i had a recent boyfriend, he wasnt exactly great at sex, it diddnt really bother me at first i enjoyed his company, but in the end i had to get rid of him i couldnt cope!!!!
AM I SHALLOW??????
2007-06-26 06:25:33 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i had a recent boyfriend, he wasnt exactly great at sex, it diddnt really bother me at first i enjoyed his company, but in the end i had to get rid of him i couldnt cope!!!!
AM I SHALLOW??????
may i just say that he was obsessed with porn, like disgustingly obsessed
he was annoying, selfish and boring
it wasnt just the fact he was bad in bed!!!
2007-06-26 06:34:46 · update #1
may i just say that he was obsessed with porn, like disgustingly obsessed
he was annoying, selfish and boring
it wasnt just the fact he was bad in bed!!!
2007-06-26 06:35:08 · update #2
may i just say that he was obsessed with porn, like disgustingly obsessed
he was annoying, selfish and boring
it wasnt just the fact he was bad in bed!!!
2007-06-26 06:35:23 · update #3
Of course you are not shallow!!! If you meet someone who is not compatible with you, why would it make you shallow to not want to be with that person?
You said it yourself... he's bad in bed, loves disgusting porn, is selfish and borish... who'd want to be with a man like that?
2007-06-26 06:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No why is it? Sex represents a big part of a good relationship. Come on why do you think people actually bother to have a relationship? 4 100%, companionship, constant moaning, serving another, loving, security? Oh give over. But remember it takes 2 to tango, so if your not letting yourself be 3 or relaxed with another then good sex is not going to come. (bar the pun.) Gd luck 4 the future but the correct choice I would say! :)
2007-06-26 06:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by A . Z . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why communication is paramount in any relationship. If he's great in other aspects, you owed it to the both of you to talk to him about his sexual prowess, or his lack thereof. You can't fault him for the end of the relationship, you were the one who didn't say anything.
I wouldn't say you were being shallow. I'd say you were being a coward. Sorry, but that's what I see.
Next time, TELL the guy..."I like to be touched here." "I love it when you kiss me there." "Oh that's great! RIGHT THERE!!!" Don't be afraid to be vocal. Who wants to suffer through bad sex when all you have to do is tell him what's good and bad? Men are not mindreaders, nor do they have a map to the woman's body...that's where you come in.
Good luck on the next one!
2007-06-26 06:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Beckie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of situations like this. Your not shallow and you shouldnt feel badly. You just should have handled it a bit better. As hard as it it may have been you could have tried to change his technique a bit over a long period of time. Adjust subtle things a little at a time. You could have lost out on a really good lover if you had only taken the time to cultivate it.
2007-06-26 06:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by Devdude 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. You would have been if you really liked everything else about him and it was your first time together, because you can teach him how to improve his "performance" But after reading your full question I can only guess you've done it more than once, and if he's bad at it, well, what's the point in going on? Relationships are not only about sex, but it is very important, especially at the first stages. If you don't enjoy sex with him the first months/years, what can you expect if you last in the future????
2007-06-26 06:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by Gabi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe sex/sexual attraction is 20% of a relationship. Its important but not EVERYTHING... Did you give hime pointers? Did you help him out? Did you take "control" of the situation and say "Lets try this!"... If you weren't proactive, then yeah, I'd say you where shallow... If you did try and he didn't try in return, then no... you aren't shallow. Most men are willing to take any and all advice sexually from thier partner. We all know that if someone enjoys the sexual encounter, they're bound to want more. So men, thinking with the wrong head, will do just about anything for return business...
2007-06-26 06:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by Amazon Woman 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you admit that good sex is important to you is very refreshing. It's important to me too and that's why I try my best to never leave a woman unsatisfied. maybe he didn't take his time with you or was unwilling to think past his own pleasure which makes him shallow. I think you should be able to expect satisfaction. It's likely he was satisfied every time and yet expected you to just go along for the ride with no benefit. your not shallow just honest. I wouldn't stay with a a girl who was bad in bed.
2007-06-26 06:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it takes two to have great sex, so maybe you were lacking on your part as well, beside sex isn't all that makes a relationship, I have had a lot of g/f that were poor at sex but the made up for it in other areas and the sex got better over time!
2007-06-26 06:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tactical Medic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not try to talk to him or work things out in bed, no one is really bad in bed, so long as they make effort to satisfy each other...sex is a relationship, its two-way, and not just one satisfying himself or herself. (otherwise just jerk).
Seriously, talk to him or communicate sweetly (or teach him while you are doing it). But if this is the only reason why you want to dump him, then, you may be shallow. But leave if you want, your sexual desires cant burn enough with this guy, you might end up cheating.
2007-06-26 06:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by bounce_00 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, some people just don't have sex well together. They just don't fit right. You should have helped him get better like show him what to do. But sex is a very important part of a relationship. You deserve to have good sex.
2007-06-26 06:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋