How do two fathers give you away?

Question

I am getting married this weekend and I have my father and my stepfather walking me down the aisle....I need to know when the minister asks who gives this woman to this man...should they both say "we do" or what...how would I include my mother and stepmother in this

Answer 1

You can have them each speak. Your father first w/ "her step mother and I do"

And then your stepfather say, " her mother and I do"

"we do" is good too

walk down the aisle with one on each side.


BTW, I've seen this done before at weddings. I think it's very sweet. Especially if you're step father is the person you have lived with for so many years. If your stepfather been in your life 20+ years. He helped raise you just as much as your real father did.

Answer 2

After you get down the aisle have your stepfather stand next to your mother and your father next to his wife and when the minister ask have them all reply "we do" assuming they are sitting close probably the first two rows on the brides side and they obviously get along if both are walking you down the aisle this would include everyone

Answer 3

traditionally the mother isn't included in this, but if you want both dads, you can just have them on either side and "we do" will be fine.... but this is the reason for a rehearsal.... the night before, you do a walk through and clear any confusion up about who says and does what. I'm sure the minister or planner can help you figure out a way that will make everyone happy

Answer 4

Congrats,they both should answer. On your mother and stepmother, they really aren't included, but maybe you could make a day with just the three of you. Weddings are actullay about the BRIDE and Groom and of course the only real man in very litlle girls life her father in your case you have two....
Good Luck

Answer 5

Tell your minister not to ask the question that way. You are not being given away, it's your decision. You can have them both walk you down the aisle, but then have them shake hands with the groom and sit down.

Answer 6

An alternative to the minister asking that question would be to have them walk you down the aisle, and then have them go take a seat and have the minister ask your family to stand and ask them if they will accept your fiance as a member of their family, and then have the groom's parents stand and have the minister ask them if they will accept you into their family. Its really sweet!

Answer 7

A friend of mine had the same situation and the father and step father were supposed to say "We do" but instead at the wedding they each pointed to the other and said loudly, "HE DOES!" It broke the tension and everyone laughed. The day was great and it was a very minor detail but definitely a cute memory of the ceremony. She was lucky because her step father and her dad are civil and there's no real worries about them getting along or saying the wrong thing.

Answer 8

Your biological father should give you away. Unless there is a rift between you and him, or him and your stepdad. But you said both were walking you down the isle, that is wonderful. Your real father should answer the Minister when he ask the question. Good Luck and I hope you have a Wonderful and Happy life together.
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Answer 9

I dont see why they both cant do it. When the minister asks they can both say "we do." You mother and stepmother dont need to be involved in giving you away.

Answer 10

This is YOUR wedding. You can do it anyway you want. When my mother got married 15 years ago, he father was dead, so she had my brother and me give her away. We walked her down the aisle and we both answered we do to who gives this woman away.