, and study.

Many parents-siblings-relatives simply do not understand that school takes a lot of work, and time. To succeed in it, you must be very SELFISH, and keep to your goals.

2007-06-26 14:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0 0

wow honey, I am so sorry your mother is not more supportive of you and your education. But good for you that you seem to be on the right track. It's hard to do that when the person (your mother)is supposed to be your "biggest fan" but for your own future, you have to ignore it and do what's best for YOU. Can you find a ride or maybe take the bus or walk? Or maybe hang out somewhere nearby the school and go back for tutoring?? Sorry again, and good luck!

2007-06-26 14:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by Julia 2 · 0 0

do you have a friend that drives ? maybe you could get them to give you a ride or something along those lines . although I cannot imagine a mother not wanting to do this for her child. I mean honestly you are trying to better your education . she might come around eventually. Just see if you can get another ride from someone else untill then. good luck .

2007-06-26 14:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0 0

Can you carpool with a friend or ride a bike? Ask if there is a tutor who can come to your home. Can you do any online work or get help that way? Good luck.

2007-07-03 11:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by realbohemian 4 · 0 0

Maybe she just wants you to slow down and enjoy your high school years ( they do go by fast) you'll have plenty of time to make up credits and go to college later on!!! You should be enjoying high school and going to parties and such. Good Luck.

2007-07-03 00:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by Mija 1 · 0 0

I dunno, but I wish for you that you'd find another way to make your plans succeed.
Start figuring how to accomplish things without mom's involvement, even tho' it'd be great if you could depend on her to help you out in some regular ways.
Best wishes and keep your chin up. When you do succeed, reward yourself for your hard work and perserverance, you deserve that much.

2007-06-26 13:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0 0

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